Why do people blame their parents for the problems in their lives?

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   Tristina Greenposted 7 years ago

   Why do people blame their parents for the problems in their lives?
   
   If your parents are the reason that you are struggling in life, if they have failed to teach you what you need to know to take of yourself, if they have not taught you the fundamentals of being a grown up, if they have not prepared you emotionally how to deal with life, if they have broken your spirit to the point where you do not trust anybody that is in a position to help you; are they not to blame for your problems?
   
   

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   tamarawilhiteposted 7 years ago

   It is easier than taking responsibility for improving your life but it prevents you from improving your life.

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      Tristina Greenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I like your answer. The question is not about me so I like your answer.

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   threekeysposted 7 years ago

   To me becoming a parent is huge resposnosibility that shouldn't be taken lightly. I bbelieve parenting doesn't stop at 18 or 21. It is a life long job.
   I believe as a parent it is your duty to prepare your child or children for the world.
   I know, each parent is still finding their way in life too. But, their knowledge, experiences and philosophies need to be shared with their child/children to guide and help them form their own values or philsophies, as they begin to make their way into the world outside the family unit. The parents should not adopt a sink or swim attitude even though it may have been done to them.
   The family unit strengthens, too, as each child copes well enough with their world and its challenges.
   The child will still need to help themselves to improve the quality of their life and just not give up. We all need a hand up at times and it needs to begin within the family. That is my personal opinion.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   Only in the beginning! Life is a (personal) journey!
   At some point you have the ability to (choose) what direction you want to go.
   You can (decide) you want more out of life for yourself.
   Friends are the (family) you choose. Success leaves clues!
   Find a mentor or someone who has done what you want and follow their recipe. Take initiative, be ambitious & determined.
   There are schools, books, Online courses and tons of "how to" information sources. It's up to you to choose your path.
   There are always people who had it "worse" and overcame their challenges. Learn about their inspiring lives.
   One does not officially become an adult until they're self-reliant and take responsibility for their own happiness in life.
   "Don't let your history keep you from your destiny."
   Anyone who indulges in the "blame game" and self-pity for (years) is behaving childishly.
   You have to (decide) to take the wheel.
   Don't be a "passenger" in your own life!

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   ionestevensposted 7 years ago

   I believe our parents are meant to guide us until we no longer need it. When we've reached the point of not relying on them as much, we can truly enjoy them as parents and as friends. I've never once blamed my parents for the problems I have in my life. My parents divorced after being married for 21 years. I was 16 when I moved out with my mom. For a while, I didn't socialize with my dad. But we all grow up and move on. We all change because the world is ever-changing. Now that I'm an adult, I see things much clearer and I have grown to understand that their failure to teach me how to be in a happy marriage, actually taught me what I don't want to repeat in mine. It all depends on the person and how they respond.

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   TheirBadMommyposted 7 years ago

   As someone who grew up in a family situation so messed up that I had to see 8 different therapists over my childhood, I can say that there is only a certain point in your life to where you can blame your life problems on your parents. At some point, you have to grow up and take charge of your life. You reach a point when you have to take responsibility for yourself. Blaming other people for your problems is just a way to stay a victim and to make excuses to avoid taking responsibility. When I became an adult and moved out of my parents' house at 18 I decided that everything that happened in my childhood wasn't going to control me, it wasn't going to hold me back or weigh me down. Yes, your past shapes who you are but there comes a point in your life when it isn't about what people do to you and how you let things affect you. You can't control what people say or do but you can control how you let it affect you.

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