Do you think you are able to be honest with yourself about your flaws?

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   Denise Handlonposted 9 years ago

   Do you think you are able to be honest with yourself about your flaws?
   
   If a friend pointed out a bad habit you have, would you be able to be self reflective and open, or defensive?
   
   

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   Katrina Speightsposted 9 years ago

   To a certain extent yes I can be honest with myself about my flaws. For instance, I don't like it when some points them out unless I'm asking for the help. It really irks me when someone does this who is the same way... Anyway, I know I can be short tempered, lazy and a host of other issues I don't wish to discus on an online forum. I've been trying to learn to trust myself more and part of that process is to learn your flaws and work with what you have rather than trying to force something I'm not ready for. I guess you could say I'm learning to love myself, looking within. Hope this helps, and sorry if I rambled a bit.

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      Denise Handlonposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Katrina, you're smart not to advertise online what you wish to keep to yourself.  I agree-I usually am amused when someone tries to project their junk onto me.  Life is a work in progress; just be patient & let things unfold.

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   Marilyn Gentryposted 9 years ago

   I can accept when I am at fault and ready to accept it and the consequences. At first, if I am pointing out of my mistake, I'll be disappointed but when I am alone I am thinking about it if what is the best ways to handle it.

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      Denise Handlonposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I hear what you are saying, Marilyn.  I've improved my ability to filter what others are picking at me unnecessarily, though.

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      Marilyn Gentryposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I know I have flaws too, but there are really times that is hard to take and see the reality and it takes time.

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   Rodricklewisposted 9 years ago

   If you can view yourself...DONT. Most people will focus on the bad things about themselves as that's what society teaches us to do. It's a fun little thing called self hate. If your friend doesn't like something you do, and you're okay with it. Well forget them and get new friends.

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      Katrina Speightsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, but if you want to really know yourself you have to know the good and the bad. You can't deny anything.

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      Rodricklewisposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      No you cant deny and fixing your flaws should of course be a goal. A major one at that. But if you're just going threw looking for flaws... Just seems like a set up for failure.

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      Denise Handlonposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your input.  I see your point.  I listen to others at times, & follow my own heart.  Self reflection or self inquiry is important to get to the truth, I feel.

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   fpherj48posted 9 years ago

   Denise.....I am one of those women who may be a little too critical of herself.  I have no delusions of Super Stardom, that's for sure.  Being honest with one's self is something I take very seriously and I have little problem accepting that there will always be something to "work on."
   My sister and I (Rest her precious soul) were pretty good at keeping each other grounded and able to self-analyze.....and she was definitely my dearest friend of all.  We knew one another extremely well and also shared the same sense of humor, so that really helped in keeping each other in line.
   As for "others" pointing out what they may see as a flaw......it really depends on WHO that particular person is and their attitude behind it all.
   I can be self-reflective if I happen to have a lot of respect and admiration for this person and value their opinion.  If they themselves are some schmuck, riddled with blatant personality flaws and simply like to criticize others to take the focus off them......I'd take their comments for what they're worth.  Nothing. 
   Then there is my 4 adult sons......who have convinced me that if not for them, I would be a complete train wreck.  It's like I have these 4 life coaches.....teachers, Dads, bosses......continually pointing out how I should do things rather than the way I've done them for 50 years......advising me on everything from A to Z.    Yeah, "them".....(sigh).....really Denise, I have no idea what I would ever do without their constant direction......BECAUSE you know, they're MEN and sooooo much smarter than I am.   God help me.  LOL.
   I listen like a good little Mom....and then will make some sort of wise crack....like..."Gosh, thanks....you are so smart and sensible....you must have been raised by one brilliant mother!"   
   You know how the saying goes....."Revenge is getting old enough to be a problem to your kids!"
   Great question, Denise.

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      Denise Handlonposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I LOVE your response to your kids! lol  I recently had a family confrontation about my wt & was hurt, so I conferred with another sibling who had the same concerns.  I told them I would 'look' at this openly & w/o defense.  Hard to do at time

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