Is Valentine's Day all about Women?

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   Shariceyposted 12 years ago

   Is Valentine's Day all about Women?
   
   I heard someone say that Valentine's day is about women and that guys should get their lady a gift not the other way around. Yes your man should get you a gift but should you really not give him anything? And if you do get him a gift what do you give him? Clearly hes not looking for flowers.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   No. It's also for your man to show how much you appreciate him. Two video games and a robe this year.

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   Bonsie007posted 12 years ago

   I think it's up to each individual. But I usually fix my sweetie a special meal. So I think it's sweet both ways. One year I placed a handwritten letter in his lunch that had two hears holding hands. Threw in some of his favorite candy and he loved it! This year we're treating each other for a dinner out together at a local steak house. The old saying a way to a mans heart is to his stomach is so true!

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   Cantuhearmescreamposted 12 years ago

   Sharicey,
       The answer is a big No; but the solution isn’t so simple. Generally men aren’t as sentimental as women and many won’t make a huge fuss because it’s Valentine’s Day. Yes, some know that they have an obligation and make some attempt and of course, there are some true romantics out there that don’t need prompting. However, it is my experience that a lot of woman place so much stress on the day and being made to feel loved that their men are almost destined to fail before they’ve even started. What do men love? Food and Sex. If we want to really address the question we have to be prepared for a realistic answer. I don’t care what you look like or if you have any insecurities, if you are in a relationship chances are your man is attracted to you, so have fun. I’m not saying we all need to go out to Victoria’s Secret or try to impersonate a Playboy Bunny, but even a sexy red dress or “special” undergarments. Put on a pair of high heels, extra perfume and turn up the sex appeal; if you play the part he’ll follow suit. For food, who feels sexy after eating a huge plate of food? So, I suggest a small little dessert, something you know your husband would enjoy. There is to be no negative conversations, just enjoy each other’s company and don’t expect your man to overly indulge you or be mad when he doesn’t and you should both have a great Valentine’s Day.

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   Lizam1posted 12 years ago

   Why not flowers - especially if he's a gardener, a basketful of things to grow might be appreciated.  Other gifts and I DO think men deserve gifts too could include a gift certificate for something he really wants to do with the boys, cooking him a romantic meal followed by playing a game or watching a movie that he really wants to see/play, tickets for a game or concert, handmade cookies or chocolates or a book of home made gift certificates for ***** your imagination is the key to this gift!

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   Frangipanniposted 12 years ago

   Nooooooo! I think it's for both parties to let another person know they have feelings for them.

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   Neinahpetsposted 12 years ago

   Well if you want to follow what the media tries to push, yes it's all about women; however, if you want to go on your own then it can be either way.  Big marketing always gears this holiday towards gifting women with jewels, candy and flowers... most all of the advertising and gifts are for women.  I think it's overrated and should be for everyone.  I bake lots of sweets for my husband on Valentines so that he has something great (and with his sweet tooth baking him Valentine's Day cupcakes is like giving him a Tiffany diamond ring!)

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   Little Grandmommyposted 12 years ago

   I feel it's about everyone.  Valentine's Day has always been fun for me, from grammar school until now.  Our family sends cards to everyone, spouses, grandparents, children, siblings, grandchildren, aunts and uncles and close friends.

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   James Petersposted 12 years ago

   First of all, St. Valentine's Day was FIRST created to honor Saint Valentine - that's it. The problem is, since there were so many saints that went by the name Valentine, it's sort of hard to know which saint they were actually talking about.
   Most scholars have narrowed it down to three (3), but that's another story. You can read about it here at http://hub.me/aeE1S
   Valentine's Day had NOTHING to do with chocolate hearts, cupid and especially LOVE. It wasn't until great authors such as Geoffrey Chaucer (1343 - 1400) who started associating LOVE with ST. VALENTINE'S DAY.
   ABOUT THE GIFT GIVING:
   Personally, being a guy flowers aren't really my thing. But maybe a VENUS FLYTRAP would do the trick. How about a bow & arrow set? A sword would be cool... make Valentine's Day gifts a bit more "theme like"... Shakespeare days... Romeo & Juliet stuff and keep Xmas gifts separated from Valentine's Day gifts.

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    peachpurpleposted 12 years ago

    in my opinion, valentine's day is for both men and women. Some men are not romantic at all so it's the women who take the initiative to give something and receive something in return, a hug, a kiss or a smile. My man doesn't give me anything on Valentine's Day. I give him food. That keeps our love blooming.

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    Samith Jhonposted 12 years ago

    It's not. It's about money.
    
    Same thing with Mother's and Father's day, the entire Christmas season, and even things like St. Patrick's Day. The commercials you see are just from people trying to use tradition to get people to buy things. They don't care whether it's the tradition of men financially supporting women, collective guilt about falling out of contact with one's parents, an Irish drinking holiday or a religious festival, if they can use tradition to get a few more people to spend money than otherwise would, then that's what they'll do.
    
    I recently saw a commercial for a mattress retailer that was trying to capitalize on Presidents' Day. No, Abraham Lincoln doesn't have anything to do with bedding - people who are trying to sell things just grasp at any shred of culture they think they can turn into profit.

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       Lizam1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

       You raise a good point that, especially in the West, consumerism is king for many people.  However you can create beuatiful home made gifts which we do and the pleasure I get from making and how they are received is a double bonus.

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