What would you do if your five year old begins to see and talk with the spirits of relatives he never met because they died before he was born? Would you encourage them to develop their psychic ability or would you consider taking him to a psychiatrist for treatment?
I wouldn't take him to a psychiatrist, as medical professionals almost never believe in such things. If he were my child I would let him develop it at his own pace and always listen to him.
I guess I would try to get some answers to family questions
I would encourage him to develop his psychic ability but would watch him closely and safeguard him. There have been occurrences that I had seen on the History Channel when a demon had overtaken a child. That doesn't set well with me at all. Do I believe in God? yes Do I believe demons roam the earth? yes. So I would be quite cautious. AEvans
I would prefer to consult a psychiatrist because this is not found in any normal child. I suppose it is because of his weakness of mind.
I'd never discount anything that anyone tells me-unless I could just tell that they were lying, or out of it. If they are hallucinating-then what they are talking about is very real-just not to the other people on the globe. It's still very important to listen to the person-and NOT say something about them being "high," or "Crazy," etc.
Allow this child to be what he/she needs to be. If that means that having conversations with people that we may or may not see or hear let it be. It is not hurting anyone. Most docs will drain your accounts with appointments and meds to only have you and your child frustrated and penny-less.
I was one of these children of sorts and being adopted my parents had no clue what to do. What they did do was listen to me and my 'stories' and never put me down or shoved it aside. As an adult I beleive that I have a very deep consept of self and spirit. I am a better person because of it. I am far more empathetic and understand that what Oprah says it true, "Everyone just wants to be heard".
5 years is a very formitive developmental age, and much of a childs enviorment affects him early in life. I would not assume, guess or wait eclecticly about any thing like this. I would seek and insist on professional help.
You need to define what he is doing, whats driving it and affecting him. Do not guess or play with this. If you can not define it, and by asking here you seem to indicate you can not, then seek Real Pro help.
He or she deserves at least that. Be carefull, and get informed.
I'm guessing you only read the opening post. I wasn't referring to an actual child. I just wanted to gather everyone's opinion because this is something my mother had to go through with me. I was the five year old... many years ago.... more than I'd like to recognize!
Anyways, I turned out OK.... I think? LOL
Hi Klara, yes, I was concerned as in a real child. I went through similar also. Catholic influence, and ran from it, went to WICCA. Mom had no clue.
I put her through the ringer...lol
I guess kids are resilient though, like you I landed feet first...I think...lol
Does He YELL Like his mother does to get attention in the forums? (CAPS = YELLING - ok?)
Wow!That is one unique ability there. Although some people do not believe in ghosts so those who have the 'third eye' are considered crazy. Yet if I were the mom of that child, I would first observe him or her and if there is no harm done to my child, fine with me. Though I would advise my child not to easily speak about his strange sightings to anyone.
I wouldn't take him to a psychiatrist or counselor but I would observe him closely. I would monitor his activities to see if anything , event, sadness, or need has caused this change in his behavior. When I was satisfied with the answer I would have talks with him on a regular basis so I knew who he was communicating to and what the topics were. If I felt this behavior was damaging to my child , then I would seek help from a professional. ( My brother used to tell the friendly, neighborhood police officer fantastic stories about events that never happened in our attic. He was four or five years old. Later, we found out his IQ was in the genius range. ) Luckily for him , most of his stories were down right comical. The officer would relate some to my dad.
I wouldn't take him to a psychiatrist, I'd just let him be. If he isn't scared by this. He may not really be talking to spirits at all he may just have an imaginary friend, many children do at that age. Nonetheless, it is not much to be concerned about unless he is very disturbed by it. Psychiatrists may want to medicate and that is never good and should be avoided unless it is absolutely necessary.
I would not make it out to be any big deal, to the child, but neither would I play it down. In my experience, if kids think it is a part of normal everyday life, then they will treat it as such. If they think it is a big deal or taboo, they will push it, and even exaggerate it.
Many say that under the age of 7, a child has a hard time differentiating between fiction and reality. As he gets an bit older, he will know more what he is or isn't seeing. Also, I was recently told that boys usually lose thier psychic abilities when they go through puberty. Only a few continue to be aware once they enter their 20's.
I would listen to everything the child has to say and try to find out he is just saying something to get our attention. I will try to ask him what all did he talk with people who he sees and most commonly, it would just be a figment of child's imagination.
If, on the other hand, there seems to be truth in what the child is saying,i would definitely do anything i can to get him out of the situation. Developing psychic ability in my child would be the last thing on my mind. So, yes, i may take him to a psychiatrist or any other person who can 'cure' him of his sightings before anything bad befalls him.
Take the parents to a psychiatrist - to get them to stop behaving as though delusional BS is real. I had an 'invisible' friend almost the whole time until I went to school - I am certain that this was in response to the child before me who died at one year old; my Mother's grief lasted the rest of her life but the child was rarely mentioned out loud. I am certain that I picked up on the real absence and 're-created' what my parents saw there.
\I'm not second-guessing your own assessment of your own reasons for having an imaginary friend at all. Just thought it may be worth mentioning, though, that I've researched the imaginary-friend thing for children up to about school age - and it's pretty much normal and something a lot of kids do. (Maybe you did pick up on your mother's sadness. I picked up on my mother's sadness after learning she lost a first young husband in the war. Maybe, though, you were just one of those kids who had an imaginary friend.) (My little brother had two imaginary friends. Their names were "Hat" and "Hammer". I think it was because he talked about his friends. My parents asked what their names were, and he looked around, saw my father's hat, and then saw my father's hammer, and came up with the names. "Hat" and "Hammer" were at their height of being presence when my brother was five.
If I had a five-year-old who said he was talking to dead relatives the first thing I'd ask myself would be whether anyone had ever talked about those dead relatives in his presence. As you said, alternate poet, children pick up on someone adults seem to miss or long for. Add that to a kid's inclination toward developing imaginary friends - and voila, you've got names and identities for those imaginary friends. On top of it, you might even have a child's wish to either know the dead relative, not be left out when adults talk about people he doesn't know, or any number of other things that may contribute to wanting to believe he's talking to dead relatives.
I would suggest a psychologist who is also a spiritual healer - they understand these things - I wouldn't stop him as I have had the same experiences -A lady who I didn't know kept appearing in my dreams - not a clue who she was - then I seen my mother in law standing in my kitchen - my mother in law happened to be in Florida at the time being neglected by family members - me I am in Oregon - O.k ... well I had not seen my mother in law in several years and when she was standing in my kitchen she looked just like she does now - which is way , way different than the last time I had seen her - well, she lives with me now , and the woman who appeared in my dreams - in Florida I noticed a picture of the lady and recognized her - when i asked my mother in law who she was - it turned out to be Her mother who had been passed away since before I was born! think she came back looking for someone to take care of her daughter (long story short) Now, my mother in laws father - same thing there - my advice - never underestimate the spirits -
It is not necessarily ghosts as someone else said above. It might be illusions of the missing ones in his mind or something. Yup, I would also vote for a psychiatrist.
I am actually referring to a child who has never met their dead relatives (in person, pictures, or conversation) and suddenly begins to describe those relatives with very specific details, names, etc.
Imaginary friends are common and here is the deal. There is always the possibility that the child is a psychic and is picking up on a spirit (if you believe in that sort of thing) but they can also be the product of their imagination. By the way, a lot of times psychics choose a random name for their Spirit Guides because it's easier for us (the living) to relate to a spirit if we can name it and think of them as one of us. However, spirits are nothing but the subconscious energy of someone who has lived... and following the concept of reincarnation, that same spirit has had several bodies, therefore, there is no definite physical appearance to it either. I'm just throwing this out there for you to understand why psychic children will often give funny names to their imaginary friends, which might or might not be spirits.
Either way, I'm not referring to that... I want to know what you would do if there was absolutely no doubt that the child is indeed becoming acquainted with someone who is no longer alive... someone they have never met, heard of, or seen in pictures. What would you do then?
I'd wait and see what, if anything, developed. I don't happen to believe that dead people come back and talk to people, and I'm more inclined to thinking there's something the child has picked up and "colored" with his imagination. If it kept up for too many years past the pre-school years or six or seven, I'd probably be one of those parents who would consult a psychiatrist. What was done or not done after that, I'd have to see what the psychiatrist (or second-opinions psychiatrist) said and decide what I wanted to do. I'd make sure I told my child that we were just going to talk to someone who knows a little something about this kind of thing, and we weren't sure if the person would be able to tell us anything about it or not. (I'm sorry - but there's no way I'd bring my child to a "spiritual healer" or someone along those lines.)
Would you be willing to get informed on the subject by reading books and trying to find support from other parents who claim to have psychic children? You know if you take your child to a psychiatrist most likely they'll diagnose him as a psychopath or bipolar. They'll drug him up for the rest of his life. Would you at least consider the fact that your child might have psychic abilities and find out more about it?
Finally, Greek One shows up to put some real perpsective on this. I can't believe I'm the first to say, but I'd run out of the house screaming. The last thing I want is my son to say "I see dead people." with a slight fog on his breath. SHEESH
That's very funny, but not a great parenting tip. What? You are just going to run off and leave the kid behind?
Teach him to download porn...That way he will be diverted from dead ppl
why not.. it seems that the child would be able to get a proper upbringing from his parents, grandparents, great grandparents, great, great grandparents, great, great.....
Well, for one... a spirit can't just go to the supermarket to do grocery shopping for the week. Your kid will starve to death, Greek One! lol
I would try to educate myself as much as possible on the subject matter. The last thing I would want for my child, is to feel like they were all alone.
well... his relatives might be nicer than the folks here on earth....
and maybe it would work in the reverse and he would be able to hear me from the great beyond
Well, I have some very personal experience with parents and children who talk to spirits. My mother talked to spirits her whole life and as a child I just accepted it as part of our everyday life. But for many years now, I have been plagued by the question of whether she might have been a gifted psychic or a pathetic psychopath. I even wrote a hub about it.
Both my daughters claim to have talked to a "ghost lady" who supposedly lives in our home. I've never seen her myself but the girls say they have been talking to her ever since we moved into the house, and my youngest daughter, who is now 15 talks to other spirits as well and has been for years. Let me tell you, that child has been riding the mental health highway to hell because of this "gift" she has apparently inherated from her grandmother.
After several consultations with various mental health professionals who gave her a series of tests, she was prescribed Risperdal, but even on this antipsychotic medication, she still continues to hear and see spirits and she insisted she is not "crazy" but the spirits that visit her are real. It's not her fault nobody else can see or hear them and she wants to know why she is taking antipsychotic drugs while people such as John Edward and Sylvia Brown, both Psychic Mediums are rich and famous for doing exactly the same thing that she does?
Wow Disturbia, sounds like your daughter is struggling to find out who she is while trying to fit in. I have a hub written on the subject. I hope you get a chance to read it and I hope it helps. My mother was a psychic medium and realized I had inherited her gift at a very early age. I am very thankful that she didn't think of me as having a mental illness. Instead, she nurtured my ability and I've become a very healthy adult... at least that's what I think, but then again, I'm biased. And of course, anyone that doesn't believe in spirits will think we are delusional. But I respect even those who have a different way of thinking. That's the most important thing for any psychic or intuitive person. If you think you are right and another person is wrong, you simply are as closed-minded as the one you disagree with. After all, we all have a different take on the paranormal. That's why it's called the Unknown.
When it comes down to it, though, dead people are either coming back and talking to people (in some way that those people are able to recognize who/what is talking to them about what), or else nobody comes back and talks to people. One group of "thinking" is wrong. One is right. One group is wrong and closed minded in its wrongness. The other group is right and closed minded.
There's "intuitive" and then there's seeing and talking to dead people. They aren't necessarily the same thing.
I don't happen to think it's necessarily the best thing for a parent to nurture a child's head in the direction of the 'unknown" too soon, when the child is in the process of learning about, living in, and developing skills in the known world. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think a hold-off and see what goes on approach is probably a way to get the child through his earlier stages of development without loading a bunch of "unknown" onto his immature brain. I just think people should aim to get their children on good, solid, footing with regard to "known", and address any "unknown" when they're old enough to have a better grip on a lot of things.
I would cosult this issue with psychiatrist,beause only a person who has a knowledge in medical field can understand and cure this problem.
What if you have real reason to believe that your child is in fact able to see and speak to their grandparents who have died? What explanation do you think a psychiatrist would give to that? Would you prefer to ignore the authenticity of the psychic ability that your child was born with just because you don't believe the spiritual world exists?
I'm not saying you are wrong for doing this, I'm just interested in understanding the thinking behind this decision.
What exactly would be "real" reason to believe that, though? My kids didn't know my father, but they'd spend time with my mother alone, or with my siblings. I couldn't be sure that if I hadn't told my kids something about my father someone else hadn't. On the other hand, they knew their other grandparents. If they started saying they were talking to one of them it would be hard to convince me they weren't just fantasizing, imagining, or wishful-thinking.
I'd stop letting him watch M. Knight Schlylllylarammalammadingdong movies.
Being able to see and communicate with the dead is a gift. Although, I would have many questions for the youngster and watch his behaviors. There are many young people that see things when they are young where as many adults do not. It is a gift to be admired. However, that is not saying that one does not have to be on guard and make sure that this does not affect the youngster in a bad way. It all depends on how the youngster interprets things. If his behavior changes in a bad way, then it might be best to try to make sure that he learns how to turn off the communication to a certain extent. Although, if it is a true gift it will never really be able to be turned off. Just as sometimes, these occurences only happened periodically you never know when they are going to happen.
I would suggest to the parents that maybe you look through both sides of the family history and see if anyone in the family had a smiliar ability or if there was any type of other medical history issues.
I think that it depends on what is happening in response to your child talking to the dead. I have a 10-month old and I know he at least sees the dead because he laughs and looks at the wall a lot. I think all kids do. It's my personal opinion that our guardian angels are family members who have passed on maybe before we were even born. It can be a spiritual gift, or it could be a curse.
If no one is being harmed, I wouldn't worry about it, but if your child seems to be bothered by it or you feel an evil feeling about it, I would get clergy of your church to see what they can do to remove the evil spirits from your home.
Before bringing a priest it might be helpful to talk to the entity with authority. They usually respond to a forceful person who is not afraid of them.
Children do stare at the blank wall and giggle and try to converse with an invisible presence. It's funny but you are right... they do see spirits. If the child is laughing, it's a good spirit who's watching over him. Nothing to worry about.
Take time. Watch and wait before you involve anyone for consultation. And ask God for wisdom.Good Luck!
If my 5 year old shows she's scared about this psychic phenomenon in her, I'll go see an expert, an authority. And if it could be undone, I will have him help my child. Children must live happily and carefree, not as medium of dead relatives.
I would surely encourage him to develop this gift. I will let him meet people who can explain to him this talent and how he can protect himself from negative forces. Proper guidance is needed at that very young age.
Fashion Conscious, you win in my book. First, find out if he is serious or his imagination is getting away from him. Watch, listen, question. Not like it's a big thing, just casually like you're curious. DON'T send him to a psychiatrist. Then it's all about the drugs.
I know exactly how this is. My daughter (and my sister and I as children, and my mother as a child, my grandmother, etc.) sees them also. She has learned how to protect herself and how to know what to do. Most spirits are not negative. Just dead people who may be lost. After never having met my brother or seen a photo, she described him to a T and said he was in the kitchen. She was right. Most people will drown this gift in poo pooing it as silly. Don't make him think something is wrong with him. That is the WORST thing you can do. Trust me on this.
Interesting challenge, at least initially I’d be skeptical but I would explore what the child believes to be seeing and try to discern “fact” from make belief.
I’m not sure how you’d approach this, but surely there has to be some tidbit of information or anecdote that could not be gleaned from old photos or memorabilia that if revealed by the child could demonstrate the difference.
I would talk to a Pastor, one who is open minded, as these are not dead people but demons. They also may be angels, but in this situation does not sound likely
Well from what I have looked into and researched over the years, and now believe, your child is merely normal, showing signs of seeing things we all saw as children before we were "conditioned" that this is apparently not normal, shameful, evil, not real etc etc, and therefore we learned to suppress it until it was so suppressed we no longer even remembered or saw it any more. Strange how our pets so often do though, no doubt because we don't or can't tell them what is real, acceptable or otherwise. It never fails to amaze me how many people are so horrified by these kind of honest and open experiences from children. Adults seem totally fearful of these things that are the most natural thing in the world, yet because so many do not understand them they simply brand them as fictitious or evil, a real shame if you ask me, this stuff has been around for as long as we have, ask the tribes as yet unpolluted by the "White man mentality and religions".
Your child is fine, normal and you have nothing to worry about. Simply listen to him, don't disagree or criticize, ask questions if you wish to, but otherwise treat his words no differently to anything else he might talk to you about.
Hi misty, I have no children. I posted this forum to see everyone's opinion. In fact, I was referring to my own experience as a child. I was very lucky to have had a mother who understood my gift. But you are right... it's very common and very normal, yet people turn their backs on it.
I am so pleased you are comfortable talking about this openly and are not deterred by the scaremongers telling you these are "demons" Pleaaaase!!!! You were/are normal and no-one should ever convince you otherwise.
It is extremely easy to give a comment when you have not experienced such a thing or have someone close to you experienced it. I have (it's not me, but a very close relative), and I can tell you that it is no fun, and neither can you joke about it. It's some kind of 'awakening' for the girl, and I am helpless to do anything other than to get help from those who do. Help from those who are psychics themselves, and have proven to be good psychics, how would I know such people? Well, I managed to get to know a lady who does alot of good for the society/humanity, and I also know she talks to dead people - she can't see them, but can talk to them. To cut the story short, this close relative managed to get her senses together, and become quite rational, and has learned how to control her 'awakening'.
In response to another writer who accused you some time ago of yelling, I don't believe that CAPS = YELLING. Caps are used all over the world when presenting a heading of an article, or sometimes, as a sub-title of a paragraph. I saw "caps" being described as yelling in another forum. But it was in reference to people who write everything in caps.
As for the topic, no advise from me. Although I do have some thoughts on it...one of my thoughts being: I wish I was that gifted. If I was I would communicate with you right now through telepathy. By the way, just for an experiment, I shall try and contact you within the next few days. I is now 8/27.
I hope you have a sense of humor...but expect me anyway. LOL
See how good I am? I responded to your message within seconds! I just felt the presence of Sir Dragon thinking about me! I'm GOOOOOOD!!!! lol
I think you need to consider the role this behaviour is having on your child, and family life. If it is having a negative impact upon your child, or is a major cause for concern for other members of your family, then it may well be time to seek the advice from a professional.
Professionals should not be feared since they come from a variety of backgrounds and all have different life experience. It is also very likely that a Professional will have experience of this type of issue too.
Hello. I believe this is a Divine appointment that I came across your posting. My heart aches that so many do not know the answer to this. I feel so much compassion for you all. I have to respond. We live in a world, the seen realm, that was created by the unseen realm. By God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. The unseen realm is more real than we are. We live in a fallen world though. There are holy angels and fallen angels in our midst. There are demons and spirits too. The demonic can take any form and deceive whoever. Satan is the FATHER OF LIES, the DECEIVER looking to steal, kill, and destroy. That is what they do. How do you get rid of them? It is important to not only receive Jesus in your heart, but to receive the baptism of the Holy Spirit. If you DO NOT, the demonic WILL have LEGAL RIGHT to torment you...or your child (in this case). If your child does have Jesus and the Holy Spirit, you will be able to tell them to "Leave NOW in Jesus name" and they WILL have to submit because Jesus defeated the devil and gave us back the keys. It is important for the well being of your child. You can have Spirit Filled believers in the Messiah Jesus come rebuke the spirits in your home if you are not comfortable with recieving Jesus in your heart. They can cleanse your home and anoint it with oil to keep them away as well. I am praying for you and the children that have such a gift. This is not a curse. It is a gift from God. It is a type of "Seer". Very awesome gifting. More and more people are tapping into it these days because we are in the "last days". It is important to educate yourself so you will not be deceived by the demonic. The Bible has it all in there and will keep you from deception. Blessings to you all in abundance!
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I understand and value your opinion. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the subject. You are right - it is extremely important to educate yourself in order to differentiate the good souls from the dark entities. One has to meditate a lot and keep one's mind and heart very close to God.
I would let him at it but warn him to be careful not to try and talk or summon or whatever it would be called any ill willed spirits.
I will talk to him about it, but not too often. I think he will outgrow it sooner or later.
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