I need a friend or something.

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   militarybrat2007posted 13 years ago

   the last 2 months have been crazy i hydro planed my car and had a horrible concussin and then my grandma who pretty much raised me passed away a few days after that. A few days after her funeral i had to be rushed to the ER for high blood pressure and fasst pace heart beat.  A situation i found out bout my 2 year old little girl would rather not talkj about just gonna say its gettin handled and then my fiancee left this morning on a tdy for 2 weeks. Hes in the military and i know things like thi are gonna pop up but riht now wasnt the time. I know i should be used to it growing up with a father in the army but right now has been really hard for me. On top of all that i had identity theft so its almost impossible for me to get a new car without like 2500 bucks for a down payment an thats hard to come by. and on TOP of that my supposed best friend who moved to NC which is only 5 hours away wont come down because of her fiancee. We have been best friends for 10 years i have always been there fr her sent her money wether i had it or could afford it or not drove up there when she got put in the hospital for a fever just to make sure she is ok an all this happens an i cant get her down for one day i even offered to pay even though i dont have it. I dont talk to much of my family its mainly just my daughter an i and i feel so alone its crazy i just wanted my friend to come stay while my fiancee was gone but anyways im just venting now if anyone has any advice or anything please comment thank you for reading
   
                                     Mandi

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   couturepopcafeposted 13 years ago

   Sounds like you're in a major funk.  People are so unpredictable.  Forget the friend for now.  You're a mom.  Find something to do or start a hobby that revolves around children.  It might be a way to make money.  Maybe start a children's story, or make tote bags with cutesy kiddy patterns that young mom's would want to carry around.  Can you make anything?

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      fbliangchaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I suggest writing up a list of all the things you can do excellent, well and sort of ok and then go thru the list again and find a couple that you could get on as a hobby and perhaps build a small income streams with. find the local market/farmers market and set up a table and you could end up meeting some great new faces.

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   schoolgirlforrealposted 13 years ago

   Sorry to hear you've had soo much bad luck. Sometimes it happens all at once I guess. Sounds like you're handling it pretty well. I've felt lonely myself believe me and it's not always fun where friends won't travel to see you.
   
   I don't have any advice, but I can say I've sorta been there in some things. Feel free to read my hubs....
   
   Hope you feel better.

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   jeri741posted 13 years ago

   sorry to hear you have been having a hard time...try to keep upbeat and think positive...it does help...and if you ever need to just vent send me a note and just let loose..I've been where you are before and probably will be again.

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   DesignGalposted 13 years ago

   Sorry to hear what you're going through.  My mom has always told me to count my blessings when i'm feeling down and it does work if you let it.  Hope things pick up...

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   Joy56posted 13 years ago

   It never rains but it pours....... I hate it when everything happens at once like that.... especially when there is grief thrown, with the death of a relative.  Sometimes grieving makes us think that everything is actually worse than it is.   Not saying of course that you are not suffering you are.
   
   Give yourself some me time..... have a pedicure, or a new hair do, or if you can afford it both.....  Go to the gym, and get your kids to do something for you also.  They love it when they can help out.,
   
   Oh and don't forget we are thinking about you, have a good day, and keep writing.... Brenda.

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   Home Girlposted 13 years ago

   Misery loves company. You have to understand that bad things happen whether you like it or not, and not only to you - to everybody. I cannot afford a car - I still live and work and I am okay with it. I have a friend but I don't expect her to come and sit with me when I feel lonely and sad. Try not to think about all your problems at once. Deal with it like with your"enemies" - one by one. Think about what is more important to you now and work on that. Things will be better, you'll see. And less time you'll spend whining, more time you'll have to work on that better times come true thing. And being busy - the best remedy to everything - grief and all.

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   medorposted 13 years ago

   hey... you have had a run of real bad luck and lots of changes and rearranges in your life.  Please reach out to other people who are part of your support group... you know like friends, coworkers, family, folks who you know and trust.
   
   Make plans with them, and then just relax and know loved ones will be around for support.
   
   I hope you are taking care of your concussion.  So sad to hear about the loss of your grandmother... that is tough to lose the person who raised you...
   
   Let us all know how you are doing...
   
   medodr

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   L.L. Woodardposted 13 years ago

   Reaching out not only to friends and family, but sometimes a counselor, spiritual adviser or similarly trained people can make all the difference in the world. You've experienced a number of significant life experiences in a short time; allow yourself some time to heal.

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    smile0826posted 13 years ago

    Everyone goes through stuff - its called life but you're strong and you can handle it.  Try getting the kids involved in some play groups so you can meet new people.  Meetup.com is a good place to find groups that get together in your area for a variety of reasons.  Since your husband is in the military, you probably have decent insurance so see a therapist may be in order if your problems are more psychological than just caused by recent life events.

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    luvpassionposted 13 years ago

    This is for you sister....(((hugs))) 

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    shazwellynposted 13 years ago

    I think things are going to change for you.  Something good is going to happen, you just need to see it.  Bless you.

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    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    When you have a lot of stuff that goes beyond the "usual crap" that most people have at one time or another, it's understandable, and natural, to wish your friend could be around to just be able to talk (and so you'd feel as if you had someone/something "stable" to help you feel a little more grounded). There's a reason someone wrote that song, "That's what friends are for."    Sometimes, when someone has a lot of big, awful, things going on it can pretty much feel as if the world if full of people who don't have a clue about what they're going through.  Not having that friend around, that you know won't judge, and will have "some clue" that she doesn't know what it's like to be your particularly difficult set of circumstances, it's understandable that you miss her that much more right now.
    
    I'm writing my suggestions/tips (for whatever they're worth) in a Hub, instead of posting them here.

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    Princess Shellyposted 13 years ago

    Hello Friend
    
    When we get overwhelmed with trauma, and more than the just ordinary everyday things, sometimes it is magnified and looks even worse when you make a list. So sorry you've had so much intensity in a short period of time!  I can relate; as can everyone!! But know this - Jesus loves you!  He is our hope b/c his love never fails, and he will never leave you or forsake you!  I want to encourage you to get involved in a local church, b/c they can be your family and friends that you are lacking! And it opens up so many other avenues of connection. They can probably also offer you different types of counseling to meet your specific needs.  Counseling is a wonderful tool to help us through overwhelming and unmanageable situations.  My husband and I are attending counseling now after some troubles, and God is restoring our marriage!  Let that be an encouragement to you - b/c NOTHING is too big for God to handle - not even the things that you have been through or are going through or are feeling.  Blessings to you!

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