Is it okay to wait until I am in my 30's to get married and start my family?

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  1. Aadom23 profile image57
    Aadom23posted 9 years ago

    Is it okay to wait until I am in my 30's to get married and start my family?

    As a 23 year old woman my friends think I am crazy because I don't want to get married and have children until I am in my 30's. What is the big deal about waiting until I am 30 the next stage of my life?

  2. sunilkunnoth2012 profile image56
    sunilkunnoth2012posted 9 years ago

    Absolutely nothing wrong with your decision.  By the time execute all your plans and achieve some money for a smooth life thereafter.  But it is safe to have children before you turn 35. Wish you a happy married life!

    1. Aadom23 profile image57
      Aadom23posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank You for your comment.

  3. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 9 years ago

    The decision to marry and have a family is a personal one and there is nothing wrong with waiting. Only you know if you are ready for that big step. I think your attitude is very healthy and you are doing what is best for you.

    I married when I was 19 and had my first child when I was 30. I never regretted waiting to have my kids later.  Everyone is different and it sounds like you have a good handle on what is best for you.

    1. Aadom23 profile image57
      Aadom23posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Its hard when you have friends and family telling you that its not a healthy decision. Thank you for your comment; i admire that even though you got married young you waited until you were ready to start having children.

  4. lburmaster profile image76
    lburmasterposted 9 years ago

    That isn't a bad idea. By that point you can be financially stable to give your children everything you wish. You can also enjoy your 20's and focus on your career. In case you aren't already, you also have plenty of time to get married until then.

    1. Aadom23 profile image57
      Aadom23posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That is my main focus, i want to be stable before i take the responsibility  of caring for another person. Thank you for your comment.

  5. Abby Campbell profile image78
    Abby Campbellposted 9 years ago

    If you're not ready, you're not ready. There is nothing wrong with that. If you get married at 30 or thereafter, you have plenty of time to start your family.

  6. livelifeworryfree profile image74
    livelifeworryfreeposted 9 years ago

    Your life is your life to live as you want to live.  You will not be happy if you don't live your own life as you see fit.
    I got married very young (19) and started a family within a year.  I'm an only child and had a burning desire for a house full of laughter and madness. I got that and then some.  If I had waited, although I would have had more money and time, I would have been sad, lonely and unsatisfied.
    Life is too short to spend one moment in regret and/or living a life that someone else envisions for you.  It's your life, your vision, live it as you dream it.  I hope it's -worryfree.

  7. LaKrissyJ profile image61
    LaKrissyJposted 9 years ago

    There is nothing wrong with your decision to wait until thirty to marry...after all it is your decision and if you feel as though 30 is the right age to become married then so be it. Myself personally married when I was 23, waiting was not an option for me. To each its own.

  8. gmwilliams profile image85
    gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

    I think that YOU'RE smart to do so.   The 20s are a time of lifestyle, relation, and career exploration.   It is also a time to complete one's education and decide what one really wants to be in life.   23 is too young to be married and have children.    Furthermore, when one reaches his/her 30s, he/she is finished with his/her education and has a substantial career.   He/she has hopefully sown his/her wild oats.   A person in his/her 30s is mature enough to enter into a committal relationship, whether it is marriage or another permanent relationship with no regrets and life experience.  He/she also has the financial stability that a career offers and can adequately afford to support his/her children.    He/she has also the emotional, mental, and psychological maturity to effective raise the child.    Pay your friends no attention or better yet, ditch those old friends and find new friends who have the same aspirations about life as you do.   You are still young so explore life options and save marriage until your 30s, preferably your middle to late 30s.


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