anger management

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  1. LeslieAdrienne profile image80
    LeslieAdrienneposted 7 years ago

    How do you deal with your anger? Do you retaliate? Do you supress it? Do you take it out on others? Please tell us?

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Why don't you start.

  2. Pcunix profile image90
    Pcunixposted 7 years ago

    I am a volatile person of French descent.  The anger comes quickly and disappears just as fast.  I forgive and forget within minutes.

  3. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    My personality is to speak my mind, but I try to be assertive not aggressive.  If someone is completely out of line I tell them off and it works well for me so far.

    What about you? Recently I've had very angry feelings from stress. I told my doctor and he doesn't care or do anything.

    1. profile image0
      china manposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      did you get angry about your doctor ?

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
        schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        yes!

  4. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    Here's a few tips I just thought of:

    If you are drinking cofee or alot of caffeine- Stop! Caffeine can irritate it.

    Exercise helps get rid of it.

    Any other ideas?

  5. Cagsil profile image81
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago
    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      thx

      1. Cagsil profile image81
        Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        You're welcome.


        Btw- did you receive my email response?

        1. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
          schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Yes, I really enjoyed it.  I sent you a reply.
          I say things I don't mean sometimes when upset.
          You know, I drank way too much cofee yesterday and today.
          I won't do that again!!!

          It was a very nice email smile Thankyou!

  6. Beth100 profile image72
    Beth100posted 7 years ago

    Step back and look at the situation without any emotions.  Evaluate and be honest as to what had transpired.  Find a resolution.  Approach the person and discuss it without emotion.

    If that person doesn't listen, then explode!!!

    1. Cagsil profile image81
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      roll

  7. Beth100 profile image72
    Beth100posted 7 years ago

    careful, your eyes might stuck rolled up that far up!!!  lol

    1. Cagsil profile image81
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      WOW! hmm

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image81
        schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        wink

  8. Lisa HW profile image66
    Lisa HWposted 7 years ago

    There are two kinds of anger for me:  The quick flair up of temper that comes from something stupid like someone being on my back in the grocery story, and the serious, "legitimate-reason", long-term anger over something someone intentionally did.

    I won't let a temper flair up happen because that one's like a flame.  If you let it "have oxygen" it will get bigger and bigger.  So, with the rare "stupid" temper flair up I'll tell myself "stop" the very fraction of a second I know it's starting to come on.  It's easier to snuff out a small flame than to control a raging fire; so this approach means not really "suppressing" a whole lot of anger, because I stop it from turning into a whole lot of anger before that flame gets to grow.

    The deeper, longer-term, serious, anger is something I'll either try to make good use of (by turning something into a cause, or that type of thing); or else (since it is serious and legitimate and done by someone who knew what they were doing and did it anyway), seek legal revenge in a very civil way (that's why they call it "civil lawsuit").

    My defense of this approach is that when we are angry about something for legitimate reasons sometimes one way to ease that anger is to get justice. Some anger exists because there has been no justice, which means that seeking and getting justice (or some kind of resolution associated with whoever did the thing) will end the anger (without risking going to jail over doing something illegal).  Besides, even if this isn't particularly healthy, I'd rather die young, knowing I didn't accept what was wrong; than live a longer life, making lemonade out of the lemons some conscientiousless coward(s) threw into my life.

    So, I'd say I nip temper flair ups in the bud, and "address" larger, deeper, anger in a way that makes me feel as if I'm doing something constructive with it.  (Sometimes what some people may believe looks like "suppressing" anger is something entirely different.)  (Angry face here:   mad        smile  )

 
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