Good things about raising girls

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   TMinutposted 14 years ago

   If it's okay to ask for hub recommendations, I'm asking. Who writes about the joy of little girls? Doesn't have to be all good but I really need some things that show some things about girls that are nicer than dealing with boys. Boys are all I'm used to and having a little girl around is quite a shock so please help!

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      tobey100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry, I'm the last guy to talk about little girls with my herd of guys.  I do have a granddaughter though.  I'm pretty sure she's a girl but all I do is say 'No problem honey' and 'bye now' when she goes home.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      you can put powder in your face together, and dress them up and they are just sweet, boys can be sweet too, but I find little girls very cuddly, plus they dance too,

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   G Miahposted 14 years ago

   I have a daughter who is just two and she's lovely to be with. She listens to me, gives me a kiss when i ask her to, gives me hugs, shows me love and always runs to me to hols her when i go home from work. I'm not sure if i have a boy, he'll do that, because she's our first. In general i feel girls are more affectionate towards their father, rather than their mother.

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   G Miahposted 14 years ago

   I have a daughter who is just two and she's lovely to be with. She listens to me, gives me a kiss when i ask her to, gives me hugs, shows me love and always runs to me to hols her when i go home from work. I'm not sure if i have a boy, he'll do that, because she's our first. In general i feel girls are more affectionate towards their father, rather than their mother.

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   mistywildposted 14 years ago

   are you a father or mother?

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   TMinutposted 14 years ago

   Grandmother. I'm living with two of my sons; the oldest got custody of his two littles so we have a 4 year old boy and an almost 6 yr old girl. The boy fits right in, all the things I expect. A girl...I don't even know what to think. I'm in desperate need of someone pointing out the good things to look for in girls, some tips on dealing with having one around day to day. (Hope this sounds better now but I still meant the original)

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      mistywildposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree girls are more fun, for one they are typically nicer

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   Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

   I have a 19 year old daughter. Best advice, play with her at her level. Love her for who she is.

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   TMinutposted 14 years ago

   Nicer? That's something I haven't seen. Do you have both?

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      mistywildposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I don't have any, but I have oodles of nieces and nephews and godchildren and the girls are sweeter, the clothes are cuter, and their demeanor is more peaceful.

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   I had two sweet, sweet, lovable, snuggly, little boys (five years apart).  They were the sweetest, nicest, little folks, and I loved dressing them in things like their little Winter camel-hair coats with hats and leggings.  I wondered if I could really love a little girl as much as I loved them, but when my daughter was born (of course) I figured out they'd I've love her every bit as much.     My little boys were little "gentlemen", so to me a lot of what people believe about differences between sons and daughters are just myths.   All three are g rown now, and I'm equally close to all of them.  I've never particularly seen them for whatever sex they are.  To me, all I've ever seen was the human beings they are.

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   habeeposted 14 years ago

   I reared three girls, and now they are all wonderful adults with children of their own. My friends without daughters envy me. I'm sure you've heard the saying, "A son's a son till he takes a wife, but a daughter's a daughter all her life."
   
   Yes, I realize that this quote isn't 100% accurate, but it is often true.

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    TMinutposted 14 years ago

    Lisa, that's what I'm talking about really. My boys were great, caring, loving. They were active and busy, curious. Boys are awesome! I need to hear about your girl.
    
    Everyone, Boys can occupy themselves and don't need to be the center of everyone's attention at all times, girls seem to need that. I don't know how much of my granddaughter's behavior is from how she was raised until now and how much is due to being a girl. I don't want to try to correct behavior for the wrong reasons - if she shows a particularly annoying trait because of how she had been treated, it requires a different response than if it's just something seen often in girls. Coping is different than misbehavior.

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    megs78posted 14 years ago

    You should be able to identify a behaviour problem over 'just being a girl'.  Humans are humans and behaviour, good or bad, is often the same in a girl as in a boy.  If she is being annoying (which, by your posts, I think she probably is), or acting badly or whatever, its probably situational. She may be really bitter right now at whats going on in her life (which seems to be a divorce).  Now add the fact that she is 6 years old, in first grade I assume(a difficult year), adjusting to living with you (who seems to be better with boys, judging by your posts), has lost a full-time mother (the most important role model for her), and what do you get?  A difficult child because they are hurting so badly.  Give her time and give her lots of love.  Girls are not hard to live with.  They certainly have attitude, but they are also deep and observant and perceptive.  She will need you right now gramma, so stop being distant and trying to sort her out.  Just be her gramma and love her.

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    TMinutposted 14 years ago

    megs, reading your post and thinking how much these babies would need if that were all it was, and knowing the real situation these babies have been in that is so much worse makes me determined to try harder with her. Thinking back over my boys and the many other littles I have known, I realize many things don't come out until a child is comfortable. They've actually been with us close to a year now but how that all came about, and hearing some of the comments they've just started making scares the hell out of me! Apparently they weren't just living with 'not the best mom but she loves them', they had to deal with so much. I've heard about duct tape on the mouth on my grandson, for her, she said, "I never know what to hide from the police!" And she's actually in kindergarten, she isn't six quite yet so this is something else quite new. Now I just want to hug her and hold her.

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       megs78posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Well, that changes things a little doesn't it?  I was just responding to what you had written and the way I interpreted it.  Sounds like these kids have gone through hell and most definitely just need to be loved and taken care of.  poor babies.

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    TMinutposted 14 years ago

    The dancing and singing is adorable, that's true! She's actually very graceful, she doesn't do the cute little clunking around that little kids usually do, she's truly graceful. Plus she can sing. She'll need to be taught how to do it right but I've heard a few times what she can do (until she goes to the caterwauling screech and giggles that littles like to end up with :-)  She's very people oriented too, something no one on our side is, something I have to learn to figure out and understand.

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    readytoescapeposted 14 years ago

    well I've raised 6 kids, 5 boys and ONE GIRL.
    
    All five boys combined were easier than the one little girl, who turns into a teenager and went from a sweet 11 to a PIA 25 in about a split second.

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    lrohnerposted 14 years ago

    Having (successfully I think) raised two girls and a boy, I hope I can give you some advice. As you are already seeing, little girls and little boys are worlds apart. Little girls have the mentality of girls years older and they know it. They can be as precious as a gem, as stubborn as a mule and as manipulative as Bernie Maddoff -- and all in a five minute timeframe.
    
    Think about it -- when an adult woman gets all riled up about something, they talk about it. Talking helps to heal the wounds. Little girls of six years old don't have the verbal skills to really say what they are feeling, so they act rather than to speak.
    
    They need understanding, consistency, consequences, love and a realistic set of expectations. Read my hub on teens. It will apply here.
    
    Other than that, I would suggest getting her involved in something that she loves to do, and then do it with her. Whether it's baking cookies or playing soccer or drawing pictures, you both will benefit from the time together and she will know that you are truly interested in her.

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    TMinutposted 14 years ago

    ready, that's what I've seen with little girls too. As well as being female, she's a traumatized female, and so foreign to me. She always has to have people around and paying attention to her and the mood changes! Instant! Whoa.

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