I can't stop crying

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  1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    Something bad happened and I'm very emotional and I can't stop crying and I can't sleep. What can I do?

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image90
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      im sorry to hear that schoolgirl.  what's ailing you?

      1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
        schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Someone close to me was accused of an awful crime
        and they could go to jail
        for 5 years
        and I know they are innocent.
        I'm trying all I can with a few others to help.
        Some people set him up.

        1. Stevennix2001 profile image90
          Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          wow, im sorry to hear that happened to you.  have you guys talked to a lawyer about this yet?  if not, then i probably would, as he/she might have some great legal advice to give you about how to prove your friend's innocence.

          1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
            schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            Yeah, he has a lawyer. But I can't talk to  him yet, the jail won't take calls, and I guess he can't call cause he has no money on him.
            I don't think they can prove it per say, there were no witnesses.
            But it hurts cause it's a sibling and the people who set him up are related too. Anyways I guess I shouldn't talk about it but it makes me feel better.

            1. Stevennix2001 profile image90
              Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

              i see.  im sorry to hear that. i take it he doesn't have an aliby or something then that could be used in his favor?

              1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
                schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                what's an aliby? (i forget!)

                1. Stevennix2001 profile image90
                  Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

                  oops sorry, i spelled it wrong.

                  alibi-: the plea of having been at the time of the commission of an act elsewhere than at the place of commission; also : the fact or state of having been elsewhere at the time

                  2. : an excuse usually intended to avert blame or punishment (as for failure or negligence)


                  if you can somehow prove he was somewhere else at the time of the crime, then there's a strong possibility his case could get dismissed.

                  1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
                    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

                    I'll tell you more later.

        2. IntimatEvolution profile image80
          IntimatEvolutionposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I've been in your shoes.  Happen to me about seven years ago.  My former best friend Wesley was accused of a terrible crime.  I guess he had some bad dealings with some people, got caught up in somethings by mistake, and was implemented in a serious crime as a result of it.  He fought hard for his innocence, but, in the end he was found guilty by association.  He is currently serving out a 12 year term.  Needless to say, our friendship fell apart as a result. Why?  I don't know.  He just stopped talking to me one day.

  2. 2uesday profile image82
    2uesdayposted 7 years ago

    If you make yourself ill or this - you will not be able to help him.

    If there is no evidence it may be that it will not end up with him going to prison for five years. Yes- help him but try not to dwell on the worse case scenario at the moment it might not come to that. That is the only advice I can offer really.

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      thx I'll try I found out yesterday.

  3. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    Good news! It seemed like forever, but I finally got a call from his lawyer!!!
    We talked and things are improving smile smile
    Not off the hook yet, but better big_smile

    1. Stevennix2001 profile image90
      Stevennix2001posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      that's good. im glad to hear things are improving for you then. hopefully this means they're starting to uncover evidence to prove your friend's innocence.  smile  by the way, did you ever get the message i sent you on facebook or yahoo yet?

  4. Mighty Mom profile image83
    Mighty Momposted 7 years ago

    Hi SGFR,
    Just stopping by to lend moral support. I know it is devastating to know that someone you care about has been falsely accused (trust me, I've lived that one).
    I hope that the truth will come out and that your friend's lawyer will be very effective in defending him.

    One thing I can tell you from personal experience is that you should try to avoid the rollercoaster. It will be that -- emotionally up, then down, then up, then down. Stay focused on the positive and stay hopeful that justice will prevail.

    And as suggested below, take good care of YOURSELF so you can be there for your loved one!

    Good luck and keep us posted, MM

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      thx MM I am doing a bit better and my therapist actually told me how to handle it better, i am sleeping better and not feeling so sad

      I'm also been staying my partents a few days which is very supportive thou they are a handful and I'm a caretaker so I'm taking time off and a break.

      thx

  5. Moonchild60 profile image77
    Moonchild60posted 7 years ago

    Your friend may try to call you collect.  You get a recording from the prison telling you about it and they will instruct you as to what to do to accept the call.  You just have to sit tight until they are allowed to do so.  I hope their lawyer can get this decision overturned if they are innocent.  It is awful for someone to pay for a crime they did not commit.  In any case, it will take time and you need to focus on writing letters, being there for their calls and offering all the emotional support you can.  Therefore it is important that you remain strong. I did that for my nephew for 3 years.  It was a life line for him, and incredibly important.  All my best to your friend.

  6. Rafini profile image85
    Rafiniposted 7 years ago

    I hope you get the assistance you need. smile

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      thanks doing the best possible smile
      realizing what myth buster said is true . one day at a time:)

  7. mythbuster profile image79
    mythbusterposted 7 years ago

    schoolgirlforreal - *bighug*

    Hang in there. The calmer and healthier you can make yourself, the better you'll be - for yourself - and for your friend.

    Whatever happens with your friend - it is going to take a long time and many connected "processes," that are by the prison system, court system, etc., so stressing - even if your friend can be proven innocent - is not going to make anything happen faster.

    I'm glad you've reached out for supports and that you talked to your therapist and came to some ways to start managing the issues rather than freaking out (although I think ANYONE would freak out at least for the first while - nothing abnormal about that at all) and causing yourself sleep deprivation on top of everything else!

    Again - hang in there *hugs*

    1. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      ty much appreciated

    2. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
      schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I'm so angry at my family some for being neutral

      1. mythbuster profile image79
        mythbusterposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        schoolgirlforreal,

        you may be reading some form of intent or motivation in your family that is not intended... perhaps they are "staying still" while trying to figure out how best to respond. What you've outlined already would be a shock to the sensibilities of pretty much any and everyone.

        Maybe just be careful, mindful, thoughtful when you communicate because likely, all of you (family, friends) are in a state of emotional thinking vs critical thinking... it's so easy to misread someone during times like this.

        *hugs* Hang in there!

  8. profile image0
    Home Girlposted 7 years ago

    This summer I had to pay almost 2 thousand dollars to a lawyer, because my son happened to be in the wrong place, at the wrong time - nothing more. But chance to go to prison was very real. Now I have empty pockets(it was all I had, almost a year's savings) and my son free with a lifetime lesson, I hope. Well, it's just money. Things happen and you should not cry forever. Tomorrow is another day.

  9. schoolgirlforreal profile image80
    schoolgirlforrealposted 7 years ago

    ty
    just wanted to say I've calmed down!
    thanks! wink

 
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