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   tamiko1posted 14 years ago

   What do u do when ur spouse cheated with an ex co-worker? Since we weren't communcating, or spending anytime together. We were like roomates in the same house. Him and I are on good terms since I found out. I know he hasn't told me detailed and everything I want to know. He has told me the major parts of his infidelty. Do I approach her with what i know or do I leave her alone. We have moved on toward the better by communcation, time spent, and I won't leave out the sex it's better than before. Please advise men and women.

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Only you can truly answer this question.  And the real question is what do you want?

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   WriteAngledposted 14 years ago

   If things are good between you and your spouse, the experience has served to enrich your relationship. Why bother to dig into the rotten debris of the past?

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      tamiko1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      So your saying, Don't approach her. I would really feel alot better. It's really causing me not to sleep at night.

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   WriteAngledposted 14 years ago

   If I understand correctly, you're saying the thought of approaching her is causing you to lose sleep. In that case, forget it. If you feel your relationship with your spouse has improved as a result of honest dialogue, you are the winner and she is the loser.

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      tamiko1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I guess I never looked at the situation that way. That is a true statement. Thanks

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   Ohmaposted 14 years ago

   Do Not Borrow Trouble!

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      tamiko1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think It would be borrowing trouble. I don't want her to continue to think that I don't know anything about there relatioship.

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   you scream at the top of your lungs.  Works every time.

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      tamiko1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I would feel much better if i shared with her what exactly what i knew. Right now she probably has an ideal but is unclear. I was planing on writing a letter. Goning to her church one sunday sitting next to her. Pass the letter letting her know that I forgive her. Then leaving with no words exchange. She won't expect me to approach her since it has been Oct and not in a public place her church. I have a plan inwhich i think it would work.

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      tamiko1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No screaming, I promise.

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   ForKicksposted 14 years ago

   If things are good, then maybe it's not neccesary to approach her, if it happens again then I wouldn't be with her.

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   ForKicksposted 14 years ago

   Every deserves a 2nd chance, until they fuck that one up as well.
   Lol

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      tamiko1posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'm every but of a GEMINI, very mischievous n don't care. I like to gather information, wait then out and plan to attack in a nice way. I would get so much pleasure out of doing this its unreal. Yes, things are back to normal at home as far as i can see. I did tell him that there wouldn't be a second chance. He did notice his mistake, has apologize and said it would never happen again. I have seen change in him, he's also willing to go to counseling.

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