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How hard is it for a mother to have a family dinner with the whole intended fami

  1. JNedele profile image71
    JNedeleposted 5 years ago

    How hard is it for a mother to have a family dinner with the whole intended family present?

    A mother just spent 1.5 hours making a wonderful dinner and had it ready on the table to eat.  The first phone call was her daughter saying she is studying with her best friend for a test tomorrow.  The next phone call was her son saying there is an additional practice the coach wants to hold before the game this weekend.  The last phone call was her husband saying his boss needs the report on his desk by eight o'clock tonight, but he hasn't even started on it.  It seems that we are all too busy for family time.  Do you agree?


  2. GoodLady profile image94
    GoodLadyposted 5 years ago

    It's getting harder and harder to have a family meal, but always worth trying to have one.
    It's best to put a cheery face on the disappointment, try again, and again and always keep that cheery face. 
    (Word of warning). It mustn't feel like an obligation, but a great choice for everyone.

    If they can't come to you, then suggest you go to them sometime.  You put the effort into making the move- and keeping cheer.

    It gets harder.  We have to learn how to play by new rules! Good Luck.

    1. JNedele profile image71
      JNedeleposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you, Goodlady, Ill take your advice and just keep trying.  I love my family, but with such busy lives, im concerned about them losing site of what is really important.

    2. GoodLady profile image94
      GoodLadyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      They won't if you don't, promise.  All the best.

  3. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    It was never hard for my mother. The kids had to ask permission to miss dinner. If you wanted to miss dinner, you needed to tell mom that you wouldn't be there and ask if that was ok. If she said no, then you would be home for dinner or suffer.  Dinner time was family time. Only if you went off to college could you pass off going to dinner. Then during college you missed eating a meal with your family. So every time you were home, you made sure to eat with the family.

    1. JNedele profile image71
      JNedeleposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      From your description, I would say your mother is a force to be reckoned with.  She must be a wonderful person.  Count your blessings, because you probably have a close family due to your moms efforts

  4. rutley profile image73
    rutleyposted 5 years ago

    Sometimes that family time is aggravating too because there's always someone who doesn't like what you're having for dinner!  All the prep and it's eaten in five minutes and everyone retreats when it's time for the dishes!  Oh well, cereal it is!

  5. Sinea Pies profile image77
    Sinea Piesposted 5 years ago

    Family meals are some of that "glue that holds us together", so to speak. I would suggest, starting with your husband, deciding on a day per week that is off-limits when it comes to other plans. Usually a weekend meal works best but your family may have a better time.

    If, let's say, Sunday is the meal but your extended family is given to having big events on Sundays--birthday celebrations, baby & bridal showers, etc. then agree to have a family breakfast or brunch together  on those Sundays, instead. Gotta have a plan!

    1. JNedele profile image71
      JNedeleposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You are right.  Family is the glue that holds us all together.  I think a weekend dinner would provide a specific night to look forward too.  Thank you!

  6. btrbell profile image92
    btrbellposted 5 years ago

    Yes and no. Your question made me sad. It would frustrate me if that happened. To try to keep that from happening, I do several things. 1)I try to make a "date" with my family that we all make a big effort to keep. 2) I try to be flexible and not get angry or hurt if someone can't make it, we reschedule. 3) I grab the impromptu moments and RUN with them.
    Good luck! I hope you are able to carve out that much needed family time.

    1. JNedele profile image71
      JNedeleposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      A date is a great idea, btrbell!  Thankyou so much.  I will try to use this idea in conjunction with Goodladys comment from above.

  7. writinglover profile image87
    writingloverposted 5 years ago

    It's not hard for my mom. She doesn't make anyone come to a family dinner, considering everyone is spread across the country, although she would like them to come. One son isn't family oriented (to hers, at least) and the other works for FEMA and is expecting another child. Everyone has their own lives to live and they make time when they make time. She's understanding.

  8. sereseus profile image73
    sereseusposted 5 years ago

    Its always hard as it is a great task to gather up everyone.Everyone have different time for meals.So how can they have a dinner together?

  9. BSloan profile image74
    BSloanposted 5 years ago

    Since my husband and I got married 25 years ago, we have always had dinner together.  Once the kids came along we continued this tradition even if it means waiting until 9 or 10 o'clock at night.  We always eat dinner together.  It is the only time we are all together and get to catch up on each others daily life.   

    We also have Sunday breakfast out regardless of what other plans we have for the day.  It's only an hour of the day, but we're so use to it, we look forward to it every week.

    I would suggest the kids schedule their activities before or after dinner or on the weekends.  With new technology, homework can be done with friends via the internet and practices can be scheduled after school.  As for work, your husband can try to ask to do the work at home, but unfortunately with today's job situation, he may have to go with the flow in order to keep things stable at work.