Character shaped at home

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   silverstararrowposted 11 years ago

   Something that I've heard quite often from non-parents and parents alike is- how we are what we are because of the values taught at home. Whatever we do in life, reflects back on our upbringing. Is the environment we grow up in really such a deciding factor when it comes to our character? Is our person primarily defined by our childhood?

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      lobobrandonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Actually what you become comes from the company you keep when you're younger at school. I feel the people who think otherwise are ignorant. My point of view though.

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         Pearldiverposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         Perhaps by that standard then, I am therefore ignorant
         
         I had no company at school during my 'informative years' as I lived on a island and 'learned' from the a radio transmission from a correspondence teacher.  There was no internet or a phone... I had a Golliwog for a friend and he taught me how to swear in 5 languages...   Shall I demonstrate that?

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            lobobrandonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            It's up to you to decide - you could get banned
            
            I meant people who go to school with other students Because you spend more time at school and with friends than with parents. As most parents return home late after work.

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               Pearldiverposted 11 years agoin reply to this

               I don't think I've been banned for ignorance yet
               
               You didn't state the 'other students' bit in your original statement! As for parents, on most days the seas were far too rough for my parents to row their boat home, it was 35 miles to the mainland and their boat was only 7 feet long.  So my mother and father could only row home 3 legged cattle or sheep, because the extra foot would have sunk their boat!   And my mother refused to get legless - do you know how dangerous it is to drink and row in high seas with a 3 legged sheep and a husband holding the tiller?

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                  lobobrandonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                  I was talking about getting banned for swearing

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                     Pearldiverposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                     I was merely attempting to answer the OP's question "Is our person primarily defined by our childhood?"
                     
                     Clearly we are indeed (at least personality-wise) formed in our childhood. I learned 5 languages... but due to flaws within my personality and lifestyle, only the swear words had any relevance!

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                        lobobrandonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                        Haha You surely deserve a pizza for that

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                        WriteAngledposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                        Well then you must be a linguistic genius PD. Being able to curse in a natural manner in a foreign language is a sign that you truly master that language!

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                           Pearldiverposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                           WoW... thanks Angelic One
                           
                           But I fear genius status may well desert me on that fine point you make!
                           
                           Sadly, no one takes poor Enid seriously anymore..  
                           So in modern days of political correctness etc. I'm afraid that beautiful Golliwog words like: "Kellimizoot!" are lost now to boring outbursts like ".... Off!" 
                           
                           How sad... but thank you for making a 6 year old's day! 
                           
                           @Lobo... cheers the pizza needs to be Large.. okay?

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                              lobobrandonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                              Yup, I'll see to that

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                  SomewayOuttaHereposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                  ...3 legged sheep, eh/yeah?...

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                     Pearldiverposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                     YeeeHaHahaha... FINALLY..
                     
                     Someone has worked out that 2 adults + a 4 legged sheep = 8 feet
                     
                     But they only had a 7 foot boat...
                     
                     So they only took 3 legged animals and that way the load in the boat was okay and they didn't risk sinking!
                     
                     See... Character is influenced by one's home environment!
                     
                     And 3 legged sheep have a purpose in life!

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                        SomewayOuttaHereposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                        baaaaaaat...where were you?....good to run into you PD! ...it's been a while...

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                           Pearldiverposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                           Really Busy... and I've only had time to write 1 hub this month... so much BS to deal with in Bumble Town.. the town was infested with rats and dung beetles!

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                              SomewayOuttaHereposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                              no ducks?...i better see what ya wrote...i haven't been on here very much lately...life, yeah.........miss hearing from you...xo...later gater, errrr my kiwi friend

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         jeanihessposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         @lobobrandon- I am ignorant too by your standards:) Do the pre-birth to schooling age not count in development? Health before pregnancy, during pregnancy and during early motherhood affect the development of children. Psychology states that the physical precedes. To the extent that the physical develops and is healthy, the rest of the person will develop and be shaped in conjunction with other factors. The choices that the child will make at school, under favourable circumstances, will be influenced by what has gone before and will not only be affected by school experiences and exposures. Anyway, this is only part of my rather ignorant opinion:)

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      jeanihessposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Ha ha:) Parents and carers do not want to accept responsibility for how the home environment shape children? This is easily a critical reason why so many youths seem to be without guidance and without the core values and principals that would help them make those decisions that would shape them more positively. We can not control the external and cyber environments that our children negotiate. we can however provide them with maps and directions so that they at least would make informed decisions. In the days of DIckens children were seen as miniature adults and found themselves in employment and workhouses with adult responsibilities. It seems that again today, in this modern world, children are imbued with adult characteristics and parents and carers shrug their shoulders and say: " They wanted to do that; they chose!" This of a 4yr old or so who was allowed to do some anti-social thing instead of being diverted to something positive. One sees children allowed to roam in shops touching everything on the shelves, moving things around and even breaking stuff, while the parents or adults companions are chatting, shopping and ignoring the children. One sees how little children and youth are allowed to simply touch and use the private property of other people in the home and elsewhere as if they are not subject to the basic rules of respect for the property of other people and privacy. They use people's cellphones and / or computers without permission. In pursuit of immediate gratification they will take things without permission and the owners may well be blamed for leaving these items in accessible places! Somewhere adults, parents and child carers have lost the plot and abdicated the basic functions of parenting.

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      Precious Pearlposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think that it is combination of our home environment, the mentors we choose and our peers that help shape the person that we become.  Does that mean that a person won't or can't choose to change?  No, we can change our character if that is what we choose to do ... we don't have to be defined by our past but we can learn, grow and change who we choose to be because of it.  A person raised in an alcoholic, verbally abusive home can heal choosing not to be a product of their past or they can choose to emulate it causing the same hurt to those with whom they are in relationship.

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   mts1098posted 11 years ago

   I think the core values and the lessons of being adult should absolutely come from home...cheers

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   wildove5posted 11 years ago

   Absolutely not!  My friend and I have had this conversation often. She has three children, raised the same, yet one seems as though he was raised in a different family.  I have one and I swear she was abducted by aliens or the like, she once had manners, morales, kindness, and apathy, although it appears she has been raised by a pack of wolves near a trailer park or then again abducted by alians! Go figure!  Anyway's,  I wonder, does a serial killers parents teach that at home?

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      lobobrandonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Finally someone with the same views

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