How come it is so difficult to say, "I love you."

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   SteveoMcposted 13 years ago

   How come it is so difficult to say, "I love you."
   
   Sometimes when I feel it, I just can't say it, how come?

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   wychicposted 13 years ago

   Many people have difficulty with it because those three words let the other person know that they have the power to hurt the one who admits it truthfully. Sometimes it's almost impossible to bring oneself to say it until you're sure the other person won't take advantage of the power that knowledge gives them, and of course once they're sure they won't hurt the one they love by admitting it.

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   Mike Lickteigposted 13 years ago

   We are all afraid of hurt and rejection.  To love and not be loved in return is a huge hurt.  Love also means different things to different people, and it sometimes represents something to one person that it does not to another.  Some people express love casually, while others attach a commitment to love that makes the word used far less readily.

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   wordsscriberposted 13 years ago

   In my opinion, It will not be difficult if the person who is saying it really means it.

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   ShadowKing!posted 13 years ago

   Good answer Mike. Also, many people equate "I love you" to be in the vein of "I want you to spend the rest of your life with me."

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   sjk6101983posted 13 years ago

   My problem is not just the fear of rejection but also the following: the fear of getting used and abused.  Why say, "I love you" to someone if not only if they're going to not just reject you but also use and abuse you?  Why also say, "I love you" to someone if they're going to take advantage of your trusting nature as well?

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   eli greyposted 13 years ago

   I think deep down we aren't sure if it's love. Those words mean a lot to the one you're saying them to and to come along later and say you really don't, that's a huge let down. Sure you don't mean to hurt the person, but you're being honest and letting them know your real feelings.

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