What are the TEN components of mature and conscientious parenting?

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   gmwilliamsposted 12 years ago

   What are the TEN components of mature and conscientious parenting?
   
   

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   teaches12345posted 12 years ago

   I love the photo you attached to the question, it is what inspires us to parent our children with love.  I don't know if I can list ten offhand, but I would certainly place role modeling excellence and loving unconditionally at the top.  Also, patience and a listening heart would come close behind.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your eloquent response.

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   Tashaonthetownposted 12 years ago

   Love unconditionally
   giving them freedom to make their own choices
   teaching them about being loyal, faithful and honest
   Growing up with faith is important
   Give them patience
   Education
   Stable environment to grow up in
   Teaching them that the most important thing in life is family and unity
   Discipline and structure
   Spending as much time as you can with them

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      CraftytotheCoreposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Beautifully written!

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   Sue Adamsposted 12 years ago

   
   
   All or most parents "love their children to bits". Love alone does not make you a good parent.
   
   The TEN components of mature and conscientious parenting are:
   
   1. Proof of Capability for TLC (tender loving care) with a House Plant
   Before even thinking of raising children, first see if you can keep a plant alive for a year in your home.
   
   2. Proof of Capability for TLC with a Pet
   Learn to look after a pup or a kitten until it reaches adulthood.
   
   3. Relationship / Marriage
   A couple should have spent at least three years living together before getting pregnant.
   
   4. Planned Births
   Parents must have a desire to have children. Children should not be "accidents".
   
   5. Money
   Parents must have sufficient means to look after children but not spoil them with material things instead of giving them time.
   
   6. Housing
   The home of a child must have enough space and decent living conditions.
   
   7. Health
   Prospective parents must be in good physical and mental health. No drug addicts or alcoholics qualify for raising children.
   
   8. A Clean Slate
   A history of convictions and a criminal record is not a good start for wanting to be a parent. Criminals' children often follow in their parents' foot steps.
   
   9. Give a Child Your Time
   At least one of the parents has to spend time looking after a young child and can therefore not be in a full-time job.
   
   10. Listening
   Listen to your child and try to understand its wishes, problems, and aspirations.
   
   I wrote a hub: Should Parents Have Mandatory License to Raise Children?

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Sue, I can always depend upon you for the SECOND BEST answer, you deserve an A!

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      BuffaloGal1960posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Fabulous answer.

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      Sue Adamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks gmwilliams,
      Many of the points listed above are actually requirements by adopting agencies. I seems that adopted children at least enjoy some degree of control for parenting. More so than so many unfortunate children born to natural parents.

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   ChristinSposted 12 years ago

   I think foremost encouraging individualism and not living vicariously through the child or using them as a status symbol. Let them grow up to be their own person.
   
   Don't be lackadaisical but don't be a helicopter parent either. Kids can't function as adults if they can't function as kids
   
   Don't overdo it with spoiling them, allow them to value and understand goals and working for those goals.
   
   Emphasize education - not just in the formal sense, but encouraging curiosity and a desire to know about the world outside of their backyard.
   
   Teach empathy for others and not judgment. We don't know the story of others without their experiences and it's easy to judge without all the facts.
   
   Teach them to value life, the environment and nature from an early age. Most of us have a huge disconnect from how the world around us works. When we value and understand it less, it's too easy to destroy it and once it's gone it's gone.
   
   Be the type of person you want them to become. You're the example they most follow. Never be violent, cruel or a liar - kids pick up bad habits and cycles can continue.
   
   Encourage their strengths, but don't ignore their weaknesses, teach them to work with and through them. We all have our personality weaknesses and flaws, they don't devalue our worth, but we have to work around them. Making excuses for ill-behaved kids or not following through with constructive discipline hurts them as they grow.
   
   Ok, that's not ten but it's all I got for right now Great question.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you, Christin. Excellent answer as usual.

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      BuffaloGal1960posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Great question, great answer!

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   BuffaloGal1960posted 12 years ago

   1. Faith values.
   2. Family values.
   3. Community values.
   4. Protection and safety.
   5. Unconditional love.
   6. How to set goals, reach them and make new ones.
   7. Respect themselves and others.
   8. Productive time, serving others, and hard work builds character.
   9. Honesty.
   10. How to choose friends, a mate and good influences.
   11.  Attitude is everything.
   12. Respect the earth. It's God gift.
   13. Failing doesn't mean you are a failure.
   14. Provision is more than monetary. It's quality time.
   15. Win your children's heart by encouraging their strengths and praising them because when you have to come down on them, they receive it better.
   16. The value of a dollar:  Those who do not work, do not deserve to eat - GOD.
   17. Don't rely on the government or anyone else to solve your problems.
   18. Be patriotic to your country, not your government - because they can be wrong.
   19. Sex education begins in the home.
   20. If you don't want an alcoholic for a spouse, don't go to a bar to meet your spouse.
   21.  Happiness comes from within and no one else is responsible for your happiness but you.
   22. You will not live at home when you are an adult.
   23. Your friends won't pay your bills when you are on your own.
   24. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
   25. Life isn't always fair but the rest of the time it sure is fun!

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   DDEposted 12 years ago

   love, understanding, communication, respect, learn together, be helpful, nurture  kids, motivate, and  always be have time for your child.

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   Sunkist123posted 11 years ago

   Not in any particular order:
   1.  Give your kids your time and attention,  it's the one thing they will benefit from the most;
   2.  When you bring a child into the world, you chose the responsibility, so don't complain when you have to make sacrifices for your kids' sake;
   3.  If your parents made mistakes, that's not an excuse for you to do the same thing;
   4.  Realize they are individual human beings, not extensions of yourself;
   5.  Prepare them for their own futures- both teaching them what they need to know, and to decide what they want to do with their lives;
   6.  Set good examples as much as possible;
   7.  Meet their needs-  take care of them when they're sick, provide meals, listen to them, etc.   
   8.  Let them know they can turn to you when they have concerns;
   9.  Do not let them associate with harmful people;
   10.  Accept them as they are- don't try to mold their personalities, etc., to accommodate yourself.

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      GOD, this answer/response is RIGHT ON THE MONEY. Couldn't have said it BETTER, myself. Another A answer!

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