Does the size of the stone on the ring really matter?

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   PK2010posted 12 years ago

   Does the size of the stone on the ring really matter?
   
   We live in a world where materialism reigns supreme and where social status is measured by looks and material gain, so when choosing an engagement ring in our material world, does the size of the stone matter?
   
   

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   pharuk temmy tposted 12 years ago

   Well what matters most is the reason for the ring which is engagement and not how many stones its on ring. You should feel ontop of the world by engaging and it should be a thing of heart not of materials.

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   Sherry Hewinsposted 12 years ago

   Of course it matters, size always matters.

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   PurvisBobbi44posted 12 years ago

   No, only the size of your love matters. One can always get a bigger diamond, but a true love is harder to find.

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   savanahlposted 12 years ago

   Those who are broke say it doesn't matter and those who can afford it say that it does matter.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   Not to me.  I've been married for 41 years to a man I adore and I don't wear a wedding ring.  What matters is how happy the engages couple is, if they like a small stone, or no stone at all - it is what they want and what makes them happy.  The rest of the world can just BUTT out.

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   Buttercupbbposted 12 years ago

   I choose not to put too much value on material things because everything we have can be taken away from us in an instant.  What matters is what's left after all the material things have been taken away, so no, the size of the stone does not matter.  It's the commitment that the ring symbolizes that matters.

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   Hezmyjoyposted 12 years ago

   You wouldn't think so, but guys are odd. I know that women like to see the beautiful piece of jewelry and be so dazzled that of course she is going to say yes. For that, I wonder if she loves the man or the jewelry.
   
   At the same time, when an interested man approaches this newly engaged woman, the interested party sizes up the ring to see how much the intended loves the woman of this man's desires. Would he pursue her anyway if there was a big enough stone to be the deterrent?
   
   And then you have the woman, who does so much for her husband but then you see this chip of a diamond on her finger, it just makes me angry to see that he could have done better in getting what she deserves. The amount of work she is doing for him and having his big headed children on top of all of that... really?
   
   So in a nutshell, oh yeah! He better have a big enough ring for her especially if he knows what kind of guy she will have to put up with in him.

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   setarehposted 12 years ago

   I'd say no but because for myself, i quite like small elegant rings maybe with one small stone. Understated is just as beautiful as the opposite.

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    visorlessposted 12 years ago

    I would have to say that the size doesn't matter at all. In fact, in my opinion, the size of the rock is an indication of how much the union is based on money. Marriage, or any other binding contract of the same sort, shouldn't be based solely on money. That only makes things bad in the long wrong I think. I personally would be happy with a bit of string tied around my finger, though I would be even happier with nothing there, as I believe in the school of thought marriage doesn't need a physical item to prove its worth. If you love someone, and they love you back, why do you need to prove that to the rest of the world with several thousand dollars on a finger? Ridiculous, if you ask me.
    Go to 25cent machine in the front of a grocery store, insert coin, twist, receive plastic bubble, open bubble, get plastic ring...win.

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       kathleenkatposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Interesting that this would be the first thing to pop up when "following" your Hubpage. Where's my plastic grocery store ring?

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    Old Empresarioposted 12 years ago

    I read in Emily Post once that it's better to buy a ring with a pretty semi-precious stone than one with a tiny diamond. Diamonds are for the wealthy.

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       gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       SMART answer indeed!

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    THEHuG5posted 12 years ago

    I personally don't think so but I really don't care about those kinds of things. As long as the ring is REAL and not something out of a gumball machine I'm perfectly fine with whatever size it is. Someone spending their hard earned money on me is enough of a gesture. Who cares what size the ring is.

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    Laura Matkinposted 12 years ago

    A very wealthy couple I know have been married for 37 years.  The rings they bought 38 years ago came out of a pawn shop.  They bought new rings on their 20th wedding anniversary.  1 year after their 20th anniversary they stopped wearing their new rings and now go without any rings, the pawn shop rings were their 'real' wedding rings and irreplaceable.   The size of the ring does not matter when two people really love one another it's the commitment and not the cosmetic.

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    uploadmeposted 12 years ago

    HEZMYJOY
    
    YOU WILL NEVER STAY MARRIED WITH THAT MENTALITY BECAUSE MEN
    DO NOT WANT TO BELIEVE THAT HE IS BUYING YOU AS IF YOU ARE A
    PROSTITUTE OR SLAVE.

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       Hezmyjoyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       UPLOADME Guess what? I am not alone. This is the real world. Gone are the days of pretense and playing house. If he is serious with actual matrimony - he will do what is right rather than listening to the voice of his wallet.

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    modgirlokposted 12 years ago

    It's the meaning behind the ring that matters most.

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    onlookerposted 12 years ago

    Well it does to me. I'd rather be a realist than a greedy hypocrite. Happiness and love matters too, no doubt about that but i wouldn't mind a 2-4carat minimum VS1, G to H quality solitaire hahaha. I am being honest, people are different you know and i embrace myself the way i am

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    Catzgendronposted 12 years ago

    Each individual has different taste.  I myself prefer small dainty rings because I have small hands and short fingers.  I also feel that if you love the person who has given you the ring it shouldn't matter.

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    TARYN3posted 12 years ago

    Before thinking about the size of the stone, you should think about whether its true love or not.  Yes we live in a material world but that doesnt have to affect your engagement. Id be more concerned with the size of the connection we share.  Id want that to out shine any stone on any ring.

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    womenintouchposted 12 years ago

    If the person you are marrying can afford it then great, but if not do not put pressure on the person. There are more important things to spend money on when you are getting married.
    
    Many couples spend too much time on the planning of the wedding and buying expensive things to make the wedding look good. And spend very little time really getting to know one another, discussing where they will live, how they will raise their children, if they choose to have them. Learning to communicate is so important.
    
    Knowing what to expect from each other after the big day is so important. You can buy the most expensive ring and in two weeks you can stand one another and the ring means nothing at that point. I would rather have money in the bank than a $10,000.00 ring.

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    msorenssonposted 12 years ago

    There is no requirement for an engagement ring even. Just a promise of the heart would do, for me anyway.

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    Thelma Albertsposted 12 years ago

    No, not to me. I´m married for 31 years and my ring has  no stone at all. What matters most is how happy I am to reached these years of being married.

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