Beauty a Reflection?

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  1. Everyday Miracles profile image89
    Everyday Miraclesposted 9 years ago

    I was wondering what others think about this subject and am hoping that there are some here who will be willing to engage.

    Recently I had the most recent of many run-ins with my youngest sister-in-law. We have never gotten along because frankly, I think she's psychotic (and I think she thinks the same of me, so there you go!).

    If one looks at pictures of her from her younger days, when she was active in ministry and a caring, kind individual, one will notice that she was quite pretty, the most attractive of her siblings. But as time went on, and she became more ugly inside, she became more ugly outside (she no longer looks like a woman, to be honest!).

    Everyone who knows her has noticed this, and I have compared her demeanor and outside appearance to what I have noticed of others. The people who are ugly inside seem to be uglier outside as well.

    What do you think about this? Is developing character the key to true outer beauty as well?

    1. Pamda Man profile image50
      Pamda Manposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Unfortunately, this is a no. In fact, if this were true, then life would be much much easier. Fair is foul and foul is fair. All that glitters is not gold. It's lead.

      Beauty inside vs Beauty outside is inversely proportional.

      With great beauty in the outside, comes prejudice and ugliness in the inside.

      With great ugliness in the outside, comes kindess and beauty in the inside.

      You gotta choose between the two. Although, there are exceptions. big_smile

      Actually, beauty is relative. So when you meet a girl beautiful in the inside. Naturally, she will be beautiful on the outside as well.

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        cosetteposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        i'm glad you said that it is relative, and that there are exceptions. there are plenty of pretty people who are nice, and smart, and there are plenty of unattractive people who are also as dumb as a bag of rocks, and mean, catty beyotches. but i do agree that if you are under stress, pretty or not-so-pretty, it will show on your face.

  2. kephrira profile image56
    kephriraposted 9 years ago

    Yes, I think that to an extent you are definitely right. Something certinly shines through. I think it even happens according to your moods - have you ever noticed how some people can look really great some days and really not on other days? It's a dangerous idea though, as it was exactly this association between inner and outer beauty that led to many ugly old women being burned as witches in medieval Europe.

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    \Brenda Scullyposted 9 years ago

    I think a beautiful person, can shine in there eyes even if they are not pretty.  Believe me there are some very good looking women who are absolutely bitches.... the ones I know are very young, maybe it will tell on them as they get older... cant take anyone at face value really.....

    1. lrohner profile image80
      lrohnerposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree more, Brenda. I was thinking exactly the same thing. Remember your high school days? It was always the most drop dead gorgeous Barbie girls that were the nastiest, meanest, most shallow people I've ever met.

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    wordscribe41posted 9 years ago

    I think there is some truth to this.  Often, when people become negative, cynical, and uncaring they are going through a rough spot.  Perhaps they're depressed, having personal problems, relationship problems, etc...  This inner struggle can certainly manifest itself on the outside.  They may stop caring about how they look or feel too down to make the effort.  Hard times can also manufacture insomnia.  I know it does for me.  No doubt about it, one looks aged and "droopy" without enough sleep.

  5. christianesk profile image59
    christianeskposted 9 years ago

    Hey there, Everyday! Inner beauty has a massive impact on the way people appear, especially as they grow older. I am sure of this. If we hold bitterness and anger in our hearts, our faces can begin to reflect these things. I've seen it many a time in people who have lived hard, angry lives.

    But, I have also seen the beautiful, gentle faces of those who, though not classically beautiful in appearance, have embraced life with gratefulness, humility and forgiveness. I have seen the beauty of those who choose to affirm and encourage others, even when they feel discouraged in themselves.

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    dennisemattposted 9 years ago

    wow. good question. are we talking first appearances here, or when you really get to know someone. Cuz,Ive known lots of "ugly" people, wo bacame beautifull to me as I got to know them and also the other way around. It is not possable to see soemone's virtue from across the room. I do think, people who hold grudges and wont let go of things, are hurting themselves, and it shows eventually.

  7. Lisa HW profile image63
    Lisa HWposted 9 years ago

    I tend to think you can't make generalizations based on just "the appearance package" itself.  Some people just aren't attractive outside, but are incredibly kind, wonderful, people.  Some nasty people are very beautiful.

    I think where it shows is more in a person's demeanor, moves, facial expressions, and the way they speak.  These are more subtle clues that we pick up on, and sometimes an "ugly" person (inside) "gives off an edge" in some way.  Then, too, if the person really decides she wants to make a statement and start to dress in some "anti-social" way, the clues won't be as subtle.

  8. mzoghori profile image50
    mzoghoriposted 9 years ago

    Beauty on the outside attracts more than inside beauty. toget someone to notice your inner beauty you must first atract him/her on the outside. Having good skin can attrect nearly everybody. having a good skin depends on how you maintain it . see more advise below....
    <snipped - do not promote hubs in the forums>

    1. Pamda Man profile image50
      Pamda Manposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Humanity is corrupt and shallow.

  9. natureheals profile image79
    naturehealsposted 9 years ago

    It is kind of complicated. I agree on almost every comments above. The meaning of beauty for each person is vary. But I do notice one thing that what is inside will reflect to the outside as well. The skin, the eyes and even little wrinkles will show the sign of what's going on in the person's life. You may 'feel' it even the person looks pretty or handsome.  And I do agree that we can not judge people from their appearance. wink

  10. Eaglekiwi profile image78
    Eaglekiwiposted 9 years ago

    EM my eyes just did a double take smile

    Is that really you ??

    Weclome ,hugsss so good to see you again!

  11. Eaglekiwi profile image78
    Eaglekiwiposted 9 years ago

    One of my mums fav saying was always "Beauty is only Skin Deep"

    and oh how right she was.

    I have freckles and honestly coming from a mixed marriage, my skin was also slightly tanned ,even though I took after my mother (who was white) so as a teenager I often felt sensitive to my peers judegemnet.(As if freckles have anything to do with a race) lol...

    Now I know after all these years ,the wisdom of her words.


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