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   Ivannposted 14 years ago

   What's the most annoying thing about your mother?--but you can't just get over it.

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I find your statement very selfish and without any form of acceptance.
      
      My mother has many quirks, but so do I. We are of the same blood and I'll do whatever it is that I can to make her life more comfortable for the remaining of her time(she is 63 and not in the greatest of health).
      
      I have learned to accept her for who she is, therefore, nothing she does bothers me or stresses me out.

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         wildernessposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Well said, Cagsil.  My mother and I are two VERY different people, but I learned long ago to put up with her minor quirks and be happy as I did so.
         
         She, bless her heart of gold, has had to learn to put up with my massive imperfections and does so with a straight face and a loving hug.

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         Brians Roarposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I agree also. I wish I still had my mom around so I could see her little quirks. Once you loose your mom, well, there is no replacement. My mom never  told me of any quirks that I had that she could not tolerate. A mothers love.....

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            Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I have already lost my father, some 20+ years ago, so my mother is all I have left.

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         creativelyccposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Amen Cagsil, my mom died twenty years ago and I still miss her so much. No one is perfect in this world, even Moms, but we should have the highest regards and respect for them always!

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            Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            See my previous post. I know the feeling of a lost parent, just not my mother.

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      Daniel Carterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      There is nothing in this world that is annoying about my mom. She is the finest person I know. And I realize I'm probably in the minority on this.
      
      My two children have slightly "different" view of their mother, however....

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      bayouladyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The most annoying thing about Mama is that she won't let me do much for her. She is my treasure! I want to make her feel beloved and papmpered.She has done so much for me, and now that she is 78 and a widow,you'd think she would let me spoil her a bit. Trust me, it's hard to convince her. I live next door to her and she and I quibble over who is going to mow her yard. I want to, and she says she is not helpless.Even when we go out to eat, she rarely lets me pay.
      She only lets me spoil her from time to time because she loves me!
      
      I KNOW I am blessed to still have her, and I treasure every day with her!

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         gracenotesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         BayouLady,
         
         Same thing with my mom.  She won't let you pay for lunch out.
         
         One of the hardest things is getting my mom to spend money on things that would make her life easier and healthier.  And she does have the money.
         
         She had worn out her recliner, it was in terrible shape, sort of leaning to one side, and you wouldn't believe the trouble and time it took to get her a new one.  She has osteoporosis, and didn't see any hurry, but believe me, to us kids, it was more urgent than maybe she realized.  I'm glad to report that her spine is doing better once she got a top of the line recliner with a lift mechanism.

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      Elpasoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ARE YOU TEN? By age 11 maybe you'll realize mothers are human just like you.
      
      Ivan

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   akirchnerposted 14 years ago

   Is this multiple choice?  Seriously, my mother is a very GOOD person and that is what counts. 
   
   She has been known to call me stupid on more than one occasion and as recently as several years ago.  It does not sit well with me at all. 
   
   She is also very unhappy and that does really bother me deep down- it is a hard thing to get over because I so want her to be happy!
   
   You cannot have an honest conversation with her because she puts up walls as fast as you open your mouth.  She takes everything that is said personally even when you preface it with 'this is how I feel and it has nothing to do with you'.  She could be defensive end for the Seattle Seahawks.....
   
   I will stop there! Don't get me wrong - I love her dearly - she is just a very complex person and one who I don't think meant to be a mom!

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      Home Girlposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      If I could bring my mother back to life, I would forgive her anything, though there was nothing you have to forgive, she was the most unselfish, generous, kind, hard working, scared of life and unhappy person I ever knew. I miss you, mom, very much.

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   Spacey Graceyposted 14 years ago

   I headed over here because I thought the title would be about how great mums are, not about what they do that's wrong. I'm a mum - and since I am a mum for 24 hours a day, every day, hopefully for 50+ years, I bet I'll make lots of mistakes and do annoying things - but since I am only human I really hope my boys grow up to accept and forgive my flaws, and not use them to slag me off in a chat forum.
   
   As for my mum- she is the most amazing person I will ever meet.

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   Uninvited Writerposted 14 years ago

   My mother is dead, I wish I still had to put up with her "annoying" things.

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      EmpressFelicityposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ditto

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      Jane@CMposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ditto

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   Ivorwenposted 14 years ago

   The most annoying things about my mom are also the most lovable things about her.  They are the things that make her stand out in a crowd and make her the wonderful lady she is. 
   
   You can either let a person's quirks rub you the wrong way or endear you to them.  I hope my children find me endearing, not annoying. 

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   Richieb799posted 14 years ago

   I thought this thread was gonna be all yo momma jokes

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ha ha.
      
      My Mom......she drives me crazy. She's mean and tells me all the time how awful I am. She can go years without speaking to me and when she does, its never a normal conversation. Its far more then "quirks" she is just plain hateful at times. And for many many years I resented her, and the abuse I went thru either at her hands or due to her turning her back and being unwilling to do anything about it.
      
      But as an adult, I see where she came from and she did the very best she knew how to do. She is strong, stubborn, smart, and funny. She went through some pretty horrid awful experiences, and survived the best she could. What more can anyone do? She was a lonely woman stuck in an unimaginable circumstances, and while the things I endured as a result caused scars that will not ever be gone, they will fade. She made me the strong and stubborn survivour I am today.
      
      I think its is unfair and mean spirited to ever sit around and bash your Mom.  You will never have another one. A Mom is just a person, doing one of the hardest things you could ever try to do. Sometimes they mess up, they are human. I love my Mom with all my heart.

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         simplelifelinaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I love your response to this! I am a mother of 3 and I am always second guessing my actions, but nonetheless I do to the best of my ability what is best for my kids. I hope one day they can see it that way, because I love them to death and would never do anything to hurt them.

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      Ivannposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Hahaha. (:

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   ralwusposted 14 years ago

   now you have made me weep. I miss her so much.

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        never ever ever be mean to a Mom.

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   ralwusposted 14 years ago

   that's why i weep, i was mean a few times.

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Oh. so was I. Im sure she forgives you.

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   ralwusposted 14 years ago

   Yeah, mom's will, i can't though. But she went peaceful enough and we said goodbyes.

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      DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      thats good. Hardest thing is forgivng yourself.
      
      Once I called my mom and said..."Mom? I now know you really are crazy, but I also now know I drove you to it. Im sorry." Did she ever laugh.   

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    CYBERSUPEposted 14 years ago

    Next to your Mom, my Mom is the Greatest Mom in the whole wide world. I cherish the ground she walks on and have for the last 79 years. She is still alive at 97. Love you Mom and May God Bless.

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    ralwusposted 14 years ago

    Yeah, mom's are like that.

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    Sally's Troveposted 14 years ago

    We're sort of all talking to ourselves, which is not a bad thing. Where's Ivann?
    
    I think it was a good question. Moms push our buttons, and sometimes they find one to push that just can't be glossed over.
    
    My mom's something-something (if she found out I told her age, she'd kill me). She's insightful, bullheaded, well, I could extol her virtues, but that's not the point.
    
    She does know how to push a button or two with me. At this point in my life (and hers), it is my problem if I can't get over it. But when I was a child, it was her challenge to fix the problem.
    
    Anyone who says they have no issues with their mothers is either a saint or in denial.

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       DoorMattnomoreposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       good answer.
       
       Moms push buttons cuz they KNOW you. I never realized how much I loved my Mom 'till I became one. And lost my father without making up.

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       Ivannposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I think the moment they conceived us as children, its like the 9 months period of time they develop that certain power
       THEY just know everything about us. o.o" '
       and What could happen next.
       Well, the thing is--Its not that they predict us,
       The possibilities of things that could happen is very perfect that its seem like they even know who and what your boyfriend is xD

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    linlujoposted 14 years ago

    Lucky you have a  great relationship with your Mother!

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    Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

    One of the biggest problems between mothers and kids is that kids don't know "where mothers are really coming from" a lot of the time, so they guess about it (and often guess wrong).
    
    Another problem is that mothers can have a hard time realizing their kids are capable of making sound choices, even if the mother doesn't know "where the kid" is coming from.
    
    On the other hand, sometimes the kid really ISN'T thinking with the kind of clarity that mothers may have picked up with experience.
    
    The point is, there's maybe no winning.    Maybe what everyone needs to do  is give the other person a little credit for having his reasons and try not to be too much of a know-it-all (whether you're on the kid end on the mother end).   
    
    I lived my whole life thinking I didn't have any real issues worth mentioning with my mother - that was as long as I hadn't done anything big that she didn't approve of.  I was going around, thinking she thought I was pretty much wonderful.  When I decided to leave my marriage to someone she really liked...   Whoa!!  Turned out she didn't think I was all that wonderful!  LOL   Live and learn (but forgive, because none of us knows what it's like until we get to where our kids at a certain age, and we're had to muddle our way through yet another new experience as a mother).  If your kids are five you don't know how it is to have kids who are thirty.  If your kids are thirty you don't know how it is to have kids who are fifty - and so on and so.

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    Ivannposted 14 years ago

    Hi guys.
    
    Well I asked this question in a positive way.
    My mom I'd have to say, is one of the coolest mom alive (:
    Well I don't like her reading this because I don't know Teenager thing. I'm only 18 at the moment, and I have many complains and changes.
    She would normally get mad at me, but by the end of the day she would call me and we'd end up talking about it. She knows very much of my potential as a person,
    I am the youngest among the 3 of us, both my elder brother are nurses--Im the only one different about the 3 of us, because I choose to be in the creative side of life. Although my relatives have beef on it, my mom I KNOW, she just gets mad at me but deep inside her heart she accepts and loves me.
    
    Most teenagers my age would say that 'GAAH my mom's getting annoying, she like Totally chopped off my allowance, man'
    
    I ADMIT, I don't say things to my mom--Idk, Im very shy about my feelings. She would always say I am the blacksheep of our family but one time I found my baby pictures on her bag to bring to her office and I was teary.
    
    I thought at first it was only my dad that understands my likes and need (All my family members are on the medical field) a mothers love is really different.
    
    When I graduate in college soon, I want to give all my best to her.

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    StupidQuestionsposted 14 years ago

    What bothers me is when my mom gets so worried about my jobless situation that she actually cries.

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       Ivannposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Jobs are always there.
       we're opposite, my mom cried because I was in between school and 2 jobs.
       So I ended up losing the 2 jobs and right now just at school.

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          StupidQuestionsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Thanks for your support but jobs are NOT always there.  1 million people--at leasdt--are out of work.  My Mom has cause to be concerned--don't get me wrong--I just don't like that she gets so upset about it that she cries and gets chest pains.

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    Reality Bytesposted 14 years ago

    My Mother has passed away.  I wish she was here to annoy me about anything.
    
    Thanks for the thought.

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    Jayne Lancerposted 14 years ago

    I was brought up by nannies and at boarding school, never getting to know my mother at all. Even today, I never know where she is and rarely see her. Yes, I do wish things could be different; she once, fleetingly, took time to see her grand children. But I do admire her energy.

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    gracenotesposted 14 years ago

    My mom is 90 and one of the greatest mothers in the world. 
    
    Annoying things?  She channel-surfs like a guy.  And on the endings of certain words, she sounds like she's trying to be a North Carolinian, and she's not that.  She's a Texan who has always lived in the state.  Also, my dog's name is Meadow, and mom always pronounces her name "Medda".
    
    Not a bad group of complaints, actually!

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       WryLiltposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I can't stand my mother. She has bipolar and after seeing her control it more than once, yet never take medication for it, I've given her enough second chances.
       
       She's self centred and even as a child (when she ended up making me homeschool myself for the last few years) it was all about her.
       
       I've written a hub about it so won't elaborate here - but not all mothers are great and I often wish I had one who cared. I'm a mother now myself... and that makes me understand her even less.

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       Lisa HWposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       gracenotes, I love the "medda" complaint.     That's funny.  I had a few of those kinds of things about my mother (but not related to accents). 
       
       90 - how fortunate you are. 

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    tony0724posted 14 years ago

    My Mom has been one of the anchors in my life. She is getting on in years , but so am I. And although looking back she had her quirks when I was younger, I always recognized one thing. Her love was and has always been unconditional. And raising me and three sisters was no picnic ! My Pop is gone now ,but I am glad I still have time left to dote on her.

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