My RANT. Busy-Bodies. Why is it that some people stay in other people's busines

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   realtalk247posted 9 years ago

   My RANT.
   Busy-Bodies. Why is it that some people stay in other people's business?  Why? Why? Why?
   
   What business of it is yours what car someone drives, where they work, where they live, or how much money they have?  The more ignorant the culture, the more "normal" the practice. Why are people so concerned about what someone else is doing? Are these people ignorant, not realizing, in the end the race is long and it is only with yourself?   Mean Girl says:  Maybe if you spend more time addressing the issues of YOUR life you wouldn't be a failure. Secure, happy people, do not spend time measuring and comparing themselves to others.  Stay in your lane, looking life Pearl from 227 eavesdropping

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   Express10posted 9 years ago

   You accurately describe a colleague or neighbor for approximately 60% - 70% of the country. Increasingly you may find that people are very rude and ignorant of the fact that there are social & ethical boundaries that should not be crossed. Unfortunately there are many people who choose to act like arses when it comes to others but would NEVER stand for the same treatment they dish out. To determine if one falls into that last category, fling back the exact same treatment they dish out and witness their offense. Note they have no sympathies when dishing their ill behavior.
   
   However, particularly if you are allowing someone new into your life or if someone you love (child, spouse, etc.) is, it is completely valid to state facts and habits that are easily proven or seen to avoid having criminals, drama queens, groupies and others with negative motives into your inner circle. This is ENTIRELY different from gossips and busy bodies because it is based on their (easily proven or seen) habits and facts. Stating facts about another person comes from a place of caring for yourself and your loved ones rather than a place of negativity such as being a nosy busy body.

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      realtalk247posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Express10 you made a great point about social norms and boundaries.  Randon strangers should not ask you where you work, live, or what st you used to arrive at your destination. This demand to know others business does not happen in all states.

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   ReneeDC1979posted 9 years ago

   From the time we are little, we are taught to compete and go for what others have -to be better than others, so it becomes second nature for us to compare what we have to others and worry about what others are thinking doing, what they have, how they are spending their money..etc..etc.  It's up to us to teach people to be happy and satisfied with what they have.  Think about it -how often do people focus on the American Dream - owning a large house and nice car that they can't afford- we need to focus on Our Dream -what works in our means and truly makes us happy.

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      realtalk247posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      ReneeDC1979 -Maybe I'm missing my second nature.  Compete with yourself. Achievers: 1. serve as inspiration for me to pursue my dreams. 2. ask them how they achieved success.My dreams are mine for the lifestyle and goals I have,not defined by others.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   You ever notice this rarely happens among "strangers"?
   It's usually one's "so called friends" or "acquaintances"  and family members who are quick to offer "unsolicited advice".
   Fortunately we get to (choose) who we spend our time with and what information (we choose) to share with them.
   Once we figure out how someone is it starts to fall back on us if we insist on associating with them. We can only control ourselves.
   It's naïve to expect people to change. They'll only do so if they're (unhappy) with the results (they) are getting out of life.

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   realtalk247posted 9 years ago

   Dashing Scorpio you made good points as usual however I have to disagree with this statement: "It's naïve to expect people to change. They'll only do so if they're (unhappy) with the results (they) are getting out of life."
   
   1. From my perspective I do expect people to change. I expect people to concern themselves with their own lives and not spend time fishing for information about other people.
   2. How many dysfunctional people do you know that are Krazy (yes I know it's spelled crazy) who make their Krazy normal?  Unhappy and miserable yet determined to make others miserable.  For some reason they love to wallow in the mud with pigs instead of choosing to exit the filthy pig pen, clean up, and choose a higher road.  It was once said by an artist: you are miserable so what you do is try and partner with someone with their life together in an attempt to bring them down to your level of misery.

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