Double-dating right? Sounds adventurous but looks insane too! I would have to reason first;Tina,Chioma,Nnenna,Christy,Chelsea,Anne,Julie,Rosy,Gina,Funmi,Aisha,Rhobo,Ibiye,Ufok,Tanya,Sabrena,Lila...o no, i rather choose one so my peener can rest...
I very much appreciate the question of Lady_E... For men, it is "can you cope with more than one wife". For ladies, it is "could you deal with being a second wife" and not "can you deal with more than one husband". Really surprising.
For Usmanali, there is no limit for greed. You can have any numbe of wives, if you can keep them honorably. But you cannot give that privilege to your partner. It is better to do what we expect from others. (In Hindu myths, Emperor Dasaratha had 60000 unofficial wives and four official wives. But his son Rama was devoted to one wife only, called Sita.)
Regarding giving privilage to women ... well ... Firstly you should realise, that man is more sexual than the woman. Biogically, a man can perform his duty as a husband, even after he has more than one wife… which a woman, if she has more than one husband, she will not be able to perform her duty, as a wife, enough and satisfactorily. Medical Science tells us that… ‘a lady… during her menstrual period, undergoes certain behavioral and psychological changes… in which she is mentally disturbed and therefore… the majority of the quar¬rels that take place are during the menstrual period.
Further if a man who has more than one wife, if he marries and if he has children, the identification of both the parents is possible - The father can be identified, and as well as the mother can be identified. In the other case, if a wife has more than one husband, you will only identify the mother, not the father. Islam gives utmost importance, to identification of the parents. And Psychologists tell us that… ‘If a child cannot identify his parents, he undergoes mental trauma’. No wonder the children of prostitutes, they have a very bad childhood. And if the child goes for admission in the school, and if he is asked… ‘What is the name of the father?’… You will have to give 2 names - and you know what the child is called.
I agree that a male "role model" is important to a child's self-esteem, but it does not have to be the "birth" father...many people have been quite happy and successful with men who have acted as "surrogate" fathers. Also, nowadays, at least in the US, there is such a thing called DNA testing. Scientific proof of who the father is...just swab the inside of the cheek of all parties involved and there is no question.
As for men wanting and or needing more sex, that is absolutely not true, especially when a man gets older or a man has medical problems. Bigamy is merely an excuse for a man to screw around without having to leave the house.
In Islam it is acceptable to have more than one wife but only by certain terms. And it is also prescribed that if you find one who is true to stick with that one. While this is my religion, I am not comfortable with polygamy.
Could a woman have two husbands? I think it should be fair. Personally, though, to each his own. I don't like to see women being turned into chattle, but if that is not the case... and the man can afford two women... Go for it. It works for Hef.
I'm somewhere between single and married, so I'll chime in . Personally, I'm a very jealous kind of person and wouldn't be able to "share". However, I'm sure a large part of this is because of the culture I was raised with as well as the views on marriages in the US. In some countries and cultures (both past and present) marriage has had many uses other than the joining of two people that love each other. I suppose if I weren't in love with my husband, there would be the possibility of comfortably co-existing with the other wives. As is, heck no!
It is perfectly unacceptable for me. I get jealous even if he starts praising some of his pretty female colleagues. It just doesn't seem fair for women to have to deal with that kind of situation on a daily basis. I read somewhere that even in US there are some sects which practice polygamy (and women's role becomes subhuman where except for child bearing/rearing no decision making is granted to them). Well anyway that is my view.
I always hated that saying - it's about time someone called it out for making no sense!
As for the sharing thing: I'd say I'm not for it - I definitely couldn't share a guy (hubscore be damned lol) and having a bunch of men to pick up after? I did that when I had male roommates back in the day, nah. I'll pass
I'm with you, Teresa - I am very happy for someone else to accompany him on those infernal camping trips where you have to carry in all your own food and water, and dig holes in the ground to poop ... I'l be off with someone else in a 5-star hotel, thank you very much!
Hey Teresa maybe my score may go up one point too. Yes I want 5 husbands but I only want to be one wife. Can you imagine picking up 5 lots of dirty jocks off the bathroom floor everyday, the toilet seat would be forever up, they would all have to go see Cindy first so she can house train them.
I know religion doesn't allow it, but I think that if a husband can treat all of the wifes equally, then it should be allowed. With so many problems as it is with abuse of women in relationships, I don't think it is a great idea unless somehow that changes.
Think about it 5 husbands 1. an accountant to work things out 2. a doctor to act out the doctor/nurse thingy 3. A checkout operator to press the right buttons 4. A trawlerman to bring home lots and lots of prawns everyday 5. A musician to make some sweet music with See it all makes sense
I would not share a wife with anyone; I insist on being adored and held as the center of the universe. However, as the center of the universe, it is only natural that many heavenly bodies be in my orbit, so I'm totally in support of me having multiple wives.
You are free to amuse yourselves after my needs are met as you like (barring contact with other men), and yes, feel free to use my credit cards. However, you may not leave me without my permission once they are maxed out, and I do prefer that you are gainfully employed so you can pay them off. That'd be great, and I do appreciate how we are on the same page here. I feel like we've really connected just now.
Yeah, I did see it. That was good. Rough way to make a living though. lol.
And the choices thing, yeah, I think we've already discussed the end of male dominance on that robust women hub. The only thing guys ever had was brute strength and the ability to "provide." Women can provide for themselves, and brute strength is not a means of securing mates anymore now that the whole club-her-over-the-head-and-drag-her-to-the-cave thing is over. We got nothing left.
Oh, so you like it rough and in control. Nice. You'll fit into my universe nicely.
If the men can have two wives which many countries have it , I believe then it should also allow women to have two husbands. It is only fair, what is good for the man should be good for the woman. As for me personally I would not share my husband with another woman as I like for it to be all mine.
Well, I was amazed when I went to Xi'An and visited an old stone age village to see that the ancient Chinese culture was a matriarchal one, where one woman had many husbands, each with a special duty or job as Blonde pointed out. You see Blonde, we're just two stone-age women!
Hey AE, three of us can start our own commune, just us and a herd of men like stud bulls. We'd have to have so many men as with so many men to please we wouldn't be able to do any work, all the men will have to take care of the chores while we are busy pleasuring!
One guy do to be the handyman ( electrical repairs, techie stuff,kill cockroaches) One to be a driver, and man enough to ask directions One to dig the garden, clean the pool One to humor, entertain,escort etc One Spare who doesnt like sports (therefore will not hog ,or switch channels when moi goes to pee, or let dog out.
Yep five oughta do it ,but ok economys down , we all gotta cut back so never let it be said I was greedy , three will be fine.
ROFL well GT pack your bags now for the weekend she also said she will give you some spending money. Yes Cindy I agree we got to add Pest in to this massive gang bang. Hey he called me up the other day after all this time. I was so happy to hear from him.
Mmmmm please save me a piece of chicken preferably the breast, I will come pick you up in my Porche and drive you out to the others. I will have a Dora Explorer mask on so noone gets upset at your pad.
I agree with you. One wife is certainly enough for one man. (They should both be the centre of each other's universe). Your comments about Muslim Men - having to treat each wife equally, I think is impossible for men to do. For starters, what happens on Valentine's day?
May I use this opportunity to thank every one for their interestng, funny and wise comments. Overall, Hubbers don't want more than one Partner.
Overall, people can't imagine how having more than one partner could possibly work, unless they happen to know someone who is happily living that way. And even then, even walking into the home and watching the loving interactions, some people still can't get their heads around it.
Until there is the poly equivalent of "Will and Grace", we will never know what proportion of the population could and would have more than one partner by their own inherent inclinations, because we are all so ruthlessly indoctrinated that monogamy is the only healthy relationship structure.
I have many friends who have taken on an open relationship. If that is what makes them happy or at least perk their curiosity, then so be it. I found it to be more romantic to remain in one relationship and continue to create wild sexy interests. Spice is something most do not dare try because they think it's "not me" or "that is stupid".
I like wild things, or at least excitement when you least expect it, like going out and fondling one another during a rather boring gathering with friends at pub. Staying home with dinner around the fireplace, candles lit, dining in the nude. Why would a loving couple need a third party to spice it up ??
I'm going to bring a few crates of South African wines and some of that gold medal camembert the French are so pissed about at the moment. Can you believe it, they are upset that a South African camembert has just beaten them and won the gold medal as the world's best camembert cheese? Those silly French. Okay, have to get ready now and hop into the shower! Catchya later!
Oh well I was brought up in little sunny QLD where my mom always used to say,you got to share the water before it all runs out in the hot water tank, so yeah I guess that is settled then. Can you pass the soap over when you are finished?
I couldn't have two wives, i feel like you don't have a lifelong soulmate one on one kinda connection with 2 people, by the way, im new to the site, everyone should check out my stuff, its very random and i think pretty unique
Blondepoet, Oh c'mon girl!! You love someone and you want to share that with someone else? I don't think so. If I love a person in my life then I am going to do everything to make that person happy. I'll cook in the nude, which I have done many times. I will rub their body in scented oils, as long as I can lick every part of the body. My goal is to make that special person feel good and relaxed being together. Oh, yeah, there was this time in the 70's when I did a groupie thing, but I blame it on the weed....
Anyway guys I just made some hot spicy noodles, the house is as quiet as a mouse, am going to spread myself on my fluffy couch and watch a cool movie on my widescreen TV, oh a woman's work is never done. I shall daydream about my rendevous growlllll. See youx0x0
talking about fans, this air conditioner doesn't appear to be working and its hot as Hades here, so would love a couple of young studs wearing man-kinis to stand on either side of me and fan me with some big palm fronds.
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