Is Marriage good?

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   dentist83posted 13 years ago

   Hi.  I want to know what everyone thinks about marriage.  Do you believe in it?  IS it good or bad?  Is it better to live together without been marriage?  Is it better to be marriage?  Have you had any experience positive or negative you will like to talk about?  Did you stop been the way you were?  Wel,l I will appreciate your reflexions.

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      Sally's Troveposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      "They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together. Rather they alone are called husband and wife, who have one soul in two bodies." ~Guru Amar Das
      
      I think this answers the questions, "Is it good or bad?" and "Is it better to live together without been marriage?"

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      bryguy1posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I don't believe there is anything better then the marriage between two people that Love one another unconditionally.  The problems to my belief with today marriages are that people don't marry for the right reasons.  People tend to marry for a sense of security,material possessions, pregnancy and many other reasons but the most important reason is that you Love one another and accept eachother regardless of the faults you both have.  You must know how to compromise and communicate on a civil level and always keep God in the center of your relationship. With God,trust,honesty,patience & good communication I believe you can work through all the trials that face a marriage relationship in today's world.

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   ralwusposted 13 years ago

   I believe in tying the marriage knot, as long as it's around the woman's neck.

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      Dale Mazurekposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      That is hilarious but really I think eas is for own.  I have been married over 21 years and wouldnt change a thing.  While many others have gone 3 or 4 marriages in the same amount of time.

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         Wendi Mposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Guess I couldn't have timed my answer any better, huh?

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            dentist83posted 13 years agoin reply to this

            Why do you think this new relation you have now had worked better than the others?

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               Wendi Mposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               I have no idea, I just don't seem to have that same urge to run, as I did when I was married.

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                  tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

                  Why do you think that is?

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      starme77posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I believe the same way - but just the opposite

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         PirateGirlposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh you are like me

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   Wendi Mposted 13 years ago

   Which one, my 1st, 2nd or 3rd?  The weddings were fun, but the marriages didn't last very long...and, unless you have a really good sense of humor, the divorces are kind of a drag.  However, I met this great guy on "Match.com" and we've been together for almost 5 years...so I'm going to go with "JUST LIVE TOGETHER", it's cheaper than those hefty divorce fees!  But that's just me!

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   sooner than laterposted 13 years ago

   without God, my wife and I would never have been married these 28 years. I can look at her now and remember the feelings I had when I first met her. Its awesome. I pray for marital success for my three boys every day.

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      tksenseiposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      You just got a new fan!

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         sooner than laterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         I'm blushing, thank you.

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            PirateGirlposted 13 years agoin reply to this

            PMSL !!

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               sooner than laterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               you should clean that up. ;-)

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               Ron Montgomeryposted 13 years agoin reply to this

               Again?  You're gonna get dehydrated.  Are you re-loading with Guiness?

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      Flightkeeperposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Sooner, if the boys are like you and your lady, I think they'll have a good chance at happiness.

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   Mishaposted 13 years ago

   In Russian we use the same word "брак" both for marriage and defective goods. Go figure is it has some symbolic meaning

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   caravalhophotoposted 13 years ago

   I love the whole idea of marriage.  I believe for some couples they were ment to be together and found the fight, along a hard journey I'm sure, was well worth it, they found forever togetherness and in most cases happiness.
   I personally can not seem to make it past the 3 year mark in a marriage, crap one marriage lasted 1 month to the day before I filed to have it annauled.  The dating part of all the relationships before marriage 2 years to 8 years...
   I guess for me marriage will just need to remain an idea and if I am ever asked for my hand in marriage, to just give them the other finger and walk away.

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   theageofcakeposted 13 years ago

   For me personally, marriage constructs a kind of hierarchy of love that I don't really appreciate.  It also creates a kind of artificial barrier that discourages two people from separating, which in some cases may be a good thing, but in others can just feel like a trap.  If you really care for another person and want to be with them, you should be able to do that without a wedding ring.

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   atomswifeyposted 13 years ago

   Marriage is awesome! although it can be hard work. You have to be ready for that lifetime commitment which sadly people today really do not take the time to reflect on much. Plus they always give themselves an out.
   
   My husband and I have been through things most people would have crumbled on. Our secret? We do not give ourselves an out. we never use the words, "ok thats it!" or "I'm out of here!"
   we may walk away from the argument for a while but we do not walk out on each other in the sense of emotionally or in the sense of a break-up.
   
   My parents were married for 40 years. My hubbys parents for over 40 ! I think wow! That is a looooong time to stay married. BUt people of their generation even though they went through a lot of the same crap we do knew that love can conquer all. They also knew how to walk away from the fight and not each other.
   
   Now there are some deal breakers and I am not speaking of those hard core situations. Only the stresses. Like money, the kids, moving, the toilet seat and lid those kinds of things.

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