What did you think about motherhood before having children and what do you think now?
Seriously, I loved being a mother even before I became one. We girls are always playing with babies and dolls before we even understand what it is to be a mother. I guess it is instinctive. However, the process of really being a mother prepares you for real bonding and there is nothing like it. If I loved and cared about people before I became a mother, after I became one, I could easily die for them! That is how motherhood changed me, I developed more compassion for other humans and especially for children, I just wanted to protect them. It is from this period that some of my most touching pieces about children come from.
Growing up, I always said I didn't want kids. I don't know if it was the fear of actually having a baby, or that I really thought as a child that I never wanted kids. So I didn't think about it growing up like a lot of girls. When I met my husband, that changed. I thought having and raising kids with him was a wonderful thing. I did all of the imagining that I assume girls do as they grow up about babies and family. That dreamy imaginary land where everything is happy all the time, and your kids fill you with joy and laughter. Four kids was the perfect number for some reason.
After I had my first two, and my oldest was more difficult than my imagination had assumed, I wasn't so sure about the four kids. We have three now, and contrary to what I believed at one time, three is the perfect number for us. They do bring me all of the joy and laughter I imagined they would, and love beyond anything I could have imagined possible. It's not always perfect like I'd imagined it to be, but there isn't anything else I would trade the experience of parenthood for.
I always knew I would be a mother. Society tends to equate such a title with being a wife, yet I don't feel the 2 go hand in hand. At least for me.
What a refreshing question!
Once, as a little girl, tired of living on the farm, and the chores that it demanded....... I dared to dream.
I daydreamed..............if ever, I get grown, I am NOT going to make the
bed, before having the chance to tinkle in the morning. I am NOT going
to get up and cook bacon, eggs, oatmeal, toast, waffles, sausage, gravy,
biscuits and grits,........just because 'somebody' might want them.
How, I dreamed of fleeing the drudergy of living.
No, I would have a shiny diamond ring on my left finger, and it would
sparkle in the sunlight, as I held my diapered babe! This brilliant reflection
I am somebody's wife
I am somebody's mother
I am important
I am above the chores of living
I was so very young and ignorant!
That ring ( a simple white gold band) and those diapers,........they MEAN adulthood and responsibility! I do make my bed, because it makes my home
appear more presentable, and yes, because, my hubby likes a well made bed.
I was so young....when I dared to dream of adulthood.
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