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Why is it when you are striving to be a better person.....

  1. fosginger profile image59
    fosgingerposted 5 years ago

    Why is it when you are striving to be a better person.....

    There is always that one person, that one evil gnome that isn't quite after your favorite hi-cuts but after your soul. To ban this normal looking yet disgusting creature away, suggestions?

  2. SidKemp profile image94
    SidKempposted 5 years ago

    Boy, I know what you mean!

    Being a good person does not mean being in healthy relationship with everyone. Part of being good in a realistic way means ending unhealthy relationships, but doing it without hatred or blame. Ultimately, goodness has two aspects. Towards all people, we live in peace and non-harm (also called non-violence, spiritual love, unconditional love, or ahimsa). We agree to share the planet with this person. We wish them well. *and we decide we will have nothing to do with them.*

    Why? Because, on Earth, no healthy relationship is possible with this person. To try is to drain our energy. Then our own bringing the life of our own soul into the world, fulfilling our creativity, our purpose, and our service to those we really can help, gets lost.

    Let go of those with whom you cannot have a healthy relationship. Wish them well and farewell! And focus on bringing your gifts to the world with those who will benefit from them.

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    danielabramposted 5 years ago

    These people are weak and jealous of your success. Ignore them.

  4. eHealer profile image87
    eHealerposted 5 years ago

    Okay, I understand, I hope. Being a good person, or an "idealist" does not mean that you will be treated any better or more fairly by everyone. It's about your own convictions and the integrity in yourself that you have committed to. Although as a good person, people will tend to hold you in higher standards and trust you more than others, there are always the "users" moving in and out of your life, seeking your admiration and trying to  take advantage of your kindness and manipulate your dedication to "doing the right thing." We can't control others with our own behavior, we can only control how we respond to other people's behavior. Some people find power in hurting others. It is how they control their environment and it makes them feel safe and secure. Setting boundaries for people and the way they treat you is a good start. Boundaries keep you healthy and safer. You have every right in the world to dismiss people that are toxic or harmful from your life.

  5. Seeker7 profile image95
    Seeker7posted 5 years ago

    There is always one and on the road to becoming a better person we often encounter tests along the way. When you continue making progress you will find that 'evil gnomes' just don't matter anymore and they have no power to stop you on your journey to better things. You will be able to ignore them without having any negative thoughts towards them. If you can, try now to be totally indifferent - not negative or positive - just accept that the gnome is there as part of the scenery but has no power what so ever of affecting you and your journey. You will become stronger as you move on.

  6. Pauline Davenport profile image60
    Pauline Davenportposted 5 years ago

    You have to keep your emotional distance from such a creature. This takes a lot of learning, a lot of holding back, but it can be done eventually. People can only have your soul if you let them, and it's hard not to let them if you're emotionally attached to them and if you've given your soul to them in love and trust in the past.

    Self help courses, positive affirmation, a good relationship with your God if you have a faith, are some positive ways to help yourself - you may be able to think of others. Good luck with banishing this creature, and I really hope that this helps fosginger

  7. MarleneB profile image97
    MarleneBposted 5 years ago

    If you are striving to become a better person, you are going to be dealing with negative people a lot. In fact, the better you become, the greater the number of negative people who will show up to try to tear you down. You see, negative people only thrive when they are around people they can stir up and rip apart. Their simple motive is to do all that they can to bring you down. It's in their nature.

    I learned, even moreso recently to just ignore negative people. I don't even put them on the back burner to deal with later. I just put them out of my life completely. It doesn't mean I don't care about them or want harm to come to them, I just don't let them enter my life to disturb what I am trying to accomplish.

    Ignore those people and get on with being the beautiful person that you are.

  8. einron profile image43
    einronposted 5 years ago

    You cannot expect the whole world to have the same mind.  Neither do your family members nor your work mates, your neighbours nor your church members.  The whole world is made up of good and evil people and you have to live with all.  Avoid them but still strive to be better.

  9. jclaffee profile image78
    jclaffeeposted 5 years ago

    Any person with guts and resolve will have enemies; it's totally unavoidable. One of the downsides of this culture is that it is cultivating extreme dependence upon the opinions of others. In other words, nobody wants to think for themselves; all their friends have to agree- a weak individual can only make the popular decision. Don't let the jealous twerps out there rob you of the satisfaction that comes with being a good, strong individual.

  10. edhan profile image61
    edhanposted 5 years ago

    I always believe that one should maintain being a better person at all times even when there are evil gnomes lurking in your life.

    It is a test of our personal belief that we will always be tempted to go the wrong way with all these bad gnome trying to change you.

    I stand firm with my belief in such situation.

  11. ginjill ashberry profile image76
    ginjill ashberryposted 5 years ago

    Hi, Fosginger.
    This would be the case where they say, "We cannot please everyone".
    Just as there will always be someone better than us..there will always be someone who is displease with us and keep your eyes open; that the same person might also be our stepping stone. Sometimes, just the reason to be better.

    Suggestion: You can let the gnome steal your joy and self confidence or you can keep your peace, which is rightfully yours if you will change first your narrative regarding 'the one evil gnomes that is after your soul'. No one can take it away if you don't give it up. The way I see it, you've been irritated, disturbed by 'the evil gnomes' in so far.
    It's time to let go..Rest.
    You did your best and the person who should know it already knows you give it what you know how to; at that time. Tell you something, it's the 'gnomes' who are actually seething, don't let them peck you down too!.

  12. grinnin1 profile image82
    grinnin1posted 5 years ago

    The more you seek out people who will encourage you and be by your side when you need them, the less power those who are trying to drag you down will have. Keep striving and don't let anybody stop you-