How can anger be controlled?
I am a bad tempered person. I get angry even at my kids without any particular reason. How can I overcome it?
Posting in the right forum would be a big step forward.
First step is to recognize your anger and know its a problem. After recognition comes constant moves towards improvement. It's a long hard road to get rid of your anger, but as you keep attempting to control it, it gets easier each time.
It's not OK to post this under "Freeform Discussion?"
If I were the OP I'd be angry about being criticized for that.
Seriously, though, the OP is admitting to a problem in his life and reaching out for help. It's affecting his kids. Why not try to help?
OP, sorry to just post links for you, but I'm no expert. Hopefully someone with some useful personal experience to share will chime in. You might find some useful information here:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/anger_m … niques.htm
Here are a few HP articles with some good information:
http://princesswithapen.hubpages.com/hu … e-problems
http://ryanjhoe.hubpages.com/hub/How-to … Control-It
The best advise I could offer, I heard from a very wise older woman many years ago.
She said when anger comes over you, go get on your knees and pray until the storm passes over. If you are not a praying man, you could still go off alone for a bit, and let your mind focus on peaceful things. The main thing is to learn not to give in to the anger. Picture how you look to the little ones, or to your spouse. Do you look scary or insane? Remember that so much of how we react was how one or both of our parents reacted. We are just repeating their behavior. You must retrain your natural reaction. You can do this over time.
Beth37, You have a good answer.
When you feel angry all the time, you may need to get some time for yourself to enjoy and get away from the kids. It probably means you are under too much stress. Figure out a way to lower it.
In that instant that you are mad, sit down or turn your back at the situation, take a deep breathe and tell yourself that it is not a productive feeling instead it will destroy you specially your relationship with the children. Remember to put some humor in everything you do and remember a happy moment, then finally you can smile
Learn to Laugh at Yourself - because there is no humor in being angry!
Learn patience - humility - what you (and others) consider to be acceptable in rational behavior.
Learn to accept your weaknesses and see them as opportunities to improve.
Learn to be more secure in your outlook by changing your negative perspectives to positive ones.
Learn to deep breath and thus reduce your stress levels.
Stop seeking to blame, justify or make excuses for not changing your bad habits.
Commit to an Anger Management course and learn how easy it is to control your emotions when you have committed to being practical and honest with yourself and others. Anger is an emotion that is not resolved when replaced or supported by other emotions. You must therefore approach the issue from a practical, realistic and logical perspective, if you are genuine in resolving the problem permanently!
Good Luck... you will also learn how to enjoy life again!
I'm fairly sure the OP meant to post this as a question in Q&A. He is probably unable to navigate back to where he posted and is now a puzzled man.
I enjoy ppl... what intrigues them, what motivates them etc.
I find it very interesting that it bugs you when ppl post in the wrong forum. Im not criticizing at all... It's very interesting.
By the Grace of God and the Great Mercy of the Moderators, we have seen most of the rank weeds of politics, religion, philosophy and the purely personal consigned to the second ring of purgatory.
It would be nice if they stayed there.
I'm no expert, but you can find some of my techniques and opinions in my hub here. I struggled with anger from being a small child as a result of abuse all the way until now. The difference in personality as a child to what i am now is astonishing. While i have a few snaps on a rare..i certainly do not wish to destroy the world everyday. Controlling your anger friend takes patience, and strong will, and lots of dedication. We are angry because there are other things deep down that we need to control to control our emotions. http://taylorqualman.hubpages.com/hub/A … lf-Control
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