How long does it take you to adjust?

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   Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

   How long does it take you to adjust to major changes in your life.  For example, unemployment, a child moving out, a child getting married, relocation, starting a new job, etc.
   
   I'm learning it takes me about 4 weeks to adjust.
   
   And you?

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      Brenda Durhamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      About 6 months for anything!  I hate change.

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      It usually takes a few days.

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   Black Lillyposted 14 years ago

   most of the times - abuot 24hrs, but may take up to 3 days...
   
   Major change means something has ended in your life, be it work, studies, living in particular location, relationships, etc. And when one thing ends, something else starts - and usually I'm head over heels in that new thing

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   Nelle Hoxieposted 14 years ago

   Emotionally I adjust very quickly to changes. But the logistics of life take time. Finding where the bank is - where do I get my hair cut, where's a good place to go for a walk - where do I get my car fixed. So everything takes 3 times as long - which is frustrating for the first six months or so. Luckily I haven't had to move in 20 years so I haven't done that recently. But I do remember....

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   Justine76posted 14 years ago

   wow!! I must be odd, it took me about 2 years to adjust to being married. and probably 6 months or so to having a baby. It takes me about a week to adjust to time changes, and maybe 4 or 5 days to adjsut if hubby gets new job. Its been 10 years since I last moved, but that took about 3 weeks to feel like "home".

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   waynetposted 14 years ago

   Around 30 minutes or so, cos I welcome change as it keeps you on your toes and helps me adapt to any situation!

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   lynnechandlerposted 14 years ago

   Well Jane its been two weeks and I still get a little weepy when something strikes me but its getting better. The main thing with mine being an empty nest syndrome is I live in a bubble most of the time. You can see that in my 100th hub but I'm working on changing that and now that I'm getting a bit better I'm thinking of starting up the hubchallenge again.
   
   I made the commitment to hit 500 hubs by the end of the year but didn't do so well in Jan with making a dent in that goal so I think I may need to do it month to month instead of a year long thing.
   
   Moving across country hasn't had much of an affect on the daughter other than she kinda got her days and nights mixed up there for a few days but she is back on track now that he has started his job.
   
   I think we all adapt at a different pace. Just take your time with it and don't rush anything.

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   pinkyleeposted 14 years ago

   everyone adjusts at different paces. i don't feel there is a time limit.
   
   i moved across the country, 1800 miles from everything i know and love and everyone i know and love. though it is an exciting adventure for me and a wonderful step in the next phase of my life it was and still is hard. i love my family and friends and miss them dearly. though i make it seem as if it hasn't affected me it really has. i find things to do to keep my mind off of it and not to cry but there are times when my mama will say something that makes me cry and vise versa. though the plus side of this is we hide behind computer screens where neither of us sees the other doing it.
   
   yes i did get my days and nights way mixed up lol but i am getting back on track like my mama said.
   
   with every door that closes a new one opens true, but doors we think closed never do. you always have memories and its those memories that get us through each day in our new lives. when i moved here to Arizona i brought with me the huge amount of love and support of my family and friends as well as everything they taught me in living life as an adult.
   
   my mother being the best teacher of them all. just give it time and you too shall find a way to cope.
   
   we find our way in talking at least once a day...lol
   good luck

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      tobey100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      About an hour and a half usually.

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   lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

   Jane I'm about a month too.

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   Preethi Anushaposted 14 years ago

   tobey100 , you look lucky ... quite fast
   
   It depends on how attached I am to it ... but hardly anything so far take me not more than a week

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      tobey100posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Unless it's a death in the family, I try to take everything in stride no matter what it is.  I don't think I have a worry bone.

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    Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

    We are all so different.

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    Crazdwriterposted 14 years ago

    for me it takes a while...it took me months before I adjusted ot being alone, every night crying myself as leep when I was living in Hawaii and my husband was gone on deployment. It has taken me quite a while to get use to being unemployed..now I'm losing hope of finding another job...

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    Madame Xposted 14 years ago

    Depends on the subject. For some things, hours. For others, a lifetime.

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       rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I tend to agree. also I think sometimes we tell ourselves it's supposed to take a certain amount of time, or it's supposed to be difficult. I think it depends what we're telling ourselves, what kind of support we have around us, etc.
       
       when my husband died very unexpectedly, alone, it took me a while to go through the grieving process. I would wake up every night at the same time and wouldn't be able to go back to sleep. eventually, after a few months, I realized I had to be strong for my sons and do what I needed to do. life changed, but it became easier once I accepted life constantly changes.
       
       other things don't bother me too much. I'm very tolerant and accept that things happen when they're supposed to. you know, kind of like, the sun is still shining underneath those dark clouds. they'll eventually move on.

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    JeanMeriamposted 14 years ago

    It takes me a few months to adjust to major changes. I looked at my hub account and realised I hadn’t posted anything between the end of September and January. I got one new foster child in October and her brother in November. I guess that was my adjustment time for that change.

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    Hokeyposted 14 years ago

    Minutes. Have become adept at acceptance practice. It is what it is.

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    Madame Xposted 14 years ago

    I think the important thing to remember is that it's different for each person for each subject. So anyone saying "get over it" is out of line. How do they know how long it should take for someone else to heal?

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       Hokeyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       They dont. You are correct.

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    donotfearposted 14 years ago

    I like change, but I don't always adapt easily if it's something very new and different. I usually start obsessing about how I have to do this or that or learn this or that, you know the deal. But I welcome change and eventually come through.

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