i had/have a guy best friend for 8yrs.We lived 2gether til i got pregnant.He was

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   mandy84txposted 13 years ago

   i had/have a guy best friend for 8yrs.We lived 2gether til i got pregnant.He was even there for...
   
   me when my daughter was born.He cut the cord.We never had sex or kissed other than the forehead.I moved 2 tx w/o telling him and we didnt talk 4 he saids was 3yrs.We recently started talking again only 2 fight about why im still w/ no no good boyfriend(who is also the father of my kids)his words not mine.He saids he loves me like a sister but if he was my true friend wouldnt he be happy for me as long as i am happy?He also told me as long as i am w/ my kids father he and i cant be friends.Is he wanted something more than friendship or do i need 2 cut the all tides w/ him b/c he doesnt respect

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   tmbridgelandposted 13 years ago

   He was your best friend for eight years. Do you trust him? Do you believe he wants what is best for you?
   What is your kid's father really like? Is he a good man, or is he really as bad as your friend thinks he is?
   You have to answer these questions for yourself, because we don't know you or these two guys.

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   mandy84txposted 13 years ago

   i trust him w/ my life & kids and i know he only wants the best for me as i do for him.My kids father makes mistakes he's not perfect but im happy w/ him.I just dont understand how after 8yrs i make one mistake and he accuses me of choosing my kid's father over him.

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   iamnotfrancisposted 13 years ago

   I think your best friend got really disappointed when you moved to texas without telling him. maybe he felt like you betrayed him.
   
   If okay for him to tell you he's not approve of you staying with your kids' father. But it's not okay to fight over it to the extent that you guys fight like couples. If you're happy then he should also be happy even if he doesn't agree with you staying with your kids' father.
   
   It's not that he wants something more than friendship, but maybe it's just that he cannot take the fact that you are still with your "no good boyfriend" and he sees you getting hurt all the time (if ever you are)

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   dabeanerposted 13 years ago

   A bimbo boo-hoo "question" typical of hundreds, if not thousands, here.  Why did you screw it up, such as it was, by not getting an abortion?
   
   Furthermore, your question statement is not all that coherent -- friend, father, ??, so I am not going to try to decipher and analyze it further.

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   S Bollingerposted 13 years ago

   Mandy to me it sounds like in his eyes you were more then just a friend to him.  ( your words) " I just dont understand how after 8yrs i make one mistake and he accuses me of choosing my kid's father over him."  mistake was you getting pregnant by someone else. and moving out when he was not there?  Last 4 word maybe the key, You chose someone else over him.  In his eyes he was with you, went to hospital when you had your little one. He seen you and the baby as apart of his world. An when you left with not even telling him it tore him apart. He may never admit it but it sure sounds like it.

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   Old Empresarioposted 13 years ago

   It's none of his business. Your friend seems to think you've betrayed him somehow, but you owe him nothing. This situation is actually very common.
   
   The bottom line is that your children will want to be with their real father. I think it is good to give him a second chance. If you tell this friend of yours off, I think he will leave you alone.

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