I've just completed a hub on what valentines day gifts for what women really want. Looking into a man's perspective, I don't think they really have a clue! So, thought that a discussion on this would be really helpful...
a kitten or a puppy or a diamond ring....maybe some nice earrings with matching bracellete and necklace
Of course all I want for Vday is a relaxing fun day with my husband, no presents needed. but if he was to get me a present...I am still waiting for a pair of good combat boots. Yes I know weird gift but hey that is what I want
Seriously, St. Valentine's Day doesn't have to be elaborate or expensive. Just pay attention to what you know your significant other likes, go with that. But if she likes, say, pizza, don't just stick some frozen bit of cardboard in the oven.
i luv getting flowers. i've gotten long-stemmed red roses in a big white box with a red satin ribbon around it. what's not to love about that? i also got a giant pink carebear with a heart on his tummy...that's on my bed and i cuddle with it and think of who gave it to me. i also like getting chocolates...good ones not cheap ones from Walgreens. and dinner out at a fabulous posh restaurant, not TGI Friday's.
Every woman is different. Some are sentimental and appreciate romantic occasions or gifts that display your knowledge of them. Others are more practical and believe that if you value them, you'll give them something of value. It also depends on how you love them and what you love about them.
I honestly never knew Valentines Day people exchange gifts? We don't, but I best be getting a list together for Tiffany's I swear-truly I did not know this transpired, however we both don't celebrate it, which could be why ha, I'll stick to surprise days, many more of them, so in a long winded way, I suppose my answer is, 'no clue'
I am a romantic... I don't care about jewlery or fancy gifts. My most memorable gifts are those that were unique. For example instead of going to a fancy restaurant I prefer my boy cooking dinner for me and setting the scene like you see it in romantic films: lots of candles, flowers, champagne, a cozy shaggy rug by the fireplace. That for me shows me that he cares and not just went into a shop, asked the shop assistant for advice and came out with a nice packet choosen by her!
Did a hub about it Shaz; advising men It's the card stupid! But essentially I concur it's the thought of love and passion on that special day. Always worked for me no matter if I had money or not. (as a soldier more often not).
aww good on ya. For me it's the same I like thoughtfulness, something specil not something expensive.
I'm not a Valentine's girl anyway. I tink it's just about the money.
On Valentine's Day if I was with someone I'd just want to spend the day with them. Or at home cooked meal and cuddles n snuggles, with lit candles and all the lights off a DVD, not romance but action, epic or comedy.
it is nice to have a man just arrive home with a gift, for no other reason than that he loves you...... they must know that is what every woman wants.... well every woman i know. They seem to fall short on that score though..... I prefer my man to go out for the day on Valentines day and give me some peace........ only joking darling of course
I'll try and defend myself. Provided I'm not single by next Valentines I was thinking of just getting a few assorted things, some practical, some fun, and putting them in a nice little wicker basket I found Oh and some good quality flowers too I already know the place, just not sure what variety to get
noi i doubt if they will get it right. The best thing to do is go into a florist choose your flowers, chose what you want on the card, even pay for them yourself, then see if you can get the money from him later........
Hey I have driven through SCUD missle attacks in The Gulf War to use an AT%T Telephone tent in the dessert to call my huny on Valentines Day 1991! The Line was over a 1/4 mile long of guys doiing the same thing as me. There are plenty of us that 'get it' Gotta go I got Volunteer work at the Hospital this morning but I'll be back later to continue this!! Game On Ladies!
I still remember what I did for my first ever girlfriend... I wrote her a poem, inside a card that took forever to make, I cut a circle out of the card, cut two heart shapes, shaded them red, stuck them together and hung them from silver thread in the middle. I also got her a teddy bear and a wooden rose... Ahh distant memories xD
Clean dishes and an empty garbage can that I didn't have to do myself .
K, on to seriousness...for myself, I'd much rather have some token that shows he's thinking about me and wants to spend time with me, rather than buying me something generic like flowers or chocolates. An evening out together even if it's just for a walk, a houseplant that goes perfectly in that spot I've been wanting to fill, my favorite brand of dark chocolate, or a home-cooked meal with that one dish I really liked but haven't had in months...all of these show that he's actually paying attention and/or wants to spend time with me, THAT'S the best thing for Valentine's Day
Only if you did something else wrong, it's just a really good excuse to mentally beat you over the head for something we've been seething about. Later we'll get mad at you because you didn't realize that it really had nothing to do with the Valentine's Day thing, and then get mad because you don't know what it is you're in trouble for.
I guess it all depends on the person, I'm perfectly happy if all he does is bring me a can of pop from the break room at work or gives me a hug I wasn't expecting, mileage varies according to the female though
I HATE V-day with a passion. All I want, is the same thing I want every day.. to be appreciated, as a human. Not ignored, or forgotten.And it would be nice if this year, the flower delivery van would either 1. be delivering flowers to ME, or 2. purchase a GPS and not stop at my house for directions.
To those who have posted in despair or disgust - I ask you gals what efforts have you put forward to train you man? Does it take an old widower like me to point out what you already should know? If you are in love with a male, then you have chosen him, and it is up to you to teach him as well. You have a guy that has a thick skull of mush that you must mold into what pleases you. You can not afford to be subtle about the things that you think are important. He does not see things like you do, the empty spot in the corner for a new plant is to him a place to set a beer while he's watching the game. If you have a Huny you're are loved from the heart, guys pretty much think their paycheck and continued presence is a clear and convincing statement to that effect, How bout pointing out some of what you do for them in a pleasant and loving way? Like "Baby what so you think of this dish I made for you? I spent 6hrs on the internet finding this recipe....Is it too spicy??" or with a deep sigh, oh sweetie I so miss having flowers on the table in the winter time (forlorn sigh) See Dogised hasn't been trained at all as he's buying a basket with 'practical' stuff included for valentines day, did his huny ever give him 'The Briefing'? No cords, No appliances, No tools, on Valentines Day, Anniversary, Mothers Day, Birthdays, or Christmas? Miss Take - If you'd do your training you would have flowers everyday, including Valentines day. Put the empty vase where he can see it, when he is close by sidle up close to him and look him straight in the eye and say "Sweetie, do you see that vase over there?" When he says yes why? U say "Do you see the problem with it?" He will then give it closer inspection and reply no what's the matter, is it cracked ? Broken? U say"No sweetie it's Empty." Then bat your eyes at him and pout. He will then understand, It might take a few iterations of this one but eventually he will began to do Vase Maintenance and refill it when you empty it. Just remember Task Condition and Standard and train to proficiency. Hoooah!
i toatlly had a rant planned...but I give up.......must be my fault my mans brains are so mushy that he cant look at me one day out of the year. btw, i cook 3 meals a day, because i do love him. but i quit asking if he liked it about 4 years ago when he yelled that i was a f%×§#g nag...and stormed out of the house....clearly my fault for improper training..oh yeah, id kill for an appliance...any recognition or thought whatsoever
so are you saying that not only must we look after them, we have to THINK for them as well! Well blow that! We do enough of that the rest of the year!
It crosses my mind that many women find themselves picking a present, buying the present and even using their own money to fund it! Is it any wonder that if a man expects a DIY on gifts, then it would be reasonable to expect a DIY on sex! lol *buzz buzz*
See /shaz you have missed my point completely, You do not have to think for them, you have to train them to think how you want them too. We were not given the intricate and subtle powers of perception that you were. It's not a something we do or don't do out of spite or lack of love, it's that some simple training gets us tuned to you. I've said it elsewhere but it bears repeating here. Give a Gal a Fish, and she has to cook, Teach her to train her hubby and she'll eat out twice a week!
Exactly!! I like that method. Of course, my SO and I ended up with the perfect combination...he's older and has two ex-wives who taught him what to and not to do, and I'm still young enough to be very blunt about what I want. I have no problem saying, "I want to get a pothos to put in that corner, if I ever get the money to spare..." This tactic has gotten me a big cushy faux leather office chair, an ergonomic keyboard, a massage/heating pad, and help rubbing in lotion whenever I want it provided I specifically ask for it. That, and he's already a gourmet chef, which really helps things...I grew up in a house where the spices were salt, pepper, and garlic powder.
That said...I think Colebabie has the right idea, can't argue with that one .
Get em trained! It has taken me 16 years training him but he still doesnt get it! But, dont get me wrong - this isnt a moan, Im at a point that it doesnt hurt anymore! Acceptance is a great thing!! lol
Some do tend to be a little slow...of course, I'm finding out that un-training can be at least as difficult. Mine still needs constant reminders that when I ask his opinion I really DO want HIS opinion, not what he thinks I want him to say.
Easy. What women want (every day not just valentine’s day) is their man to be strong but gentle, sensible but playful, completely honest but considerate, handsome but not vain, rich but not materialistic, creative but practical, sensitive but resilient, understanding but no pushover, courageous but not foolish, able to be with everyone but only have eyes for them, romantic but not overly sentimental, assertive but harsh, financially aware but generous, giving but able to receive, able to hold on tight and able to let go, and able to know when to do which.
In short what women want always and everywhere is the moon on a bloody stick!
Sex. Seriously thats all I want. We don't have to go anywhere. You don't have to buy me anything. V-day is just a day to get laid. (this isn't an ad, I'm not taking applications, I have a guy by the way )
All he really has to do is show that he cares enough to put a little heart and thought into something that does not revolve around him. For example- A stay at home mom of 3 kids, would probably enjoy some time alone/even if they have no money to treat her to a day of pampering at a spa- the man could always get rid of the kids for awhile so she can have alone time (with or without the man there).
I think women want to know someone cares but isn't pushy about it. What does that mean? Different things get the message across to different women.
If going for flowers try to avoid hot house roses, etc. Flowers grown out in the open and in a more natural setting tend to have a better scent and to keep their scent longer. If you grow flowers then flowers out of your own garden will have that personal touch some women like.
If going for chocolates you might like to think in terms of what might remind her of a special time you two shared and enjoyed together. For one woman I know it was chocolates shaped like pyramids because of our shared interest in a particular Egyptian love story. She was also the type with itchy feet so a long weekend in the country staying at a favorite hired cottage was also on the cards. Well, I like the country and I like to get out and about too (the same itchy feet) so there you have it. She also tells me I have great taste in jewelry so picking up something nice for her in that regard was also going to be there.
honestly all I want if i was in a relationship is to just spend time with my loved one.. to be acknowledged and make it a somewhat special day really... go for a drive a walk on the beach or something or have a dinner at an exceptionally nice restaurant ... honestly I am not a real big valentines day fan I dont really celebrate it.. flowers are always nice to just to know that u are thought of is nice in general so the way I see it is these things should come from your loved one through out the year here and there just to let them know u are thinking of them and not just on valentines day
That is such an awesome way to explain it...just thought I'd let you know that . Special touches are a wonderful thing...like if I am going to buy my husband (a veteran) flowers it's peace roses, they're his favorite, but if he's going to buy me flowers it's either going to be something potted or lantana (I love the smell!), or maybe potted lantana . He knows I would get irritated at him if he spent money on jewelry because I hardly ever wear it, but a Papa Murphy's pizza is just perfect. It really does get down to truly, honestly knowing the person you're with.
I don't know...he thinks he can make me happy by picking the "right" answer, but then later gets upset or stressed because it wasn't really what he wanted. We're working on it...I told him that when I ask him about something, I'm almost always ambivalent about the answer or I wouldn't be asking him, I'd just do it . Alternatively, I ask his opinion on important decisions, and if it differs from mine I want to know so that we can discuss the pros and cons of the available options...sometimes I think of something he doesn't, and many many times he thinks of something I never considered. I know it has to be tough after spending 18 years, between the two previous wives, being asked for his opinion and then having her tapping her foot and looking expectantly at him with a "don't you dare say the wrong thing" look on her face.
Maybe, but most of the ones I have known have always hung out for 12 red roses or more, I always find this one sux as the Florists never seem to have enough. I always forget till the last minute. What Guy doesn't.
One son buys a stuffed toy or jewellery, card and takes her out for dinner. My other son buys near same thing but adds a single rose, makes a card and takes her to a movie. Me? I like earrings, a single rose, wine, dance and cuddle watching a movie but don't tell anybody, k lol
My family consists of a bunch of people who really don't understand what it means to be a family. I still have my mother, she is 62 and hates life, who I live with. I have one sister and she has two daughters. My sister is divorced and in a relationship(11 years and counting). Her daughters are ages 18 and 14.
I have no wife. I have no kids. I've never been married.
By learning about the women around me and interacting with many, even if they don't know me.
I've never had a problem talking to women. It's a gift I enjoy, because it allows me to be a better listen, especially since I'm not too much into myself. I know myself and my ability, so I don't find a reason to talk about myself.
Now, if you read my writing. It would suggest that that wasn't true, because everything I write if from what I see, hear and dealt with. But, then again, for those who read my hubs, learn that I don't think like the average man and I carry myself differently.
If people see my writing as arrogrant or egotistical? Then, they obviously have the wrong impression.
I am sorry. I often suffer terrible computer problems. It just freezes, takes ages to boot and reconnect. It is like it has a nervous breakdown! It gets to a point that I just give up, leave it to cool down and start again.
Also, I tend to live life from one set of crisis to another. I have two boys with disability and their needs divert me somewhat. Sometimes I am called out for emergencies.. I volunteer for the Red Cross and the Ambulance service.
I find that I go through life prioritising my time. The internet is my joy. It is stimulating and is just for my own selfish need. The rest of my life involves dedicating myself totally to others. I give absolutely everything in my soul for them. There is a lot of suffering out there in the world x
So, if I suddenly disappear, it isnt because I am rude... it is because I dont have a choice and other demands take hold.
Are women really worth the same pay as men?Most of the women that I work with are less dependable, absent more often, get pregnant, worry about their looks, have relationship problems, cry at work if something goes...