Were your parents super protective when you were young?

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   GDiBiaseposted 12 years ago

   Were your parents super protective when you were young?

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   Moon Daisyposted 12 years ago

   Yes they were.  I wasn't allowed to do a lot of the things that my friends were, and I resented it.  Now I'm a parent I can kind of see where my parents were coming from, but hope that I'll manage to take a more balanced stance when my child is older!

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      GDiBiaseposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Moon,
      It seems only after we are moms can we see the decisions of our parents might have been only to protect us.

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   By His Wayposted 12 years ago

   In college, I had to go home on the weekends to work. I had a curfew while home.....and I complied. Protective/Strict/Whichever. You get the picture.

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   BecauseIloveyouposted 12 years ago

   I grew up atheist and my parents philosophy was :"You can do anything you want as long as you don't hurt yourself and anybody else". Boy, how ignorant that was!
   I nothing BUT hurt myself and others all my life until I committed my life to God. He almost immediately took care of my hurts and was protecting me as a Heavenly father would.
   We can't expect our children to not be sheltered and grow up normal: Nature tells us, if we plant a seed (children), we need to protect, nurture , shelter it until the seedling are mature enough to withstand the climate. Animals know it, but most people have departed from God and are too ignorant and selfish to understand they have a responsibility. Our culture really stinks, because parents delegate the care of their children to "experts", who do not love the children the way a parent loves. They just are educated in their  "expertise" and have no clue about children's individualities, their uniqueness and purpose of life. But God does! Children are no accidents. What kind of accident has such specific DNA, chromosomes and development?

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      Sold Out to Jesusposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That is about the same here. My parents were agnostic/humanistic. As a little girl I remember asking my mom if God was real she said I cant tell you cause I don't know myself. I guess at least she was honest.

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   Raptorcatposted 12 years ago

   Not really.  My Mom worried a bit when I went off to Basic training and again when I got shipped overseas, so when I started riding motorcycles, I didn't tell her until after I got out of the service.
   
   By then she really couldn't say much about it, after all that I had already done in the Army.
   
   My Dad has always been pretty relaxed about things and spent a lot of time teaching me about how to not take serious risks when doing risky things, so he always had confidence that I would learn from my mistakes and that I would limit those mistakes as much as possible.

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      BecauseIloveyouposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Your comment shows me, you are taking the cares of your parents for granted, do you not? See my comment below. In my opinion it is wonderful to have parents who protect and care. Do you have children?

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with BecauseIloveyou, be glad to have parents who love and protect you.  There are many parents out there who do not give a ......................about  their children.   That is why many children seek attention elsewhere-at their own peril!

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   dj23posted 12 years ago

   yes, they all have their eyes on me when i was young. telling things that i must do and not. specially this " don't talk to strangers or people you don't know" lol,

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   Sold Out to Jesusposted 12 years ago

   No, not really. There are times when I look back and think we could have been killed. My mom had terrible anxiety problems and vegged out on the couch watching soaps while we destroyed everything, ran the streets, and got into mischief. My father worked a lot and drank out a lot. He was the authority, but wasn't around info regularly to make an impact. I am the exact opposite, but not overbearing. Times are different now from when I was young. I try to keep the kids in my sight as much as possible.

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   JJ Pascoeposted 12 years ago

   Definitely! In fact, I wasn't allowed out alone at all until I was 13. Seriously, I mean I was still walked to school, I wasn't allowed to play out with friends or go to their houses or anything without being escorted. My mum even chaperoned school trips! If I went out into the back garden, I had to stay in sight of the window, and if I went upstairs, you could guarantee someone would be calling me to find out what I was doing within 5 minutes.
   When I was 13, I explained my frustrations to one of my teachers, who had a word with my family. Suddenly I was allowed to do everything my friends were after that.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      What caused your parents to be overprotective of you?  Were you a sickly infant/child?  Did you grow up in a dangerous neighbrhood?  There must be some viable reasons why your parents were overprotected of and quite vigilant towards you?

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      JJ Pascoeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      They had stopped my Dad from having any contact with me, so felt like they had to permanently guard me to make sure he didn't get any opportunity to see me. Apparently, it was all in my best interests, but I've yet to discover how.

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