Do you willingly share household chores with spouse?

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   thirdmilleniumposted 15 years ago

   Or, he/she has to threaten you with a shot gun?

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      Cagsilposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Don't have a spouse. However, I've be domesticated for plenty enough years already.

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      lovelypaperposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Are you kidding me? Apparently, I'm the only one in my house that knows how to do dishes.

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   frogdroppingposted 15 years ago

   TM - I try very hard, I love to share. However, he appears to be rather selective as to what it is he likes me to share with him

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   Greg Cremiaposted 15 years ago

   The more I help out the more 'us time' becomes available. Its a no brainer.

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      LaViejaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      could you come and tell my hubby that please? lol

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   wychicposted 15 years ago

   Thankfully, my husband and I share chores pretty equally. My ex-husband used to spend countless hours a week grousing at me for all of the things I didn't get done around the house that he thought I should have time for around raising the kid and running my at-home business. My husband doesn't see the sense in that, because he could use that same amount of time to scrub the house top to bottom and everyone stays happy.
   
   We do not divide up chores into his/her stuff, but instead whoever has the time does it. I generally try to make sure the kitchen and the bathroom are always cleaned before my husband gets home from work so that he can relax when he gets here, yet if I have too much writing or transcription to do he'll jump in and do the work without a word.
   
   Life is short and good love is hard to find...so why screw it up for something as trivial as housework? I think it also helps that in the past the housework has been considered "my job" and he was a neat and tidy bachelor for many years. The result...we're both just thrilled to death to have any help at all with the housework.

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   WriteAngledposted 15 years ago

   He cooks, I work. At the moment, housework is sort of ignored because we need to clear a load of clutter first, but are usually too tired to do so. However, the bathroom is now pristine after I attacked it.

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   JeanMeriamposted 15 years ago

   I would willingly share them, but maybe I need the shotgun

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   Mama Sezposted 15 years ago

   Papa Sez used to NOT share household work with me, but now he is a MODERN DAD and HUSBAND, helping with everything in the house.  No need for shotgun, he only requests for my smile... and that's so easy to give to a man like him

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   NewYorkerposted 15 years ago

   I try to share as much as I can, but we both spend a lot of time at work so it gets tough at times.

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   sneakorocksolidposted 15 years ago

   I do what she says because she'll hit me then call my Mom!

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    megs78posted 15 years ago

    When I met my husband, we agreed that I was a great cleaner, and he was an amazing cook and that that was an incredible combination.  10 years later, I am still the BEST cleaner and he is still the BEST chef, but we have learned that our arrangement would only have worked in a perfect world, and so we have to dabble in eachothers designated jobs from time to time

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    IzzyMposted 15 years ago

    Mine cleans a bit, but can't wash a plate to save his life. And he can't work the washing machine but that's no big deal. Meanwhile he takes the rubbish out, tidies up, occasionally cooks but I prefer him not to, the kitchen is MINE.
    In my previous marriage I also dug the garden, cut the grass and did all the home decorating - painting and papering, but this man wants to take charge of these things, which is a pity because unlike him, I've got a lifetime's experience and am better than him.
    Still...better what I've got now than what I had before

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    ThoughtfulSpotposted 15 years ago

    I'm not sure I participate in household chores in general "willingly."  Far from my favorite activity!   But, since they have to be done, I do my part.  My husband and I both work full time, so there's no reason we shouldn't both be doing the work around the house as well. We are partners... as it should be.
    
    (I'm not trying to portray my marriage as perfect... like the house and the job, it always requires work.  But, the good things in life are worth working for. So, I cook or clean, I work hard and I participate in the give and take.  And, I am rewarded by spending my life with a man I love very much.)

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    Ohmaposted 15 years ago

    we share most of the time. His disability prevents him from doing many things but it does not prevent him from trying. More often than not I end up having to do what he tried to do and made a mess of. I do this discretly so as not to dicourage him or hurt his feelings. He tries so hard.

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