In those situation where there is no such thing as a simple gut-instinct obvious 'right' thing to do... how do you decide how to act?
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In the end it is everyone's own responsibility to take care of their body. In that situation I would maybe give them some literature or a documentary on the subject. It's easy to be patronising without realising it so I'd signpost them to an expert.
I really want to help her and see her be healthy, but, like you said, that isn't my job. I don't want her to feel like I'm insulting her, because I think when she pushes herself she is great and working super hard. I wish I could explain it to her.
The only advice I could give would be to make encouraging comments when she's trying, but don't when she isn't. Consistent rewards for positive behavior and nothing for negative behavior. You never need to criticize her - she'll do that for herself.
Thank you for that big of advice. That makes a lot of sense. It's not my place and I understand that now. Damn being a overbearing friend!
There's nothing overbearing about your demeanor at all! Your concern for your friend is obvious - and you are only looking for ways to help her because you care. Your actions are commendable.
Thank you! She is practically my family.
What if gut feeling takes you the wrong way? Righteous anger can make people make snap decisions...
Do you think there is a natural moral "good and bad" then? That this "gut feeling" is the same for everyone?
I think there are some similarities but just as many differences. For instance, I think drug addicts should be used as experimental subjects for lab testing. They're already killing themselves, might as well use them for something.
Having been there in a minor way myself I have to say that's a bit of an objectionable remark... however good humored. Drug addicts are normal people who have lost thei way a bit. Don't judge others till you've walked a mile in their shoes my friend.
I have to admit for a moment I was, as a recovering addict, pretty offended by that remark, but I realize you may not be well informed on the subject of addiction. Please feel free to read the hubs I have written on recovery. Enlighten yourself.
You may have recovered from your addiction but that doesn't absolve you of your crime. In my eyes since you knowingly fed money into criminal organizations you share responsibility for the murders they commit. I don't think it's unfair either.
Interesting... I actually have a lot to say on this subject and it's far too big to discuss in these word-limited comment boxes. I take your point to some extent... but in the end I disagree. A hub shall be forthcoming...
How do you weigh up the pros and cons? how do you ascribe value?
Hard to answer without knowing the issue. Hard to place value on advantages and disadvantages of a decision that is very individual. Only you can decide if pros and cons cause sacrifice or benefits to you or someone else. Many layers.
This is a Kantian style choice and I have to say these ones always appealed to me more than Utilitarian ideals. Motive and intention are good things to go on. Even if the result is bad - it was right to do in some way if your intentions were pure.
I think so as well. I believe that if my intentions are pure, and I make the right choice and make it intelligently with tact and consideration my conscience is clear. I have created no negative Karma and have been compassionate to myself and others.
Hi there - thanks for dropping by :) I think that's not actually a bad approach. Do what you won't feel guilty about afterwards... of course this doesn't win in the old no-win situation of course... what then?
Hey JThomp and Dan I think that you know, it's not just the gut it's literally just knowing the difference of right and wrong. Then there's the old "Do unto others" Truth be told paying it forward once and/or forgiveness would be change us all :)))