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Staying alone most of the time is good or bad?

  1. manni0303 profile image59
    manni0303posted 13 months ago

    Staying alone most of the time is good or bad?

    I like spending time with myself more than anybody else, I like reading, writing and watching tv. I have friends as well. But the best time for me is the time which I spend alone. Is this a psychological disorder or this is normal ?

  2. Luke Holm profile image94
    Luke Holmposted 13 months ago

    Hey! Don't worry so much.  I think from society's perspective, it might be a bit weird.  However, who cares what society thinks? You don't have a psychological disorder.  You have friends, but just find value in your alone time.  You are intrinsic and probably born in the winter or early spring.  I love my alone time. It's how I accomplish my goals.

    I find that people distract me from achieving my dreams, but that they are absolutely necessary for my dreams to exist in the first place.  It's a strange dichotomy. 

    If you feel like you are being too much of a hermit, then go outside. Go hang out with friends.  Do something with someone else. 

    Human interaction is absolutely important.  However, I think society neglects introspection and the ability to be with one's self.  Find a balance that makes you happy and don't apologize to anyone for being you.  Take care smile

    1. manni0303 profile image59
      manni0303posted 13 months agoin reply to this

      Thanx for such a nice comment but can you explain what is the relation between my staying alone with my birth(winter or early spring)....i find it really exciting.

  3. Becky Katz profile image84
    Becky Katzposted 13 months ago

    Most people cannot stand being by themselves. I crave it. My kids are grown and they have been a joy to raise, but it is so nice to be by myself for awhile. I spent 28 years raising our kids, whose ages were widely strung out. My husband recently died and I spent the two years prior, running to see him at the convalescent home. I spent the 8 years prior to that being his caregiver.
    I need to spend some time with me now, to remember who I am and what I like to do. I think I like me, but I can't remember. I used to like sitting on the front porch and admiring the view, the lizards running around on the rails, and reading. I have beautiful mountain views both front and back. I sit out there and take a book. The dogs will either lay next to me or go exploring their 3 acre yard. I have company when I want it since my kids all live within 6 miles of me.
    I get help with my gardens from my oldest boy, who is a landscaper. He has helped me get my rose garden planted and landscaped. He is also helping me get a raised veggie garden and a nice herb garden going. I used to love gardening, but have not had the time for so long, that he is having to reteach me, like I taught him so many years ago. I am enjoying my time alone, mostly because I have not had the luxury of being alone for so many years.
    I have never been someone that needed to be entertained. I can be entertained by doing something that I enjoy doing. It is becoming more rare and yet more common as people retreat into themselves and their social media. I never could understand a group of people on their phones, using their social media; and yet not a word is being spoken to each other. Make the most of your time alone and also make the most of your time with people. You will be considered more interesting by your acquaintances.

    1. manni0303 profile image59
      manni0303posted 13 months agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much for giving so much of time to my question and writing such a beautiful comment....really nice to hear that someone shares similar feelings like me

  4. Omar Eldamsheety profile image68
    Omar Eldamsheetyposted 13 months ago

    It is not bad if you are still a normal person ... I mean if you have no problem to live with the others.

    1. manni0303 profile image59
      manni0303posted 13 months agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your positive words