Is it morally improper to have a live-in relationship? Would it not create problems for the subjects
It depends on who you ask. But for me it is imperative that two people live together before making any commitments that will effect the rest of their lives.
One does not buy a pair of shoes, or pair of pants without trying them on first. Why should a bigger commitment not deserve the same?
I have known many couples who made marriage commitments before knowing if they were sexually compatible. In some instances they adapted, or suffered in silence if they were not compatible. Most people who find themselves in a relationship that is not mutually compatible will end in separation, and rightfully so.
The old laws of morality have (or should have by now) fallen along the wayside when it comes to relations outside of marriage.
Also, those who think that two people living together without marriage is immoral have no business judging others, so their thoughts or opinions should be of little, or no, consequence anyway.
I would suggest that the moral issue of two people living together is less of a problem than the practical issue. What I mean is, that when you are simply dating someone and choose to live with them, like any married couple, you'll have disagreements. There are things that you won't like about each other. Often times when people are simply dating, it's easier to just leave. You don't have the sample level of commitment, whether you look at it from a financial, legal or religious standpoint...it's not the same. And I think many relationships fail because people don't put in the time to work through their problems. The fact that they are dating is an easy exit strategy. The fact that you're not married is sometimes a subconscious trump card in your back pocket that hurts the relationship.
When you're married, it's not so easy to just pack up and leave. And couples are forced to face issues and compromise in ways they might not have to if they were just living together. Every couple will have problems, no matter how perfect they are for each other. And every couple will have some hellacious arguments. But being married means that when you go out for a walk, or a drink at the local bar to calm down, at the end of the night...you have to go home. I am not talking about abusive relationships. Clearly, even when you are married there can be circumstances where the problems can't be fixed. But I have just seen too many relationships where people genuinely loved each other fail because it was easy to give up and not face your problems. And most of the time those same problems will come up with the next relationship.
I would never want my children to move in with someone. Rather just take your time and make sure you're not rushing into what should be a life long commitment. As my mother in-law used to say...Why by the cow when you can get the milk for free.
Thanks. You have really touched many aspect of the subject and explained everything in an intelligent manner. Your views may be eye opening for many in countries where live-in relationship is not common.
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