How do you think your life would be different if you wouldn't have had a father?

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   Nspeelposted 12 years ago

   How do you think your life would be different if you wouldn't have had a father?
   
   For those that were born or raised without a father? What was it like? what were some of the obstacles you had to overcome? Did it make you a better person today?
   
   

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   Jlbowdenposted 12 years ago

   Hello Neil:
   
   For most of my life I always had both parents in my life, so I could not imagine what it would be like growing up without either one of them. I do know someone who had their father leave her and her two other sisters when she was only two years old. And from what I can tell this had left some deep emotional scars for this individual as she grew older. I would think that women are affected more so than men, by not having a father in their younger years as they are maturing. A father figure is important for a well-rounded life for both guys and gals I believe. But a mother is equally important for the development of a youth as they make the transition from a child to an adolescent. It all depends on the individual make-up of that person I guess. In a way it can make you a better person in many ways and be able to handle situations more responsibly. Nothing is impossible to handle in this world no matter what the situation is. That's my philosophy and if you have that survival instinct instilled within you, you will be able to overcome many obstacles, even growing up without one or both parents. There is always someone watching over all of us-try to remember that and it may ease any inner anxiety you are having about all of your concerns.  The best to you.
   
   JL

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   My dad died when I was 8 and it left a hole.  Being that young I didn't really understand the grief.  I do know that I became acutely aware of fathers and daughters and really spent a lot of time wishing and pretending I had a dad.
   
   No, I don't think it made me a better person.  I'm an only child and my mom died when I was 15 so both deaths left a hole that I have tried too often to fill with food.

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   OutsideTheLinesposted 12 years ago

   I haven't seen my dad since i was about 4 and he died a few years back. It was rough, but it's whatever. It made me who I am today and I feel stronger because of it. It took me a long time to see it like that, but if I could change a single thing...I wouldn't. The biggest obstacle would be overcoming a fear of being left. It's only gotten better in the last year, but I'm working on it. I let it rule my life too long.

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