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If one of your parents were negative all the time or bitter, how would you deal

  1. eddiecarrara profile image95
    eddiecarraraposted 7 years ago

    If one of your parents were negative all the time or bitter, how would you deal with this situation?

    It is a known fact that negativity breeds negativity and we should avoid being around people who have this type of personality, but what if it is one of your parents?  Would you avoid seeing them completely or would you take them in small doses?

  2. wychic profile image91
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I have had this issue for most of my life. My parents divorced when I was 10, and ever since then it's been a bit touchy. For years, all my dad could talk about was how horrible my mom is, so I finally completely cut off contact for a few years. Unfortunately, not long after getting back into contact with him, he turned that venom on me. Needless to say, an indefinite non-contact policy is in effect now.

    My mom, on the other hand, isn't malevolent with her negativity, she's just patently aware of her age and is bitterly disappointed with where her life has gone. With her it's small doses, no more than an hour or two at a time usually, but I still see her fairly frequently.

  3. moonfairy profile image81
    moonfairyposted 7 years ago

    I did both. At first I walked away and then a wise man encouraged me to make amends...so now I take it in small doses. The good news is the doses are so small that the negativity rarely rears its ugly head, but when it does, I pretend dinner is ready=)

  4. cobrien profile image74
    cobrienposted 7 years ago

    I would be straight up with him/her. I would limit my time with that parent and tell him/her why. Your parent chooses to be negative.

 
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