Is it possible for a parent to stand in their child's way, how ?

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   loveofnightposted 11 years ago

   Is it possible for a parent to stand in their child's way, how ?
   
   

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   It is possible,  sometimes parents can be over protective and they fail to see their wrong in being in their child's way. Parents can stop their children from living without even knowing it as they look for their own needs and what they want for their children but not allow their children to do what makes them happy. Going out with friends having  a proper social life, often putting up barriers fro children, saying NO the constant NO is a problem in many cases. Too many boundaries causes issues.

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      loveofnightposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      i must admit that i am guilty of a few of these and the outcome is always gloomy.

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   Yes. For example, some parents believe their children were birthed for a single purpose. One family I know believes their son was made to be a professional sports player. Their son fell in love and left his sports dreams. They blame his wife after 15 years of wedded bliss.
   Many parents are good at guilt tripping their children, homeschool parents come to mind. There are quite a bit of motivated homeschool parents. If their children even attempt to go into "threatening" social groups, the children come running back to mom and dad because they are pouting. It's quite sad really. My own parents still continue this routine from time to time. My mother especially. She highly confused me in deciding a college major, getting married, and social groups. Luckily, I learned to ignore her, but I still recognize when she says something of value.

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      loveofnightposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      sometimes we have to know when to eat the meat and throw the bone away.

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   cjaroszposted 11 years ago

   Yes, in a lot of ways actually. It is more common than some people may think. Parents push their children in the direction they want them to go. They also, don't show support in what their children want.
   Even though many parents tell their children, they can be what they want if they just try. Many don't stand up to what they say.

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   gmwilliamsposted 11 years ago

   
   
   Of course! Many overprotective parents think that they are helping their children when in fact,they are hampering their children.Parents who are overprotective believe that their children are incapable of solving their own problems.They contend that as parents, it is their duty and/or obligation to solve as much as their children's problems as possible.They furthermore believe that it is their parental duty to make their children's lives as stress free and happy as possible. 
   
   Children must experience some amount of frustration in order to grow and learn how to endure the stresses of life.Children also must learn to do things for themselves in order to gain more independence and to feel a sense of self-confidence and self- assurance.This self-confidence and self-assurance comes from gradually mastering tasks and responsibilities in graduation.When parents do everything for their children, they take away this feeling of self-mastery in their children.Children of overprotective parents are oftentimes dependent and are not self-starters.They are also timid risk aversive children who are afraid to try new things because they believe that they are not capable of doing so.
   
   Chlidren of overprotective parents do not acquire the normal life skills,using independent judgement, and beng independent that children from more normative homes have.Overprotective parents severely infantilize their children as to make them more developmentally immature than their same age counterparts. Overprotective parents view the world and their environment as a dangerous place and they inculcate this premise unto their children.They believe that the only way that their children avoid danger is to be constantly under adult supervision, either theirs or another trusted adult.Even in safe neighborhoods,the child, even when age appropriate, is not allowed to be without adult company.
   
   Overprotective parents cannot be with their children 24/7/365.Since these children were not taught the prerequisite age appropriate life/survival skills, teachers oftentimes have to endure daunting tasks regarding supervision of such children.  Many teachers are aghast that they have to perform tasks for such children that they should be able to do for themselves i.e. tying their shoes and doing other elementary tasks.This dependent behavior continues into high school, college, and beyond. Such children are often failures in life.

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for selecting my answer.  It is greatly appreciated in kind!

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