I do my best to try to call my Mom every day and have a good visit. While our situation is unique (she's 103.5) none of us really know when we might be speaking to our mothers for the last time. If there are things to be resolved, resolve them while you can. If you had a great mom who loved you with a unique mother's love, tell her so. It doesn't take time from your day, it adds time to both your lives and makes both lives more satisfying.
Every night after getting her situated into bed. Since my dad passed away, over a year ago, my mom moved into my home.
Two days ago. I always express my feelings to my loved ones when possible. It is good to show love as the one who receives it would feel valued.
I tell her that all the time, she's only a block away from me. I see her at least once a week and talk with her on the phone at least twice a week. You only have one mother, you should treasure her presence.
Probably the day before she died. I was 15 and she was in the hospital with cancer. My aunt and uncle too me to see her every night. It was quite a drive from our beach town to downtown Los Angeles. But before I left her every night, I told her I loved her. And I sure did more than anything in the world.
I am so lucky and blessed my Mum tells me she loves me at least twice a day every day. The last time was on the telephone as she left for a holiday with my Dad two days ago, missing her already.
I talk to my mother every night on the phone. We live many miles apart. I know it's an oxymoron, but moving far away actually brought up closer. I tell her I love her every day; I just wish I could see her every day instead of a few times a year.
Five minutes before she died. Nine years, 1 month and 15 days ago.
I always tell my mother I love her, including everytime we speak on the phone. My mother is 84 years old and underwent open-heart, bypass surgery this past year. I stayed with her in ICU while she was in recovery. It was terrifying, as my mom developed, what the ICU nurses termed "pump head", which is a reaction to the time on the bypass machine. She thought she was at home and I had to keep telling her that she could not get out of bed as she was catherized. She would say o.k. and 2 seconds later tell me she was going to the bathroom to brush her teeth. She kept asking me why her home looked so different. As nightfall came and the lighting in the room changed, this side effect (known as "sundowners) became more pronounced. This effect can remain permanent. Since my mother is a very private person and would not do well in assisted living, I was grateful that she regained normalcy and is able to continue living independently within her own home. My father's sudden death, nine years ago, traumatized my mother, and she remains stressed, lonely for him and has lost any joy in life.
I would love to live with my mother, who owns a home, as I could do all the things that she no longer can, but continues to stress her. However, she seems to prefer living alone. I have a beloved Scottish Terrier, who is my loyal companion. My mom says she doesn't want the dog living in her home. SInce it is HER home, and I am unwilling to discard the one living being that has "been there" for me through thick and thin, I do the best I can. I was a victim of the economy and was laid off on May 20, 2010, two weeks after finalizing a divorce. I was in the process of moving into an apt and suddenly had not a friend in sight to help me. The fact that my dog "needed me", ultimately, saved me.
I love my mother and will always abide by her wishes. Since she is blessed to remain independent and wishes to live alone, I help her in every way she needs and allows.
Ten years ago.....just before she died. If you still have your mother, in your life, don't waste the opportunity you still have. I can assure you that after she is gone you would give anything to tell her "l love you" one more time.
Last week... I grow up without saying 'I love you' to her, our family are not very vocal in expressing our feelings but now that I am a mom myself - I tell my mother 'I love you' every-time I call her because I know she would want to hear that. (I want to hear that from my baby too)
When my mom was in the hospital, after she fell and had brain surgery, my youngest daughter and I were praying over her bed and reading scripture to her, and I kept telling her how much I loved her. After her surgery, she was with us only 2 more weeks and then she went home to be with Jesus.
I told my mom every day that I loved her....and I will tell her in person when God calls me home to heaven.
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