I met this guy really great we connnected. hang out, flirt a lot and now were ki

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   bball10posted 13 years ago

   I met this guy really great we connnected. hang out, flirt a lot and now were kissing too.. But he
   
   has a girlfriend that I found out about, he didn't tell me and doesn't know I know and I'm not sure what to do? Am I the bad person or is he? What does it mean when a guy doesn't tell you right away he has a girlfriend?

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   cons11posted 13 years ago

   you really shouldnt think your the bad person,Especially if you didnt even know he already has a girlfriend.you should ask if he is single,but dont make it obvious that you know he's going out with someone else

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   eastexplorerposted 13 years ago

   Oh wow not cool.... I'd say dump the guy. He is the one who is at fault here. He could have so easily told you that he has a girlfriend but he didn't, and without you knowing it's not your fault. If he doesn't tell you right way it's him just checking to see how far you will go with him...
   
   I'd say end things and move on!
   
   Good luck there bball10!

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   vanpeltposted 13 years ago

   I think he will do to you what he is doing to the current girlfriend.

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   dgicreposted 13 years ago

   Run, don't walk to the nearest exit. A relationship built on deceit is one that will eventually fall apart. He is not worth your time and you can do so much better.

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   SteveoMcposted 13 years ago

   I guess that there might be more to the story.   I would want to know the whole story before I made a decision about what to do.   It is time to confront him and ask him about his girlfriend situation.   The information that he has might make a difference.   
   He might be trying to end the other relationship, or maybe he has ended it.   All sorts of other scenarios are possible.   Talk to him about it, if he hedges or lies, then that is your answer.   Definitely don't let it go further until you have this sorted out.

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   HappyHerposted 13 years ago

   My first question would be is does this girl friend feel that she is in a committed relationship with him?  If he is dating/playing the field, then he may see nothing with dating multiple people.  He should be honest about it.  Just casually ask him if he's dating other people and see what his response is.

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   bball10posted 13 years ago

   Hey guys, so I did what half of you said and asked him. She said she wanted to take a break two months ago and it didn't fit well so when he goes to see her next week he's ending it for good.. Is what he tells me. That's pretty good right?

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   msorenssonposted 13 years ago

   You did not know he has a girlfriend. Nobody can tell you what to do, nor do they have a right to. You are the only one who can decide this for yourself.
   
   Here are the things you can ask yourself. If you were the girlfriend, and found out that your boyfriend was kissing another woman, how would you feel?
   
   Did he even think it unethical to kiss another woman while he has a girlfriend? Maybe they have some kind of open arrangement to see other people, in which case it is fine for him to do so. Nevertheless he should have told you if it is so.
   
   Do you want a man who would lie to you, deliberately?
   
   All your answers are within. Trust yourself and you will be fine.

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    hannahxdeeposted 13 years ago

    Get as far away from his as you can. Put yourself in her position, because if you stay with him..you'll really know how she's feeling when/if she finds out. He will turn around and do the same thing to you.

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    mikesssbposted 13 years ago

    Its time to end the relationship. As much as you may be interested in him, if he did it to her he's going to do it to you as well. You aren't the bad person as you didn't know, but now that you do if would be wrong to stay.

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