In light of money being everything if your child was kidnapped and you needed to

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   chuckandus6posted 9 years ago

   In light of money being everything if your child was kidnapped and you needed to choose between
   
   losing all your money to ransom or your child? or what if you had to choose between leaving your job and taking a part time job because your loved one needed your care in sickness?

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   
   
   I always find these types of questions fascinating in that people always make it seem as though one has to "choose" between money and love. You really can have both!
   One can make more money but they can't re-create that particular child. The only reason I wouldn't pay the ransom would be if I had reason to believe it was a fake kidnapping and my child was behind it. Another reason might be if the FBI presented an alternative viable plan. I would tend to trust the professionals.
   As for quitting a job to help a loved one it would really depend on whether or not I could afford to take the pay cut, if the family member had money to help me with their care, or if I had the necessary skills and know how.
   Most people living in nursing homes have adult children.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      THANK YOU, people can provide for a loved one and still have thriving careers Dashing, I can't believe SOME people, really.Where are their THINKING process and LOGICAL REASONING. One doesn't have to be impoverished to care for a loved one!

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   
   
   One can have a thriving career and provide care for a loved one.  That is what nursing care is for.  Also, when a child is kidnapped, one contacts the authorities.  Good God, woman, there is such a thing as logical reasoning here.  One does not have to go into debt to ransom a child nor care for a loved one.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      what you call illogical i call love ,which you still need money to survive, but you need love otherwise you are worth as much to humanity as the material things you can buy

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      This isn't love but askewed reasoning. People unthinkingly become homeless with your attitude.  One can care for a relative and still have wealth/career.  What world are you from? To go into debt for a loved one is beyond preposterous, it is stupid!

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   MarieLBposted 9 years ago

   I doubt that one can have such black & white solutions.  Life is not like that. 
   However, supposing I had to choose between all the money I had and bringing back my child.
   
   I see it this way.  Could I ever live happy after choosing to give up my child?  Could I ever accept such a move?  Will money ever erase my guilt and my sorrow?  Nah. . .never.
   
   Yet if I gave up all my money, I could perhaps start on the road of recovering from being destitute.  I could even - in time- have enough or as much as I had given up. 
   
   To choose between a top job and caring for someone I love?
   but of course.  A job is replaceable, a loved one is not.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      One can lovingly care for a person without going destitute.  The premise in the form of a question was presented childishly and illogically.  The question was asked in an askewed manner.  People with thriving careers have cared for loved ones.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I think someone that feels like money is everything is lacking the true appreciation for people.Kind of sad. People always say how happy my husband and I are and its definently not from bein rich

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      So you have the poverty mentality.  It is "great" to go into debt to care for people.  Well, that isn't logical.  One can be wealthy, have a career, and loving care for people.  What are YOU "thinking", if at all!

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I have a mindset of ,my family would be my first priority,if i went from wealthy to struggling to be there for them,i would do it.struggling to get by is not the end of the world it adds character and strength

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      MarieLBposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Grace Marguerite Williams, I believe that the person who put the question in the first place has the right to decide on how to put that question.  If you disagree, that is fine.  You will have the same right when you are in that position.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Let's be reasonable here. People can care for people yet retain their careers and wealth.Hello, is anyone HOME?! Dashingscorpio and I are the only sensible, mature, and intelligent ones here! The question is insane in scope!

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   liesl5858posted 9 years ago

   If my child was kidnapped and the kidnappers wanted all the money I have then I will give everything up because I would like my child back. That is how much my child means to me. Money is replaceable while my child isn't.
   
   Leaving a job or doing part time job to care for my loved one who is not well. Well for me personally, I will ask the company I am working for if they can give me some time off to care for my loved one who is ill. I would rather care for my loved one than put him in a nursing home which I have to pay for anyway. Also I don't know if my loved one will get better or not so as much as possible, I would like to spend some more time with him and give him my time and care. You can have all the money in the world but if you loss someone you love, it would be painful and is irreplaceable.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Again ad continuum, one can have a successful/thriving career and provide great care for a loved one. How many times must I say this One doesn't have to go into impoverishment to care for a loved one.That notion is beyond ridiculous, even inane.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Yes i agree i could never put someone in a nursing home if i was physically able to care for them,why? i worked in laundry at a nursing home and a.nursing home takes away most of their possesions,their privacy,their self esteem.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      There are EXCELLENT nursing homes around.If one has wealth,h/she is able to have private nursing care.It is done and has been done.  You have a VERY LIMITED PERSPECTIVE on problem solving.I have NEVER met anyone like you in my life.....

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Your perspective boggles me too
      but I suppose there is good in indifference in people as proven in the past,in history and today.If everyone had the same perspective we would be all the same

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      It  ISN'T indifference. I am not going into debt for anyone. If my child was kidnapped, I would contact the authorities. That is what INTELLIGENT people do. People do not quit working to care for loved ones. They provide the needed care and work!

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      MarieLBposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I have been on HP for nearly a year.  I have never, ever come across someone who puts their view forward in such a rude and aggressive manner as gmwilliams.  I will stay away from that name in future.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Not rude at all, just opinionated as New Yorkers are.  We say as we see it, straight no chaser.  We are hardcore realists regarding life.  No sugarcoating Pollyanna fantasy but the hard facts!

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      liesl5858posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Grace Marguerite Williams, I was answering the question presented above the way I would deal with the situation that is presented. We all have different views and the above is my answer. It doesn't have to be the same with yours.

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   old albionposted 9 years ago

   I would pay the money, I would also give up employment if a loved one needed me. Money is not the main thing in life odd as this might seem to some of us. If you are needed you should respond without doubt and your child should be your number one priority, yes number one.
   What we all seek in life is; Peace of mind, we realise this as we get older of course.
   Graham.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your answer,it's good to know that there are people with a heart in the world.

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      MarieLBposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Nichol marie. . . Rest assured, that there are many many more who "have a heart" as you would put it, and very few that would rate material gain over emotional tranquillity.

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      chuckandus6posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      That is a good thing a world full of money crazed people would be a sad place.

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   tamarawilhiteposted 8 years ago

   I'd rather have my kids. That said, hiring someone to hunt down the kidnapper and get the kids back, ideally killing the thugs who likely have no issue cutting off kids' fingers to prove they have the child is not out of the question.

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