What are some ways to get over words that someone said which hurt you?
When something someone said to you once, maybe even long ago, still hurts you and their words still haunt you. Eg: You'll never succeed, you're dumb, you are not attractive.
I think a lot of how we feel about what people say about us, rest on how we see and feel about ourselves. This means that if someone tells me that I'm dumb and won't succeed, and it keeps bothering me, then I need to take steps to boost my self-esteem.
Here are a few things you could do:
1. Become more self-aware. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Accept yourself, celebrate your abilities, talents, and achievements, and work on improving weak areas. ,
2. Build your self-esteem. Self-esteem is the picture you have of yourself. If your self-esteem is low, start practicing positive self-talk (These are things you tell yourself in your mind again and again). For example, you could start telling yourself, "I have a purpose in life, I'll find it, and achieve it."
3 Know and stick to your values. Since your values are the heart of who you are, stick to them, and don't be influenced by other people's opinions. For example, you respect yourself and respect others, so while some people might say negative things about you, you don't respond in kind.
I think my answer depends on from whom the words came from -- close friend in response to something your troubled over may be tough love. Harsh words from a co worker or ex boy or girl friend might not offer sage advice or needed insight. In either cause what any one aside from you whole hardheartedly believes is just here say and irreverent speculation not worthy of two seconds of your time. People judge when they are not happy with them self's. Have heard the term misery loves company ? Know that it really does
(1) Recognize that everyone is allowed to have an opinion; and refuse to get flustered over someone's opinion of you.
(2) Empower yourself with your own opinion. "I know that I am . ."
(3) From a positive opinion about the person who made the ugly statement about you for "There is something good in the worst of us."
(4) Allow the positivity in you to recall that positive feature about the other person whenever you remember him or her.
(5) Live. Laugh. Love! Practice zero tolerance for negative thoughts about yourself or anyone else.
Celebrate yourself today!
I have found by overcoming the obstacles that faced me. By believing in myself and going for what I desired instead of listening to what others had to say. That helped me achieve my goals and build my confidence.
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