How do you cope with emotions arrived at due to a loss of a loved one, particularly a child?
It is entering into the first anniversary of the full term still birth of our daughter Lara and the recent unseasonablly nice weather in New England has stirred up emotions I haven't felt so strongly since around the time of her death which was in June 2011. I think the nice weather itself is a big contributing factor because it was a beautiful day outside on that day. How does one keep it together?
I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Possibly working too hard to "keep it together" is actually harming you. Sometimes (in my experience) it's best to find a place and just let it out.
I've actually written a hub or 2 on my experience with my stillborn, Brandon, and grieving.
It's difficult and it seems the birth of spring always gets to me too. It's the adrenalin in me as all these beautiful things start blooming and a sense of freshness in the air that reminds me of what is missing. Again, close to winter I go through the same feelings as things are dying away and seasonal depression seems to set in.
My advice is, give yourself permission to cry, be sad and it will pass faster than if you try to suppress it. If you need, find someone you can yell at that won't take it personally. Tell them why you need to do it. That has worked for me a couple time in the past.
I am sorry about your loss. I lost my premature baby girl 11 years ago, and the sadness is still there with me as the day I had her. I just wrote a letter to her for the first time and that helped me a little more. Also, although it is hard every anniversary, I decided to celebrate her life; I planted a tree on her name and do volunteer jobs on her name. Another thing I do is I talk about her and how did her presence affected my life in a beautiful way. It is difficult to handle the pain and sorrow, but I think our little angels' existence deserve good memories. That is the way I keep it together. I hope you find your way.
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