How do you calm yourself down when you're incredibly angry?

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   Daniel J. Neumannposted 14 years ago

   How do you calm yourself down when you're incredibly angry?
   
   I wrote a hub about it, "Starve Fury," but I'd like to hear your suggestions on the matter.

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   bloominglilyposted 14 years ago

   Count backward from 100 to one, if that doesn't work, drive to a remote location and scream out all the things the bother you.
   Hope this helps,
   Bloominglily

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   henryallenposted 14 years ago

   I usually just stop what I'm doing. Close my eyes. And take 5 deep breaths while saying "calm down". Works for me at least!

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   mitalovelyposted 14 years ago

   I feel you think about how good your life is and how bad it can go if you react on that anger..........

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   David 470posted 14 years ago

   Well being angry can make things worse than they already are in most cases. Try and keep a clear conscience or things could get worse cause of anger.

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   EnergyAdvisorposted 14 years ago

   Run as fast as I can or take a cold, cold shower or if I'm not too angry just breathe deeply for a moment and tell myself that this is not where I want to put my energy in.

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   Denise Robertsposted 14 years ago

   I always try to remember that I'm in control of my own thoughts and actions.  Sometimes when I find it difficult to control my anger, I just start talking.  When you actually listen to yourself out loud hopefully you'll be able to hear yourself and understand how ridiculous you sound.  Also, admit to your own mistakes.

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   sofsposted 14 years ago

   We need to understand that when we are angry that means we are not in control over our emotions or our actions, but something/one outside is controlling us. I just decide that I am my own mistress and i will not let this trouble me. I choose to respond (act with reason) than react (act emotionaly)
   It is a question of choice. I then focus mind my mind on calming things (for example visualize/ create mental imagery of  a calm place with attention to detail) and hang around there until i am in charge and make some self affirmation about my rational being.
   Responding is better than reacting!!

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   mdscogginsposted 14 years ago

   There are several techniques that can calm you when you are angry and it depends on the person and you may go through a couple techniques to find your niche. Counting, slow breathing, closing your eyes and thinking of something pleasant, walking away. I do not recommend anything that continues the anger such as punching a wall or something that intensifies the anger.

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    Tusitala Tomposted 14 years ago

    Sofs is the answer I prefer here.  If anger is so intense that you feel you might react physically - head outside and start walking.  Let off steam.  But note the mind chatter.  All the self-talk about why you're angry will only add fuel to the flames.
    
    Once you've  calmed down a bit you can then examine why you were angry.  After all, you felt the emotion that you felt, not the other person.  It's your problem.  They probably only triggered it.  They perhaps 'bruised your ego,' or 'insulted your self-image.'   
    
    This self-image which flies into a temper, or gets hurt in an emotional way is not the real you.   It is the made up you-  made up by your identification with your thoughts and the feelings which accompany them.   Once you truly understand this, you're on your way to getting rid of them.

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