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   xmagsposted 11 years ago

   Why do some people love to shove their ideas and beliefs down other people's throats?
   
   You know, there are certain people with certain beliefs. They believe that only their idea is right and nothing else is. If you don't believe them for whatever reason, they call you names -- ignorant, moron, yada, yada. Why can't they accept that not everyone will accept their beliefs as truth? Why do they have to resort to name-calling and condemning?

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   Vlorsutesposted 11 years ago

   I think it comes down to a matter of trying to validate their own believes to themselves. The whole mindset of "It's not so much that I think that I'm right, so much as I need other people to think that I'm right". Having other people believe in what you believe makes your belief in it all the stronger, so when you come across someone that doesn't believe what you do, your first response would be to try and convert them.
   
   If they come to believe in your beliefs, then that's all the better for you, because you see that you've "helped" them be a better person in some form. If, despite your attempts, they continue to not believe what you do, then you see them as inferior and stupid for not being able to grasp something "so simple and correct".
   
   Some people are willing to accept that others have a differing opinion than they do and, while they may not agree with the opinion itself, they're accepting of the fact that the person has their own opinion. Others just can't or won't accept the idea of there being an opinion other than their own, that their way is "correct", and when they come to someone that has a "wrong" opinion, they feel obligated to try and correct them because they think they're doing that person a service, that they're making that person better overall.

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      xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You have a point. It may be true that they do this to affirm their beliefs to themselves and maybe name-calling and condemnation is their way of responding to how people might not want what you refer to as their "service". Thanks Vlorsutes.

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   pujabhatiaposted 11 years ago

   i disagree with your idea :p. It is as simple as that you do not have to care about what other people wants from you.

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      Vlorsutesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That is true. Unfortunately it seems that a lot of people feel the need to validate their beliefs and opinions by getting others to believe them, and can't simply accept that others may have differing opinions.

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      kallini2010posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think it is not very easy at all - I remember that some people who disagreed were burnt alive at some time in history.

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Or crucified.

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      Eunice Stuhlhoferposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      If you have ever invited someone to drink, party, gossip, smoke or even shared hateful and prejudiced ideas about anyone or anything, you were trying to force something down someone's throat. Only this time it wasn't  religious stuff. I wouldn't worr

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      xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You have a point Eunice. However, those kinds of conversations don't lead to condemnation. Kaitlin's also right. You can't not care about what others think because you know their opinion of you it will affect you one way or another.

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   sarahmooseposted 11 years ago

   I think it is pure disrespect for anybody else, and the arrogance to think your own ideas and beliefs are the only way to view the world. This is so apparent when you have children - everyone knows the best way, and tries to make you follow their advice!! When people are happy to offer advice and leave you to decide for yourself, that is fine, but trying to push it onto you is rude.

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      xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You are absolutely right, though I don't have children of my own yet, I think that is very true in that case. People were given brains for them to use. Others should let them do just that.

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   athurionposted 11 years ago

   People who believe that only their idea is right are still immature.  "A child trapped in adult's body"

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      Brinafr3shposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Many people these days are getting caught up in New Age Religion instead of focusing on the best seller The Bible.

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      Lady Guinevereposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Brin: Jesus was considered New Age in his time and the Bible is not the whole truth, only 1/10 of it and it has been mistranslated and manipulated so much.

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      ChristinSposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry, but a lot of us New Agers are very tolerant and open minded - a terrible generalization Brina and people who read the Bible aren't always decent and many who don't still are.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      @athurion, such people are UNEVOLVED & UNDEVELOPED.  They are also fearful of differences lest such differences disturb THEIR particular equilibrium.

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   Lady Guinevereposted 11 years ago

   I have seen a pattern with these types of people over the 5 years that I have been on HubPages.  It fits the definition of a Cult or Sect.  It is sad because they are trained in this from birth by their parent's who think it right to have their children do this and send them to religious training i one way or another.  They seem to think that because they "belong" to some group that they must first and foremost put themselves on some kind of pedestal.  The patter is:  I don't understand you so I will give you scripture (no explanations), You still don't see it my way then you are Satan or/and you are going to hell.  Still don't get it, I will call you names and twist it around so that I make you look like the idiot.
   That is the pattern.  Now you know.

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      xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I actually got the chance to read something very similar to what you described right here on hubpages. It makes me sad because instead of making themselves look better, the opposite happens. They are the ones who look ignorant and stupid.

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   kallini2010posted 11 years ago

   I'd say it's a 50/50 responsibility and opportunity.  If someone "shoves" down anything your throat, it means that you allow them to do it.
   
   It is your job to find a creative solution against being called names or being force-fed with ideas.
   
   Take control over your own life and there will be fewer people being able to "shove down" ideas.
   
   As to the question "Why?", you'd probably have to open a few textbooks such as
   
   "Sociology 101", "Psychology 101", "History of ... everything", "48 Laws of Power".
   
   Pick any and you'll be much better off.
   
   Good luck,

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      Lady Guinevereposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for mentioning those books!  You are right, it is about you--yourself or me the person.  When they start feeding you by the spoonful and it become bitter then you must stop eating their whatever they feed you on the spoon.

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      xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      This really isn't about me but thank you for your suggestion. I have observed people engaging in the same behavior over and over again and I think they're being too closed-minded for this say and age. People have the right to think for themselves.

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   Attikosposted 11 years ago

   People who habitually demand compliance with their views are insecure in them. Strategically, they are uncomfortable in their own principles, tactically they cannot defend their positions. The silencing of dissent, of which shoving ideas down the throats of others is a crude form, is the most common way of avoiding the necessity to think. You see it all the time, with those into leftist politics or conservative religion leading the pack.

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      xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That is very true and I agree with you on that possibility, Attikos. Thank  you for commenting.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      @Attikos, exactly, if they were secure, they wouldn't care what others belief.  There are those who are mindlessly religious like automatons.

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   Brinafr3shposted 11 years ago

   As Christians we are taught to help save souls of others, it's a choice. Christ don't want to force people to live eternal life, He wants those that are willing and righteous.

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      xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That is true. I am a Christian myself and we are taught that if a person disagrees, let them because condemning or arguing with them will not lead to their salvation. In fact, it has the opposite effect. Some still can't grasp this fact though.

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    Marisaupaposted 11 years ago

    Viewing the world through the prism of one's own view of the world is part of human nature.  In some people this manifests itself in the way that you describe in your question.  I agree, that sort of behavior can be annoying.
    
    Of course, being that it is a trait of human nature it is impossible to escape such people.  Usually, those who behave in such a way tend to be the least qualified representatives for their point of view, so you lose nothing in ignoring them.
    
    Basically, one should ignore the partisans, look forward to debating adherents and respect those who would rather remain silent.

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       xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       You are right. That is a great way of dealing with them.Thank you for your suggestions Marisaupa.

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    Georgie Loweryposted 11 years ago

    There do seem to be a lot of those kinds of people these days. Not only do they forcefeed us their opinions, they twist our words around to make it look as if we've said something we haven't. When the insults and namecalling start, I step away because that's the proof I needed that I'm dealing with a little kid in a big people suit. These are just temper tantrums and, in my opinion, these people are just spoiled little kids used to getting their way.

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       xmagsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       That's one way to look at it Georgie. They really must be spoiled kids who are used to getting their way

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    Justsilvieposted 11 years ago

    Some people believe so strongly that their belief is the right one, when confronted by someone who questions their belief or refuses to agree they just cannot accept it.
    
    I think your beliefs belong to you and it is not my business to question or doubt them however should you cross the line and demand I join you in yours I do have the right to tell you to back up and back off.  Another word I am not fond of being hit over the head with any Holy Book and someone who continues to hit me might bring out my verbal fighting spirit!

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    Kiss andTalesposted 8 years ago

    I think this question depends on the person judging as shoving it down the throat. Example medicine a mother or Father wants to give medicine say cough medicine because of sickness , first why do they.,they care about the condition so they take time for the child to adminster the medicine.
    Next from a childs view they do not want any medicine at all they may express by words or a frown. But what power does the child have still avaible to leave the situation or exit. He may with oposition to the perant.
    But as Adults are we little children who will not exercise that right to exit the situation ?
    No ,there are many television programs today , if we do not want to intertain them we change chanels.  So with all that said no one can stop you from turning your device.
    I do not believe anyone can force you to listen or believe anything when you have the right to exit.
    What I believe is the very opposite they want the offender to exit. But the problem is not all people are offended.

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    gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

    
    
    Such people are immature & unevolved.  They are also very authoritarian.  They believe that THEIR way is the only legitimate way.  Any person who believes that their way/belief/lifestyle are the only legitimate ones has to be immature, verging on the childish.  Such people are undeveloped in terms of failing to realizing that each person has his/her own particular path to go, lifestyle options, & other individual beliefs.  Each person is different & there is more than one way in terms of expressing such differences.

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