Should you consider leaving your significant other as you develop with age?

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   nasser deepposted 10 years ago

   Should you consider leaving your significant other as you develop with age?
   
   As we get older , we get wiser or perhaps less wise. Any way our views and preferences change with time. Should we then look for other partners to share our evolving personality?

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   JimTxMillerposted 10 years ago

   With that kind of attitude, I suggest your significant other (assuming you have one) should leave you. The sooner the better for her/him.

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   lburmasterposted 10 years ago

   Not at all. You do not even sound close to a significant other. My husband is 12 years older than me yet that does not mean squat for our relationship. Yes, we have changes as we age but that is part of being married, going through those changes together. Getting remarried does not help you in any way. Your next relationship will be just as worthless until you realize the value of being with someone for the long haul.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   As time goes on we're either "growing together" or "growing apart".
   Before any dramatic decisions are made it's important to discuss your wants and needs with your mate. Communication is the GPS for relationships.
   Having said that I believe each of us is responsible for (our) own happiness. You get to decide who you want to spend your time with. If someone is unhappy in a relationship and they (choose) to stay then they are (choosing) to be unhappy.
   I don't believe in staying together just for the sake of staying together. If you are not "in love" or you feel the urge to cheat on your mate it's best to move on. Although everyone will tell you to end one relationship before starting another not many people approve of breakups or divorces unless there is some type of "abuse".
   Only you can decide what is (right) for you. You don't need to be abused or mistreated to give yourself permission to end a relationship. If you are unhappy don't rob yourself or your mate's time by going "through the motions" when you both could be with others where there is a (mutual) desire to be together. It's not about "right" or "wrong". It's about "agree" or "disagree". Ultimately we are all looking for someone who (naturally agrees) with us on the major things in life.
   "There is no amount of (work) or (communication) that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want."
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. The path you choose is up to you!

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      nasser deepposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Staying in a relation for the sake of pleasing other people  will only harm you and your partner. Although I think  you could stay for  your wife or kids's sake as long as you still have more common grounds than differences.

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