Do you believe that people are unhappy because they have unrealistic expectation

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   technoricanposted 13 years ago

   Do you believe that people are unhappy because they have unrealistic expectations of life?

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   Buddzzzposted 13 years ago

   I think that is one way to look at it, but another is that people are unhappy because they have realistic expectations but they do not take action to proceed towards their goal.
   
   People in general have a short attention span and can get sidetracked very easily.
   
   Very interesting topic though. I will be following you from here out

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   L.C. Smithposted 13 years ago

   I believe many people are unhappy because they are too concerned about how well everyone else is doing in comparison to themselves.  "The grass is always greener..." can cause people to never stop, take a breath and realize they need to appreciate exactly where they are and how far they have come to get there.  Then, you can move forward.

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   waynetposted 13 years ago

   People might be unhappy because they have negative expectations which might stem from a false positive that they didn't try hard enough to attain!

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   FloBeposted 13 years ago

   I think people are unhappy because they feel it is their "right" to have everything they want or desire. A lot of people believe these things should just come to them and they should not need to put out any effort to make it happen. There is a sense of great satisfaction from achieving a goal that you've worked hard to reach.
   I also think that people are unhappy because they think that acquiring "things" will make them happy and when it doesn't, they feel disillusioned by an unfulfilled promise. They believe that if they do "A" then "B" must happen, but that is just not life and that kind of thinking will almost always end up in disappointment. Developing a thankful heart will put people in a state of mind where happiness can thrive.

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   C.V.Rajanposted 13 years ago

   Very much. Most people are unhappy because
   - They have very unrealistic expectations in life totally ignoring whether they deserve or are qualified to receive them
   
   - They have very unrealistic expectations from others, but are too generous to ignore their own limitations and failings.

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   Karen Wodkeposted 13 years ago

   Perhaps that is part of it. Another part, in my view, is that too many people rely on other people or things to make them happy instead of finding happiness in their own pursuits.

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   jasper420posted 13 years ago

   defentiy the lower expectaions means less disapointment less disapointment means a happier you

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   UglyBobposted 13 years ago

   In a way. I think the more pertinent point is that most people don't really know what it is that they need to make them happy, and simply follow some vague, general idea of what should bring happiness - for example, the pursuit of things such as wealth and power. These things can be useful in obtaining whatever it is an individual needs to be happy, but in of themselves they cannot bring happiness. People need to think hard, and be honest with themselves about what will make them happy.

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    bulaloposted 13 years ago

    Life is what we make it... I remember that song.
    
    I think people are happy because they choose to.

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    Tony DeLorgerposted 13 years ago

    People are unhappy because they don't realise that it is a decision not the result of anything. Expectations of life should be boundless. Putting a boundary on possibility simply restricts it. We create our earthly reality and have control over it. So if you are so misguided as to want to blame someone for your problems- look in a mirror. You got yourself where you are and you can undo it and recreate a better life. The power is in your hands, always. Never expect anything, simply work for want you want.

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    marksmommyposted 13 years ago

    answers were okay but having a mental disorder waas never mentioned.some people want to be happy but no matter how hard they try they just cant im not making excuses but having an mental disorder such as bipolar,panic attacks which i suffer from and deppression is no light matter and a serious health risk they have already proved how stress hardens your arteries.stress which is compounded with deppression.a heart attack waiting to happen.i dont have unrealistic expectations of life i dont wanna be rich with a 10,000 square foot mansion i'd be happy with acottage in the woods.i had a really shitty childhood and thats where my unhappiness started

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