Something bad happened and I'm very emotional and I can't stop crying and I can't sleep. What can I do?
im sorry to hear that schoolgirl. what's ailing you?
Someone close to me was accused of an awful crime
and they could go to jail
for 5 years
and I know they are innocent.
I'm trying all I can with a few others to help.
Some people set him up.
wow, im sorry to hear that happened to you. have you guys talked to a lawyer about this yet? if not, then i probably would, as he/she might have some great legal advice to give you about how to prove your friend's innocence.
Yeah, he has a lawyer. But I can't talk to him yet, the jail won't take calls, and I guess he can't call cause he has no money on him.
I don't think they can prove it per say, there were no witnesses.
But it hurts cause it's a sibling and the people who set him up are related too. Anyways I guess I shouldn't talk about it but it makes me feel better.
i see. im sorry to hear that. i take it he doesn't have an aliby or something then that could be used in his favor?
oops sorry, i spelled it wrong.
alibi-: the plea of having been at the time of the commission of an act elsewhere than at the place of commission; also : the fact or state of having been elsewhere at the time
2. : an excuse usually intended to avert blame or punishment (as for failure or negligence)
if you can somehow prove he was somewhere else at the time of the crime, then there's a strong possibility his case could get dismissed.
okay. well if you want, i can meet you on facebook if you want to talk about it privately.
I've been in your shoes. Happen to me about seven years ago. My former best friend Wesley was accused of a terrible crime. I guess he had some bad dealings with some people, got caught up in somethings by mistake, and was implemented in a serious crime as a result of it. He fought hard for his innocence, but, in the end he was found guilty by association. He is currently serving out a 12 year term. Needless to say, our friendship fell apart as a result. Why? I don't know. He just stopped talking to me one day.
If you make yourself ill or this - you will not be able to help him.
If there is no evidence it may be that it will not end up with him going to prison for five years. Yes- help him but try not to dwell on the worse case scenario at the moment it might not come to that. That is the only advice I can offer really.
thx I'll try I found out yesterday.
Good news! It seemed like forever, but I finally got a call from his lawyer!!!
We talked and things are improving
Not off the hook yet, but better
Hi SGFR,
Just stopping by to lend moral support. I know it is devastating to know that someone you care about has been falsely accused (trust me, I've lived that one).
I hope that the truth will come out and that your friend's lawyer will be very effective in defending him.
One thing I can tell you from personal experience is that you should try to avoid the rollercoaster. It will be that -- emotionally up, then down, then up, then down. Stay focused on the positive and stay hopeful that justice will prevail.
And as suggested below, take good care of YOURSELF so you can be there for your loved one!
Good luck and keep us posted, MM
thx MM I am doing a bit better and my therapist actually told me how to handle it better, i am sleeping better and not feeling so sad
I'm also been staying my partents a few days which is very supportive thou they are a handful and I'm a caretaker so I'm taking time off and a break.
thx
Your friend may try to call you collect. You get a recording from the prison telling you about it and they will instruct you as to what to do to accept the call. You just have to sit tight until they are allowed to do so. I hope their lawyer can get this decision overturned if they are innocent. It is awful for someone to pay for a crime they did not commit. In any case, it will take time and you need to focus on writing letters, being there for their calls and offering all the emotional support you can. Therefore it is important that you remain strong. I did that for my nephew for 3 years. It was a life line for him, and incredibly important. All my best to your friend.
thanks doing the best possible
realizing what myth buster said is true . one day at a time:)
schoolgirlforreal - *bighug*
Hang in there. The calmer and healthier you can make yourself, the better you'll be - for yourself - and for your friend.
Whatever happens with your friend - it is going to take a long time and many connected "processes," that are by the prison system, court system, etc., so stressing - even if your friend can be proven innocent - is not going to make anything happen faster.
I'm glad you've reached out for supports and that you talked to your therapist and came to some ways to start managing the issues rather than freaking out (although I think ANYONE would freak out at least for the first while - nothing abnormal about that at all) and causing yourself sleep deprivation on top of everything else!
Again - hang in there *hugs*
I'm so angry at my family some for being neutral
schoolgirlforreal,
you may be reading some form of intent or motivation in your family that is not intended... perhaps they are "staying still" while trying to figure out how best to respond. What you've outlined already would be a shock to the sensibilities of pretty much any and everyone.
Maybe just be careful, mindful, thoughtful when you communicate because likely, all of you (family, friends) are in a state of emotional thinking vs critical thinking... it's so easy to misread someone during times like this.
*hugs* Hang in there!
This summer I had to pay almost 2 thousand dollars to a lawyer, because my son happened to be in the wrong place, at the wrong time - nothing more. But chance to go to prison was very real. Now I have empty pockets(it was all I had, almost a year's savings) and my son free with a lifetime lesson, I hope. Well, it's just money. Things happen and you should not cry forever. Tomorrow is another day.
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