Why do people blame others for their failures?

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   Kenna McHughposted 10 years ago

   Why do people blame others for their failures?

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   sheilamyersposted 10 years ago

   Sometimes it is another person who has set them up for failure. Most of the time though, I think people blame someone else so they don't have to admit they made a mistake. Unfortunately, that means they won't learn from the mistake and will probably end up making the same one again.

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   DeepThought258238posted 10 years ago

   Sometimes people are correct in that it may not be their fault for their failures. We live in an imperfect world were sometimes putting trust in others leaves us hurt. Sometimes we just become victims of unexpected events, inexperience, or not enough knowledge on a matter to make the right decision.
   
   However there are many times where really our own imperfections is what gets in the way. Perhaps we didn't exercise good judgment because of personal motives that may have influenced us. We didn't bother to seek council from a good source, or we didn't give the right people the benefit of the doubt and end up putting trust in the wrong crowd or person. So when this happens and a person perhaps may think too much of themselves they resort to blaming others. That's why this is a wise admonition "...not to think more of himself than it is necessary to think. but think so as to have a sound mind..." (Romans 12:3)

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   It's easier than taking responsibility for one's own failures because if they do that it means they'd have to "work" to (change themselves).
   Most people would rather attempt to change the world than to change themselves!
   Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse. In fact our lives are for the most part the end result of the (choices and decisions) {we} have made along the way.
   It's human nature to make mistakes from time to time. We may have said "yes" when we should have said "no" or vice versa.
   However to forget that we made a (choice) keeps us from becoming self-empowered.
   The only people we can control or change is ourselves. We can learn from (our) past mistakes. We can learn to make better choices for ourselves. However if our happiness in life is really dependent upon (others) then we will always be at (their) mercy.
   Taking responsibility actually empowers us!
   "I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul"
   - William Ernest Henley

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      Kenna McHughposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Great Points!!  I agree, people are responsibile for their fate and the outcome of their choices. Those who can face eat crow but survive better.

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   lone77starposted 10 years ago

   Ego!
   
   This era in human history is ripe with it. Ego loves to blame, and shuns responsibility.
   
   The cure can be found in the Hidden Wisdom of the Bible -- a book written in code by Kabbalists. The steps for gaining closeness to God (the antithesis of Ego) is found in the Zohar -- the wisdom from those who have been close to God.
   
   http://perceivingreality.com/

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   temptor94posted 10 years ago

   People do this because it is so much easier to blame than to admit one's own mistake. Taking responsibility for a failure needs courage and confidence, but many people are too worried about their image and constantly vie for approval from others. So they have this intense need to prove that they are spotless and faultless, that the world is causing all their misery.

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