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How do you calm yourself down when you're incredibly angry?

  1. Daniel J. Neumann profile image60
    Daniel J. Neumannposted 7 years ago

    How do you calm yourself down when you're incredibly angry?

    I wrote a hub about it, "Starve Fury," but I'd like to hear your suggestions on the matter.

  2. bloominglily profile image60
    bloominglilyposted 7 years ago

    Count backward from 100 to one, if that doesn't work, drive to a remote location and scream out all the things the bother you.
    Hope this helps,

  3. henryallen profile image54
    henryallenposted 7 years ago

    I usually just stop what I'm doing. Close my eyes. And take 5 deep breaths while saying "calm down". Works for me at least!

  4. profile image45
    mitalovelyposted 7 years ago

    I feel you think about how good your life is and how bad it can go if you react on that anger..........

  5. David 470 profile image83
    David 470posted 7 years ago

    Well being angry can make things worse than they already are in most cases. Try and keep a clear conscience or things could get worse cause of anger.

  6. EnergyAdvisor profile image75
    EnergyAdvisorposted 7 years ago

    Run as fast as I can or take a cold, cold shower or if I'm not too angry just breathe deeply for a moment and tell myself that this is not where I want to put my energy in.

  7. Denise Roberts profile image59
    Denise Robertsposted 7 years ago

    I always try to remember that I'm in control of my own thoughts and actions.  Sometimes when I find it difficult to control my anger, I just start talking.  When you actually listen to yourself out loud hopefully you'll be able to hear yourself and understand how ridiculous you sound.  Also, admit to your own mistakes.

  8. sofs profile image83
    sofsposted 7 years ago

    We need to understand that when we are angry that means we are not in control over our emotions or our actions, but something/one outside is controlling us. I just decide that I am my own mistress and i will not let this trouble me. I choose to respond (act with reason) than react (act emotionaly)
    It is a question of choice. I then focus mind my mind on calming things (for example visualize/ create mental imagery of  a calm place with attention to detail) and hang around there until i am in charge and make some self affirmation about my rational being.
    Responding is better than reacting!!

  9. mdscoggins profile image85
    mdscogginsposted 7 years ago

    There are several techniques that can calm you when you are angry and it depends on the person and you may go through a couple techniques to find your niche. Counting, slow breathing, closing your eyes and thinking of something pleasant, walking away. I do not recommend anything that continues the anger such as punching a wall or something that intensifies the anger.

  10. Tusitala Tom profile image61
    Tusitala Tomposted 7 years ago

    Sofs is the answer I prefer here.  If anger is so intense that you feel you might react physically - head outside and start walking.  Let off steam.  But note the mind chatter.  All the self-talk about why you're angry will only add fuel to the flames.

    Once you've  calmed down a bit you can then examine why you were angry.  After all, you felt the emotion that you felt, not the other person.  It's your problem.  They probably only triggered it.  They perhaps 'bruised your ego,' or 'insulted your self-image.'   

    This self-image which flies into a temper, or gets hurt in an emotional way is not the real you.   It is the made up you-  made up by your identification with your thoughts and the feelings which accompany them.   Once you truly understand this, you're on your way to getting rid of them.