Would you assist in suicide?

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   seanorjohnposted 13 years ago

   In what circumstances, if any, would you help someone commit suicide?

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      no, i couldn't. but if i were in a coma or something, the kind where you can't move or open your eyes, but can hear and think, i would hope someone would kill me. they are saying now that people in comas for five years or more are showing signs of being aware of their surroundings. horrible thought...

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         wyanjenposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Happy to see you cosette

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      Cagsilposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I would not assist.

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         seanorjohnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I can't imagine how difficult it must be for people to live with themselves when they have assisted. Even though they may have done so with the best of intentions.

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      sneakorocksolidposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      No I doubt I could.

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   tantrumposted 13 years ago

   Never. Because it's murder.

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      seanorjohnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. Nevertheless, in the Uk, many hospitals let terminally ill patients die by not giving them food or drink. We all keep quiet about this practice.

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         tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         But that's not helping in suicide. My father died that way as well. It's a common practice in older patients that can't be cured.
         It's not suicide, because the person is beyond understanding of what's happening.

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            seanorjohnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Yes tantrum, it's a hard thing to get one's head around. I just don't think depriving someone of food and drink is right somehow.
            A close relative was in this position and as a family we didn't really discuss what was going on. I think we just left it to the doctors and buried our heads in the sand. We knew her death was inevitable but did we hasten her death?

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               tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               But it's not deprive of food and water. It's not that simple.
               
               The doctor doesn't give more food, but there are medications given.
               And it's only practiced when the patient is more than 80 and can't be recovered. Instead of taking them to hospital to intensive care, they die at home, but with assistance.

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            thisisoliposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I'm not too sure that they let them die like that, but it is not unknown for doctors around the world to make minor 'mistakes'.
            
            Sometimes when people are in too much pain it is the kindest thing to do.
            
            Whether I could do it or not? I'm not so sure, btu I know if I was in late stage terminal cancer and every second I lived was unbearable agony, I would be looking for a way out, and would need help doing so.

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               tantrumposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               You don't need help doing so.
               that would be too selfish!
               What about the person you ask for help ? what about their feelings ?
               and over all, what about them, when you die ?

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            Rafiniposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            It may not be suicide, but it sounds like murder by starvation.  A horrible thought to do for someone who can't think for themselves.  What I can understand is, if food & water is supplied but not forced.

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         megs78posted 13 years agoin reply to this

         This also happens with the elderly in palliative care. but there is no secrecy here.  they will die and everyone knows it.  to give them food or drink is to prolong their discomfort and pain.  and I am talking about those elderly who have stopped being able to feed themselves, and have lost the ability to eat or drink, and need morphine every half hour for pain, etc.  THis is not suicide.  it is letting life take its course naturally.

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      drej2522posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      yup...murder

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      Madame Xposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Yep.

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      goldenpathposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Second! Assisted suicide is a no no.

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   IntimatEvolutionposted 13 years ago

   When a patients quality of life is in question, and it is their wishes-  yes, I would have mercy.  I see the inside of people bodies, everyday.  I've seen cancer up close.  I've seen how it eats a person inside out. 
   
   When they have reached that point of no return, if they were part of my family, I would let mercy dictate means.

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      seanorjohnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Giving morphine to relieve pain is obviously  necessary. I wonder if deliberate overdoses are sometimes administered to speed death and allay intense suffering.
      
      I'm not making any moral point. Just stating that perhaps mercy killing is more prevalent than we like to admit.

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   Naomi R. Coxposted 13 years ago

   No, No Heck No!

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   awareposted 13 years ago

   no

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   wyanjenposted 13 years ago

   Would signing a DNR fall under the category of assisted suicide?
   Think twice before you are sure of your answer...
   
   Of course if you sign your own, there is no responsible party. But if you sign one on behalf of someone else, what category does that fall under?
   
   When a Do Not  Resuscitate is executed, no action is taken. Therefore it is not assisting a suicide. But if you consider the intent of it...
   If you do not take action to ensure the survival of a patient, what does that make you? A murderer?
   
   I signed a DNR, and it was executed. I feel responsible for that death, but I do not second guess my decision. I'm certain is was the correct thing to do.
   
   Legally, I am not A. a murderer or B. a "suicide assister".
   But in my heart, I am B.

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      seanorjohnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      This is such a difficult issue to think about. Thanks for your response.

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   cosetteposted 13 years ago

   howdy

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   wyanjenposted 13 years ago

   You're welcome.
   
   It is a gray area for sure. I've spent hours considering the questions I put there...
   but only in a philosophical sense.
   I was strong enough to sign it and I'm strong enough to accept it.
   
   I wasn't sure at the time whether I would feel guilt as the years pass, and I'm finding that I don't. It was a decision based on compassion, and with a complete medical understanding of the situation.
   
   If it was me under care that day, I would hope that somebody would have made that same decision on my behalf.

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   qwarkposted 13 years ago

   If it were legal and it was one's last wish, why not?
   I think that legal euthanasia as it was done in the movie "Soylent Green," was beautiful!
   If I had a terminal disease and knew my days were numbered, I'd choose to go out, that way with, dignity , a full "tummy" and surrounded by everything I could imagine to make my last moments as joyful as possible.
   Now what's wrong with that?

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      earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Nothing wrong with that at all! I have witnessed both ways of dying, I know which I preferred.
      My mates dad died high as a kite with his family and friends at the party! He had terminal cancer, and yes the doc gave him enough morph to ensure he was going and not coming back. It was time.

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         qwarkposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Earn:
         He knew it, accepted it and left joyously!
         Did you see the movie Soylent Green?
         What a wonderful way to leave this life if it is your desire to go!
         Yes! I would help make someones departure an amazing adventure!
         In my profile I speak of people I've met and chatted with in life who are as "shallow" in thought as are these in this particular forum answering this particular question....:-(

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            earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            I saw it about a million years ago qwark but can vaguely remember a little of it, but the point is well made. We all have to die at least currently, and may as well go with a bang! When I thought I was going to die from cancer I built a little plan. I have kept it!

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               qwarkposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Earn:
               How ya doin?
               Have you "overcome?" (a little religious play on words)
               I've had cancers removed from my face....sun damage from lifeguarding for yrs in Calif and Florida...but none were serious.

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                  earnestshubposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  I am really good thank you qwark. they got all of it. The size of the graft is enormous and looks like a shark attack, but I am fit and well!

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    megs78posted 13 years ago

    Just to add here, my grandmother and my husbands grandmother both died within a month of eachother and in similar fashions  during the Christmas season of this year.  In both cases, as soon as they refused to eat or drink or were unable, they were not given any IV's to hydrate and feed them.  We were all a little shocked to hear this and to see it happening, but we learned that this is how it happens and that to feed them would be agony for them and unnecessary suffering.

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       seanorjohnposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Megs I suppose I was shocked too. I just feel as a family we let the medical staff take the tough decisions.We remained passive.

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    TheGlassSpiderposted 13 years ago

    I do not believe it's murder; I believe it's a choice. However, I would never assist with any other person's suicide. I reserve the right to end my own life with dignity (although I hope it never comes down to it),though, and I would never presume to be able to make any such decision for (or impose my values on) another person.

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       qwarkposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Glass:
       That makes sense.
       If a friend wanted you to help him/her and it was legal and could be done in a wonderfully painless and creative way that would pls him/her, would you help?

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          TheGlassSpiderposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          No. It has nothing to do with the legality of it. I assume that I am responsible for my own circumstances and the other person is responsible for theirs. Although I can understand the circumstances under which someone would ask for assistance, I know I would only be damaging myself by assisting. If it were legal, I am sure there would be respectful and respectable services for it. I would be able to be there and hold their hand if they asked, I just don't think I could ever actually "push the button" or "pull the trigger" or anything like that for someone else, simply because I could never be sure that they wanted it with their whole heart...I could only make that decision for myself.

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             qwarkposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             Glass:
             Can you tell me why you could not?
             What is it in your psyche that would find assisting a friend to finish life, and his reason was logical and "good," unworthy of you?
             If he/she were in terrible pain and suffering and begging for your help and it was legal....you would stand by and let the suffering continue?...why?

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                TheGlassSpiderposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                I already answered that question in the last lines of my previous post. It has nothing to do with being "good enough for me..." It has to do with the fact that I can't ever be in someone else's head, and I would always wonder if it was the meds, or the pain...or anything else speaking, and not my friend.
                
                If you could do it, more power to you. I know I could not. I could hardly bring myself to do it for myself. I simply would never deny someone else the right to do so. I think that should be fairly easy to understand.

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                   qwarkposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                   Glass:
                   Not easy at all.
                   I'd have done my homework first and would know and understand his/her plight.
                   If I was convinced I would have no problem helping a friend finish it and with no future compunctions.
                   In fact, I would live life happy knowing I had helped end the suffering of a friend.
                   if I had not helped, his suffering would hound me until it was my turn to go.

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                      TheGlassSpiderposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                      Like I said, if you can do it, good for you; that's between you and the person you see in the mirror. It's not for me to judge your abilities or actions, or for you to judge mine. The question was asked and that's my answer. Your answer is different from mine; neither of us needs permission from one another. I can understand your position; I find it rather un-insightful that you cannot understand mine.

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    earnestshubposted 13 years ago

    qwark, that is right. Be humane people. Anyone who has seen late term suffering that continues until the patient needs so much pain killer they become a living drugged out zombie should understand.
    
    Others die in agony begging doctors to stop delivering morphine for the pain to enable them to keep sane enough to talk to their families before they go.
    I admire your compassion.

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       qwarkposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       Earn:
       You are a gentleman and a scholar.....ty sir!  :-)

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    Jeramiposted 13 years ago

    I have sat and watched the suffering of loved ones; expecting to be asked this question.  I had contimplated for quite some time what my answer might be. Luckily I didn't have to finalize my decision.
       My point would have to be that NEVER say that you would never do anything in this life. Life has a way of making you eat your own words.

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    Hokeyposted 13 years ago

    Wow! What a crazy question. The first precept in Buddhism is, I undertake to observe the precept to abstain from harming living beings. So no I could not help someone to end their life. This would be a struggle for me do to my compassion but I believe this is bad kharma. So the answer is no. I cannot.

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    brimancandyposted 13 years ago

    No, however, if someone were really ill, and their chances of surviving were pretty slim, I think I would look for other means to help them get their wish, but, more than likely I would not want to be around to watch them suffer, and hope that they would go peacefully.
    
    I know of a lot of people who have died of AIDs. You would never see them get sick, and the next thing you know, you hear from someone else that they died. I only had one close friend who died of the disease, and he never said that he wanted to Die, but he knew he was going to. The disease took his life in just a few months. He was only 22.
    
    However, even though I know a lot of people who have died of AIDS, I know ten times more who have died of Cancer. So,
    sickness doesn't discriminate. We only hope that those who are sick will get healthy again. It does happen.
    
    It seems sad that nobody seems to care when someone dies of old age. Almost like a dog or a cat, but, for someone to die of a sickness gets a lot of boo hoos. Just spend some time in a nursing home, it is the saddest thing you will ever see.

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    spsosposted 13 years ago

    never, ever, ever... I am the spouse of one who did choose suicide, and I would never be able to live with myself if I had been directly involved - indirectly is enough.

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    Kenrick Chatmanposted 13 years ago

    No, I would assist in attempting to prevent suicide.

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    Rafiniposted 13 years ago

    I would never ever assist with suicide, nor would I sign a DNR if there was a chance for the person to live the rest of their life in a way that was meaningful to them.  I mean, I would sign a DNR at a certain point of a terminal illness or a coma situation, otherwise No.

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    habeeposted 13 years ago

    I had always thought I might be able to do this for a loved one who had rather die than continue suffering. When I came face to face with it, however, I couldn't do it. My mom had Alzheimer's, and when she was still "with it" enough to know what was happening to her, she begged me to help her die, but I couldn't do it.

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    Stevennix2001posted 13 years ago

    absolutely NO! i wouldn't help anyone commit suicide, as it's wrong. However, i would offer to talk to the person and most of all, LISTEN to them.  Listen to everything they have to say. if there's one thing i know about suicidal people is that they tend to bottle up things inside to the point where they  feel like the world curses them just for staying true to themselves. therefore, a suicide attempt seems justified in their eyes.  that is why i would listen to EVERYTHING they told me, then try the best i could to give them my advice and comfort as OBVIOUSLY nobody ever did that for them.

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    Cotsyposted 12 years ago

    Easy to say NO until you have seen someone suffer for months, lose their dignity, seen the pain and hurt in their eyes.  I would like to think someone would help me and if I could I would help another person before they cease to be a human being and become a shell of one.
    Dont be hard on those who do help people.  Some people have reached the stage where they are dead but their heart is still beating - its hideous and a terrible way to remember someone.  Let them go in peace before they get to that stage

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    ForYourInfoposted 12 years ago

    Are you crazy !!!!! Committing suicide is a crime and assisting it also the same.So,nobody should indulge people to commit suicide.but in some cases,it has been found that people have assisted to commit suicide to give the person relief.  If he is suffering from some hopeless diseases and want to relies from that pain,it has been provoked to commit suicide.But that's totally a different issue.

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    recommend1posted 12 years ago

    I would help someone commit suicide who desperately needed it - all religious far right fanatics apply here : 
    
    Seriously - it is wrong to keep a person alive for any rule or because another person wants - if a person is in pain and no hope of resuming normal life and they request an end then it should be totally up to them.  And if someone in that situation asked I would feel privelaged that they might think me the best person to help them when they really needed it.

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