One kid vs. two, or more. Which one is better?
I grew up with three brothers, and I have to say, I loved having siblings. I'm not sure what it would have been like having a sister, but I'm sure I would have loved it too. I didn't always get along with my brothers (I remember breaking their Lego castles and deflating their footballs... and they retaliated by decapitating my Barbie doll! Grrr...), but as we grew up, we became closer. So from that point of view, having more than one kid is great, because it gives them a companion for life.
HOWEVER - I don't think having more than one kid is the responsible thing to do if it interferes with your ability to give your child a good, whole life. If you are having financial, personal, or professional problems with one kid, then having another will only make things worse. It is totally worth it to have more than one kid, I think, IF you can afford to give those kids good and equal care and good and equal opportunities in life. The trick is: don't be selfish, but DO be realistic. Children are a huge responsibility.
Hope this helps!
I have a 17yr old girl, 13yr old boy, 7yr old girl.
"If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child?" - I don't know who said this, but it's somewhat true.
My personal opinion: Live is a crazy adventure filled with highs and lows. Live it to the fullest and take the pleasure out of it where it exists.
Children are a lot of hard work. At the same time, they really challenge a person and make life interesting. If you want children, have them. It will hamper your life in some ways, but make it more interesting in others.
There is a good chance that you will have a baby boy. 50/50 at least.
Remember the first one is the beta test. The second child is your chance to raise one right.
If you have 3 children, they can gang up on you.
If you want a child, go for it. Do your best to raise them well and tell them you love them everyday.
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