I believe a girl that like bad boys, is unfit to have child custody in a divorce

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   peter565posted 10 years ago

   I believe a girl that like bad boys, is unfit to have child custody in a divorce, what do you think?
   
   If a girl date a bad boy, chances are, he is going to be abusive and the woman has a child, she would bring the child into this relationship. But too many girls in modern society, like dating bad boys, thinking dating a bad boy is exciting (don't know why, don't want to know why.) From a child welfare perspective, I don't believe these women are fit to have custody of children, because no child should grow up in an abusive household. I believe in these situation the custody should be award to the father (providing he ain't a bad boy) or the grand parents. What do you think?

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   Stina Caxeposted 10 years ago

   Well if by "bad boy" you specifically mean an abusive man, then yes I agree with you 100%.  Some people classify "bad boys" in other ways though.  For instance some people would see a man riding a motorcycle and say he is a bad boy.  People are stereotyped for all sorts of things so the term "bad boy" is a bit confusing to me.
   
   BUT... if you did mean the mother has a history of dating abusive men then you are right, that is a problem.  The sad thing is, most likely the mother is that way because she was brought up in an abusive environment herself.  I am not saying she shouldn't be able to have custody of her children, but obviously there is a pattern there and ithe situation needs to be considered and evaluated.

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      peter565posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      [For instance some people would see a man riding a motorcycle and say he is a bad boy] It is funny, motorcycle rider type guy should categorize as "cool guys" rather then "bad boys" funny

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   Rae-LeighDawnposted 10 years ago

   I don't believe there is such a thing as women who like "bad" men because I don't believe in bad men and bad women labeling.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I agree not many people want a "bad boy" or "bad girl". However some people clamor for a "challenge" when it comes to dating and relationships. They see "nice guy/girls" as being boring. For most people this is a youthful phase. Self-esteem rises!

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      peter565posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      But why they think dating bad boy are anti boring and if you can't find what u want in a relationship outside bad boy, won't it make more sense just don't date? Also, if u want excitement, why not date cool guys, a better choice then bad boys

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      Rae-LeighDawnposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      A desire to be grabbed and dipped into a whirlwind romance where men are always passionately kissing her and pushing trains out of the way to be near her

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      peter565, A lot of folks view "cool" and "bad" as being very similar. A "smooth player" type of guy who is NOT violent or verbally abusive is often placed in the "bad boy" category. He sweeps women off their feet & then breaks their hearts.

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      peter565posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      dasjomgscprpio: But there are a lot of people that qualified as cool, but don't fall to the category of bad boys.  E.g. a lot of people think Barack Obama, Will Smith and Tony Blare are cool.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   The definition of "bad boys" varies from person to person.
   Someone might call a guy who is a "player" or "playboy" a "bad boy". This would not be an abusive man but rather one who refuses to emotionally commit to having a monogamous relationship.
   He's never where he said he's going to be. Makes and breaks promises routinely. He always keeps a woman "reaching".
   Such a man poses no threat to children. In fact most guys who are classified as "bad boys" as adults usually are cheaters/liars or financial/emotional (users) of women. They are manipulators.
   They're not normally verbally/physically abusive. The "bad boy" entices women to bend over backwards to earn his attention/love.
   Naturally anyone who would place their child in a violent atmosphere should probably have their children removed.

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   C.V.Rajanposted 10 years ago

   You are a bit confusing. You say, a bad boy is abusive. You say many woman fall for bad boys. Do you think woman falling for bad boys are serene?
   
   Agreed. Boy is abusive. They have a child. You want the child not to be given to the girl's custody! Why? Why do you want to give the child to the custody of the bad boy?
   
   And you say "provided he ain't a bad boy". If he is not a bad boy (= good/ acceptable boy) then what prevents the couple live amicably together? Okay. There is problem between them and they break up. Why should the girl leave the child to the custody of the boy? She wants to escape responsibility? So, she is the bad girl?
   
   Then who is going to judge who is bad among the couple so that the better one should be given the charge of raising the baby?
   
   Ah! Confusions galore!

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