Should a mother allow her 13 yr old child to smoke cigarettes or weed and displa

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  1. "Clouds Among Us" profile image67
    "Clouds Among Us"posted 12 years ago

    Should a mother allow her 13 yr old child to smoke cigarettes or weed and display a tattoo?

    Some mothers nowadays just don't want their kids to remain kids. They openly let their children smoke and drink as if it was meant for them to do. I
    s this a fine line in the desert for you?

  2. Mikeydoes profile image46
    Mikeydoesposted 12 years ago

    If the kid has a job and money to pay for cigarettes, then I say sure. It is a waste, but it shows that the kid is motivated to work for stuff. I strongly dislike smoking, but if people do it, it doesn't bother me. Kids smoke and there is nothing parents can do about it at times. Every single one of my friends' parents is a great parent, but all of their kids started smoking cigarettes at 11 or 12. The parents didn't have a clue, I was the only one smart enough to stay away from it out of 12 of my good friends.

    My dad smoked when he was 13 all the way to 30. He is now 53, many people think hes in his early 40s. He is in great shape and has a beautiful wife who still smokes at 52. It stinks really bad and it sucks that they smoke, but it's their life, money, and lungs.

    But ultimately I'd have to say absolutely not a parent should do everything in their power to prevent those 3 things from happening.

  3. jdomingo profile image60
    jdomingoposted 12 years ago

    No I don't think that they should I know that if I had children I would not 'openly' do those type of things in front of me.  Now regardless that they will be exposed to and may do it behind my back I know that I would not allow it openly.

  4. LIFE IS ABOUT profile image61
    LIFE IS ABOUTposted 12 years ago

    absolutely not, a child of thirteen has not developed the part of the brain that involves concequinces of there actions. thats not to say that they are not smart or have a good head on their shoulders but these things have far reaching effects.

  5. cblack profile image57
    cblackposted 12 years ago

    No they shouldn't. I think my mom gave up when I was about 16 and I wish she hadn't.

  6. Flightkeeper profile image67
    Flightkeeperposted 12 years ago

    I think  that kind of Mom is irresponsible and neglectful and doesn't give their kids any discipline.  Those kids are going to be unhappy.  No, at 13 they shouldn't be smoking cigarettes or weed or even have a tat.

  7. Squidmom profile image61
    Squidmomposted 12 years ago

    No way. The tat especailly worries me. No tattoo studio would ever tattoo a 13 yr old. And if it's been done by a friend or friend of a friend how can you ensure sanitary issues?!! That's really scary and possibly life threatening!

    1. Kole Garrett profile image55
      Kole Garrettposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      giving yourself a tattoo is very easy to keep sanitary as long as your not reusing things

  8. profile image0
    edueckposted 12 years ago

    NO I would say NO but then again I smoke and I have been smoking for 30 plus  years. Is it fun and cool NO IT'S STUPID AND DUMB but I have been smoking for so long that I'm having a hard time to quit.

    Like most young kids I tried weed but I didn't like it so that was never my problem.  I had a hard time with booze yup not good either now that I'm OLDER and WISER.  I find all the cool things I did then are my down fall.  I, like so many kids I ran with the wrong crowd.

    Now I sit here thinking how I wasted my youth trying to be cool. I was lucky some of my friends were not they are I'm sorry to say 6 feet under.
    What I see now at thirteen kids are having kids when they should be playing  with barbies or cars and trucks in the sand box. Or ride their bikes so no don't  smoke or do pot or what ever other drugs there are. But then I can't understand the use of  drugs anyway.

    That is my thoughts on the matter I can't control peoples lives but I wish they would just think a bit.

    1. "Clouds Among Us" profile image67
      "Clouds Among Us"posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      to bad we learn this when it's our turn to either face our maker or face hard time..It's better you did before you did both..!

  9. SmartAndFun profile image95
    SmartAndFunposted 12 years ago

    Ummmm.... NO! Absolutely not! Why in the world would anyone ALLOW their kid to do such things? It is shamefully bad parenting, There are laws to protect kids from parents who allow these behaviors.

  10. profile image53
    ksleeposted 12 years ago

    No, 13 year olds don't make decisions based upon rationale thought......

  11. Sun Pen 50 profile image60
    Sun Pen 50posted 12 years ago

    NO! I never did allow my daughters. but when my younger daughter likes the tatoos (exactly when she was 13) I got body stickers for her and we enjoyed only at home.

  12. mommyneal6 profile image72
    mommyneal6posted 12 years ago

    I would not allow my child to do those things at 13 years of age. If I caught my kid smoking at 13, I would make them smoke a pack of cigarttes in front of me until they vomited. Trust me it works! Smoking weed, I will take them to my local jail and show them what happens when people are caught smoking or having pot on them. As far as a tattoo goes, well that's a forever thing and I would go after the person who did the tattoo with the legal system. If a mother allows, supports, or signs, for any of these things, I don't think it's the kid you should be worried about, it's the mother.

  13. profile image0
    SilentSmile08posted 12 years ago

    i think of myself very lucky with the mother i have who brought me up and shared an open mind and heart about everything . she was blunt to the point and i love her for it. But at 13 i don't want my kid to  go around smoking, though i was a smoker when i was fifteen up till my 20th  birthday .  its not easy to quit once you start. as for the weed situation i never did drugs never, though if u knew me and  some of the ppl i go around you would think i do soemthing but i dont. So the new thing is weeds ok it doesnt harm you , but i personally think its a gate way to other drugs , i lost three friends to drugs. they all started off the same way trying a nothing drug like Weed and ending up into  stuff that cant seem to stop using. i dont want my kids to do drugs if i ever have any. but im not super woman . shits gonna happen. and i can only hope i can stop it from killing or hurting them.  as for tattoos eighteeen and thats my only say in the matter ok so i too at a young age was in love with tats. But didnt get one unitl i was 18.  now i have 6, im all for them as long as they are 18 ..

    1. "Clouds Among Us" profile image67
      "Clouds Among Us"posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Having tats at a young age - even at the age of eighteen can be detrimental - try going to get a job and the employer is asking you why are you all covered up...not a positive thing to want to go thru..

  14. hotnewmama profile image59
    hotnewmamaposted 12 years ago

    ..ahh no, no and no!

    Children are under the care of parents because they are minors! They dont have the maturity and sense yet to know what is best for them. It may seem 'cool' to them at the time but when they get older they will regret it. I think it would be incredibly irresponsible for a parent to allow smoking, drinking or weed (not to mention illegal)

  15. profile image0
    BentleyMomposted 12 years ago

    No, at 13 you should still be a parent and as a parent a 13 is not a friend.

  16. thelyricwriter profile image84
    thelyricwriterposted 11 years ago

    Mothers that do this need help. Why would you want your own child doing this? It is getting bad though, I agree. If you do this, you need your head smacked in a few times.

  17. shwetha123 profile image60
    shwetha123posted 11 years ago

    No a mother will never allow her child to smoke or drink irrespective of her child is just 13 yrs old or 30yrs old. Not only mother even a father will never allow this too.

    Making a tattoo is some thing different in which you are not going to addicted and it is not bad for your health. So in my opinion may be parents allow their kid for tattoo but for smoke or drink they will never ever allow them

  18. xethonxq profile image68
    xethonxqposted 11 years ago

    Are you flippin' kidding me? No way!! I think a mother who would do this needs some parent education classes...or supervision herself.

    I work with at risk kids and have found over the course of my 21 years in this career that parents who set poor limits, have a lack of structure for their child, and provide limited  or no supervision result in having children with all sorts of mental health and legal problems. It's frustrating beyond belief until I spend time finding out about how the parents were raised themselves. A wicked, vicious cycle indeed.

  19. fpherj48 profile image61
    fpherj48posted 11 years ago

    Clouds Among Us......You're KIDDING, right?  This cannot be a serious question!
    Cigarettes.....weed....tattoos??  at T H I R T E E N ?????????!!!!!
    I don't know WHO these mothers are, that you know....or WHERE they are from......but my friendly advice to you is to maybe report these ignorant, lazy, poor excuses for parents CPS.   What kind of Morons are they?

    1. "Clouds Among Us" profile image67
      "Clouds Among Us"posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      This is the type of society we are faced with nowadays – especially with the mother who had her six year old child sun-tanning right alongside her - and how they congratulated the mother by providing her with her own doll to sell.


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