What is the best way used by you to calm down yourself after any altercation?
The first step is realize that you may be in a reactive situation, and then monitor yourself as much as the other person for reactivity. Not all 'altercations' need to be out of control; either way, remaining calm (genuinely calm, not 'white knuckle calm') improves the chances of a successful resolution, while reactivity only escalates and guarantees greater problems. Most people pay waaay too much attention to the other person and designing their own attack rather than reserving attention to their own state of mind/emotion.
Just like the martial artist in the movies who is surrounded by a dozen bad guys, and beats them all, the implication is that he won because he had greater control of his own emotion, and is responsive instead of reactive. Learning how to 'differentiate' in charged situations not only helps you manage them better, but leaves with far less distance to 'calm down' from.
I would usually do a few things in this hub, like taking a hot bath or simply just count to ten. It's always good to remind oneself of what the right thing to do is. http://midget38.hubpages.com/video/Rein … ndignation
I don't wait until after an altercation to calm down. The moment I realize that things are getting heated, I excuse myself from the conversation and let the other person know I'll talk more when I'm calmer. It might take a few minutes, a couple hours, or even a few days until I'm completely ready to talk. By the time I do, I've thoroughly digested the other person's viewpoint and figured out how to present my side of things in a way that honors their position, too.
If I can't find a way to honor theirs, I make a decision about whether to surrender altogether (some arguments aren't worth it), or I have a plan for what I will do if they don't see my viewpoint at all, and it'll be something that they cannot prevent me from executing but that was planned with them in mind in some way.
I take a walk if possible and then try to do something else, unrelated so my mind is off the subject.
I would go for a long ride and then find some kind of way to vent after an altercation. However, it actually depends on the type of altercation I have.
Even though I try very hard to avoid altercations, sometimes they are inevitable. What I do to calm myself down afterward is a little breathing exercise. I take three long and deep breaths and I'm good to go.
I feel better knowing one day I will rule the world and they would have not been wise to anger god-king Dan.
For me, I never try to calm down myself because whenever I get heated up in an altercation, there is a sudden burst of anger but as soon as the altercation is over, I calm down on my own.
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