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How other think of you affects your thinking?

  1. kknde profile image60
    kkndeposted 4 years ago

    How other think of you affects your thinking?

    How other think of us may affect our day to day life

  2. loveofnight profile image79
    loveofnightposted 4 years ago

    I believe that it only effects us because we want to be accepted. No one wants to feel like an outcast or judged. The thing that we have to accept is that everyone is not going to like you. It does not have to be something that we did, they simply don't like you. I had that experience with a co-worker who did not like me on the very day that we met her. I could not understand what if anything that I did to this person to make them feel that way. I even felt uncomfortable around them because I knew the way that they felt and I even spoke with them about it. In the end I had to except one thing and one thing only and that is that everyone is not going to like me and I needed to get over it. So I moved on.

  3. Darksage profile image76
    Darksageposted 4 years ago

    Personally, I think that people affect us, change us, and make us the way we are now. These "other" people set a foundation of our morals, of our way of thinking and    of course, undeniably, they also set our choices, may they be good or bad. The choices we make can't be fully for our own selves, even how selfish one person can be, that person can't make a decision only made for himself/herself, on the way that choice is affected by experiences with others. A lot of people can change lives easily  it is the power of an individual to change others, may it be small or big. So the way that others think of us fully affect our day to day life.

  4. thomasczech profile image64
    thomasczechposted 4 years ago

    I have never been a person to care what others think of me. How others view me or what they think of me is beyond my control, I will not change for anyone. This does not mean that I will not be open to correction, but I will live as I see fit and think that way also. However, that being said, many people do care how others view them so they will change what they think and how they think to please others and to fit in. Peer pressure can be powerful. But giving in, people will lose their own identity which is sad.

  5. cebutouristspot profile image74
    cebutouristspotposted 4 years ago

    I dont let what people think of me affect me in anyway.  I learn long time ago that there is nothing you can do to please everybody.  So why worry about it.  Just live your life by treating people the way you want to be treated.  If they like it good if they dont then thats their problem

  6. RealityTalk profile image61
    RealityTalkposted 4 years ago

    Depends.  If someone has something constructive to offer, I will gladly incorporate their opinions into my thinking.  If only a personal negative attack, I merely feel sorry for them as they show themselves as insecure or hateful or jealous or all of the aforementioned and possibly more.

    I understand it is difficult for most to accept and or not be affected by how others think of them.  Most people will change their way of thinking and whore themselves to the generally accepted way of thinking to be accepted by the masses.  Even many of the most famous and the most intelligent beings to ever have lived on this planet have whored themselves to the general population's way of thinking to be accepted.  Politicians, companies, religious leaders, musicians, actors, scientists to name just a few professions.  Their fear being one of being socially or financially ostracized and or abandoned otherwise.

    Many famous individuals who have refused to allow their way of thinking to be affected by others have gone on to become martyrs only really being accepted for their way of thinking after death or after enduring years of social or physical torture before affecting change of others way of thinking.

    I believe it shows strength of character and a personal security in oneself to not be affected by anything not constructive aimed ones way.  But, if constructive, I believe one should rethink; that is how we grow.

  7. ChristinS profile image94
    ChristinSposted 4 years ago

    Only if you allow it to. Coming from a past of dealing with bullies and verbal abuse growing up, I can tell you it did shape who I was for a long time - and not for the better. However, I came to a place in my life where I started focusing on personal reflection, building myself back up and eventually I got to a place where I will not accept other people's opinions with a higher regard than my own.  I love and accept myself for who I am and it is a very liberating and healing experience. 

    People tend to not understand that how they speak does change how young people especially know and value themselves.  The whole words hit harder than fists thing.  That being said, ultimately we are responsible for what we allow to effect us though - so I take the praise with gratitude, accept constructive criticism as a lesson, and anything that is less than respectful I let roll off. Life's too short to give other people power over our destiny.

  8. Ericdierker profile image52
    Ericdierkerposted 4 years ago

    This question is awesome. The answer should be changing with growth for all of us. As immature people it is important for us to get along with others. It teaches us how not to hurt others feelings and the joy in making others happy. As we mature it is normal to worry about what others think. How others view us often determines our own happiness. Call it co-dependency or not. It just is a fact in our teen to young adult lives.
    This hopefully teaches us how to follow directions and obey those we should and be able to perform a job, or get good grades. A right answer on a test or to a boss, is not necessarily the truth, but what the teacher and boss want to hear. Hopefully they are the same but not always.
    In later adult life it is a tool for achieving. We are all baby salesmen no matter what walk of life we are in. Knowing what others think of us, allows us a most powerful tool in getting that person to act as we want. Call it manipulation if you care to.
    So some people, based on what they think of me, I will intimidate, others bribe and still others avoid. But I must say that I no longer buy clothes and cars so as to impress them. Now I worry more about if they think I am honest, trustworthy and loving. And if I get the sense many think otherwise. I look at myself and see what I should change.
    So I hope what other's think affects people. And I hope it does not equate to a lifetime trying to seek other's approval. That is a bad road to follow as it is a dead end.

    1. kknde profile image60
      kkndeposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very nice comment and complete one..Yes we should consider what other think, but this should not define us.

    2. Ericdierker profile image52
      Ericdierkerposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I think we owe to younger people to help them see this notion for what it is. Take it out of the boogie man place. Ignoring it hurts us. Understanding it makes us better. Thanks again for this important question.

  9. ieschiefengineer profile image60
    ieschiefengineerposted 4 years ago

    Superb question. Well most of the people make themselves as other thinks about them.Before two years I was in same position but now I started my life according to me and i am very happy with it.
    At last I would like to suggest my readers and visitors to do the things according to them and I can asserts that they will be surprised by the results. It will bring so much happyness in their life what they never imagine...........

  10. Wayne Brown profile image85
    Wayne Brownposted 4 years ago

    A good rule of thumb is to "think with your brain" and not your heart.  The opinion of others is important to me but I do not let those opinions shape my own for the sake of being "part of the herd" unless they make good sense.  "Common sense" and "2+2=4", I find, are the best rationale in forming my own position on things.  Conclusions are relatively easy...it is the explanations which are offered that become difficult and bear watching.  Sometimes our points of view leave us with few supporters.  Some folks are not comfortable in that environment thus their desire to be "in the herd" overwhelms their sense of reason.

  11. Diana Lee profile image83
    Diana Leeposted 4 years ago

    Yes, I think what others think of us does affect our thinking.  Should we let it bother us?  Probably not, but it's hard to shut off our minds when our heart tells us not to.